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Is it ok?
Is it okey to have someone special in your heart still? Ok I still love this guy and I can't never get over him .. I know I'm not the best looking girl or thin chick . But I knew the first time I met him I didn't amazed him yeah I know. I knew I would never win him because he ha two kids I didn't know at first because he didn't tell me it broke my heart but I was desperate and gave him another chance so we end up growing a strong connection in 2013 I thought he was the one for me . Then he went back to his city in 2014 thinking we still make it work ha it was a complete disaster. Texting his phone for 3 months no answer I started getting anxious thinking something happened to him . Months pass by nothing still. I knew where he stays I took a trip to his home town but I didn't go to his house but stay on the street to see if he would ever comes out ..no signs. I went crazy I wasn't his friend on Facebook I didn't wana add him so I would wait till he change a profile pic just to see he was still alive he was. I got into my deep feelings where I want to hurt him cuz I was hurting so I listen to bust your windows did I have the balls to do it . Yes so in August I took a stick and went out there and bust his bmw .. And later made a fake fb profile and told him I did it .. He said he forgive me and still love me . It's 2015 I'm growing to love him even more . Where I'm afraid to be with someone else cuz I feel I can't love no one nomore . And starting to have sex with random people and let them take a advantage of me because I don't know what love is nomore . I'm still hurt because I love this guy so much I knew I wasn't pretty thin enough but he never give me a chance to show him what I could do . And the fact that I still love him and care so much on his about.hes on the other town having fun ..
Healthy, loving relationships are based on trust and communication, you and this boy don't have either. For this reason alone you need to move on. This is toxic and will remain toxix.
Sweetie, I think you are afraid of hearing what you already know to be true. He lied to you, used you, and ghosted on you. He never cared for you. This tells me he is an immature jerk. No guy worth your time does that. No one who truly loves you will ever do that. EVER.
Now for you. You need to get yourself together. Your behavior could land you in legal trouble. Destruction of property is serious. He could file a restraining order against you. Not cool.
There are good men out there that don't care about a woman looking conventionally pretty. But those men will NOT date a woman who is super insecure and violent. Loving stable people hook up with loving stable people.
Please seek professional help. Work through all of these negative stuff you are experiencing. When your healthy and happy I am sure you will find some one a thousand times better than this Fuq boy.
Sweetie, I think you are afraid of hearing what you already know to be true. He lied to you, used you, and ghosted on you. He never cared for you. This tells me he is an immature jerk. No guy worth your time does that. No one who truly loves you will ever do that. EVER.
Now for you. You need to get yourself together. Your behavior could land you in legal trouble. Destruction of property is serious. He could file a restraining order against you. Not cool.
There are good men out there that don't care about a woman looking conventionally pretty. But those men will NOT date a woman who is super insecure and violent. Loving stable people hook up with loving stable people.
Please seek professional help. Work through all of these negative stuff you are experiencing. When your healthy and happy I am sure you will find some one a thousand times better than this Fuq boy.
You are correct.........I'm not in your shoes, so I can clearly see the situation because I'm not in the situation whereas you can't. This all boils down to how you feel about yourself and it isn't good. You need to get to a place where it is good. I hope and pray you find that place FAST.
"Ok aboutthe kids who have their parents killing for nothing? What about the lady who killed her kid because the child couldn't be potty train ? Did the child ask to be killed."...............What about them? They aren't posting here; you are dear. It just isn't right to bring a child here into a terrible and unstable situation. The child deserves a mother who is together; not a mother who is out of control. I am advocating for the child most definitely. Please do not do this to a child.
I don't know you to judge you. I based my response on the bits of info YOU have provided.about your situation.
Stalking would include:
"Months pass by nothing still. I knew where he stays I took a trip to his home town but I didn't go to his house but stay on the street to see if he would ever comes out ..no signs"
"I went crazy I wasn't his friend on Facebook I didn't wana add him so I would wait till he change a profile pic just to see he was still alive he was"
Not being pretty and thin enough isn't the problem here for sure and that doesn't keep a guy around either.
Ask yourself this: Why I am still in love with guy who could care less about me? Why am I so quick to let men use and take advantage of me?
This is just sad..........really is.
I do wish you all the best figuring this out. You have a lot of soul-searching to do.
"Ok aboutthe kids who have their parents killing for nothing? What about the lady who killed her kid because the child couldn't be potty train ? Did the child ask to be killed."...............What about them? They aren't posting here; you are dear. It just isn't right to bring a child here into a terrible and unstable situation. The child deserves a mother who is together; not a mother who is out of control. I am advocating for the child most definitely. Please do not do this to a child.
I don't know you to judge you. I based my response on the bits of info YOU have provided.about your situation.
Stalking would include:
"Months pass by nothing still. I knew where he stays I took a trip to his home town but I didn't go to his house but stay on the street to see if he would ever comes out ..no signs"
"I went crazy I wasn't his friend on Facebook I didn't wana add him so I would wait till he change a profile pic just to see he was still alive he was"
Not being pretty and thin enough isn't the problem here for sure and that doesn't keep a guy around either.
Ask yourself this: Why I am still in love with guy who could care less about me? Why am I so quick to let men use and take advantage of me?
This is just sad..........really is.
I do wish you all the best figuring this out. You have a lot of soul-searching to do.
lol your not in my shoes. Ok aboutthe kids who have their parents killing for nothing? What about the lady who killed her kid because the child couldn't be potty train ? Did the child ask to be killed.. Stalking ? I said I didn't hear from him 3 months would you go with 3 months not hearing from your love ones. You quick to judge.. But thank you for your opinion
"Is it okey to have someone special in your heart still?................Yes, BUT that's if he was special. After reading your post I can't really see how he was "special." Why would he have a place in your heart after he treated you so badly? Is this someone who should have a place in your heart? If it is then I would says that says a lot about YOU.
Then YOU:
were texting him for months, proceeded with stalking him, smashed out his car windows, made a fake FB profile confessing to smashing out his car window, etc................Hon, you really need help.
This post is REALLY sad and disturbing. I also saw another post stating you are trying to get pregnant. Are you serious?
Do you have any supportive family and/or friends? You need to seek counseling as soon as possible to sort YOU out. You are completely out of control.
This guy wasn't/isn't Mr. Wonderful, but your behavior is really, really, really NOT healthy and pretty scary. Some of this behavior was criminal. Tons of anger coming from this post.
Instead of asking is it "ok" to have someone special in your heart still, ask yourself......."Am I ok?"
GET yourself help before you land yourself in jail or contract HIV/HepB/Herpes (STDs) from sleeping around with random guys. Heaven forbid you get pregnant as NO child deserves to be brought into this HOT mess.
Then YOU:
were texting him for months, proceeded with stalking him, smashed out his car windows, made a fake FB profile confessing to smashing out his car window, etc................Hon, you really need help.
This post is REALLY sad and disturbing. I also saw another post stating you are trying to get pregnant. Are you serious?
Do you have any supportive family and/or friends? You need to seek counseling as soon as possible to sort YOU out. You are completely out of control.
This guy wasn't/isn't Mr. Wonderful, but your behavior is really, really, really NOT healthy and pretty scary. Some of this behavior was criminal. Tons of anger coming from this post.
Instead of asking is it "ok" to have someone special in your heart still, ask yourself......."Am I ok?"
GET yourself help before you land yourself in jail or contract HIV/HepB/Herpes (STDs) from sleeping around with random guys. Heaven forbid you get pregnant as NO child deserves to be brought into this HOT mess.
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