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Is it still abuse...
I know some people arent morning people, but when they are emotionally mean to you is it still a type of abouse? He says really hurtful mean things to me.
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973741 tn?1342346373
Hi there.  Well, what types of things does he say?  I remember when I first got married . . .  our first mornings together.  We'd never lived together beforehand and I would start chattering away at him. . . and he finally turned to me and said "could we just not chat in the morning?".  We still laugh about it. He really isn't a morning person at all.  I'm not really either so we save idle conversation for other parts of the day and keep morning discussion to things we have to talk about for the day.  

I don't think anyone has a right to be mean and abusive.  i do, however, get that some people are less sensitive in the morning.  But rude and nasty to you?  No.  Not okay.  (my opinion).  good luck
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Mean and nasty is what I get some of the time, name calling like c*nt, and stuff like that.. I hate it, and though it doesnt happen all the time it hurts so much more than I can explain.. I mean I love this man, but I am not going to go through this.. Thanks or your thoughts on it and you have given me somethings to consider.. Thank you
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973741 tn?1342346373
Never okay to call you that.  That's over the top and I'd draw a boundary very clearly right now.  You use that word . . . you sleeping in the driveway.  Doesn't matter if it is morning or not, one can't call names.  I mean, I'm sometimes not chipper in the am and my husband doesn't like to chit chat in the am but that is far different than calling your partner a vulgar name.  Draw a boundary and he lives up to it or I'd seriously consider that you made a mistake tying yourself to this kind of hot head of a man.  good luck dear
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I would completely agree with Specialmom.  Calling you that in the heat of an ugly argument would be bad enough - but calling you that out of the clear blue because he is grouchy in the morning is completely unacceptable.  
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If he's constantly putting you down, calling you names and just being a complete d-bag, that can be a form of emotional abuse. I've dealt with emotional abuse before and it just caused me to actually start BELIEVING what he was saying. You don't want your kids picking up on the nasty behavior and start thinking that it's okay for them to speak to you that way "because daddy does."
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