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Is she lying.
I was friends with this girl for a year before we went out. She was quite ill during the relationship, has been tested for cancer a few times till they eventually found out what was wrong with her. and it put pressure on our relationship and I felt like I couldn't handle it so I split up with her. We were sort of togehter after we broke up but then I started seeing someone else a few weeks later. I really like this new girl a lot. Anyway a few weeks later, she comes to me and tells me she's pregnant. She showed me the pregnancy test which she said she had taken before she left her house to come and see me and she said she'd be happy to take a pregnancy test in front of me, but by this time the stores were closed so we would have had to wait till tomorrow. I said I wouldn't believe anything till she had had a blood test and I wanted to be there when she had it done. But the next day she went to the doctors clinic to book it in and they said she could have it done straight away and I wasn't around.
Then she came over to my house and said she had the blood test, and also was feeling confused because she came on her period. but it was really light.
Then that evening the doctor phoned her and said that there were really small traces of the pregnancy hormone in her body and thought she may have suffered a chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage that u don't realise is happening basically) but she would need an ultrasound to confirm it. She immeditely sent me a text explaining what the doctor had said, and asked me if I wanted to go to the doctor with her to have an ultrasound to find out what was going on. I said no because I didn't believe her. Then she had a go at me when she saw me, saying this was both our mess regardless, and she wanted my support through it because she wanted me to take responsibility too. The next day she mailed me doctors letters proving what happened and also gave me the number of a friend who was there when she took one of the pregnancy tests, to prove it had turned positive within minutes. I dont know what to do. She has been quite ill this year, and i have been to the hospital with her a few times when we were sitll going out when she needed to go, so it does seem like a coincidence. can anyone offer advice,?
Then she came over to my house and said she had the blood test, and also was feeling confused because she came on her period. but it was really light.
Then that evening the doctor phoned her and said that there were really small traces of the pregnancy hormone in her body and thought she may have suffered a chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage that u don't realise is happening basically) but she would need an ultrasound to confirm it. She immeditely sent me a text explaining what the doctor had said, and asked me if I wanted to go to the doctor with her to have an ultrasound to find out what was going on. I said no because I didn't believe her. Then she had a go at me when she saw me, saying this was both our mess regardless, and she wanted my support through it because she wanted me to take responsibility too. The next day she mailed me doctors letters proving what happened and also gave me the number of a friend who was there when she took one of the pregnancy tests, to prove it had turned positive within minutes. I dont know what to do. She has been quite ill this year, and i have been to the hospital with her a few times when we were sitll going out when she needed to go, so it does seem like a coincidence. can anyone offer advice,?
Whatever lets you sleep at night. If you didn't like our answers and you choose to believe what you want to believe than why ask? This girl is lucky to have you out of her life for good now.
Whether or not she's lied in the past doesn't mean she lied about being pregnant and losing the baby. I don't see someone going THAT FAR to prove it. She gave you everything you asked for and you still deny it. It's over and done with now and there is no need to continue to dwell on it.
You've moved on with a new girl, so don't continue to worry about it unless you still have feelings for the ex. I get that you want to know if you were played for a fool. She gave you all the proof you asked for and it wasn't enough. Unfortunately you may never know. Hopefully you can accept it and move on. Focus on making your new relationship work and forget about the past. You can't change it and there's nothing else tying you to the ex now.
You've moved on with a new girl, so don't continue to worry about it unless you still have feelings for the ex. I get that you want to know if you were played for a fool. She gave you all the proof you asked for and it wasn't enough. Unfortunately you may never know. Hopefully you can accept it and move on. Focus on making your new relationship work and forget about the past. You can't change it and there's nothing else tying you to the ex now.
she's had the reputation of being a liar from being ill this year it doesnt all add up thats all im saying. a doctors note could easily be forged!
well since she's a big girl she doesn't need you holding her hand at the doctors appointment. if she had paperwork what isn't there to believe? you can't forge paperwork. quit feeling sorry for yourself.
the thing is, its very hard for me to believe her since I wasnt there when she had the blood test and she knew i wanted to be. secondly since i didnt hear anything with my own ears, it's difficult to believe if its true or not
so you want people to tell you what you want to hear so YOU feel better? is it possible for her to have a miscarriage that soon after taking a pregnancy test...yes it is. a chemical pregnancy just happens as do miscarriages. they could takes hours, days or weeks to pass. if you are searching for sympathy for dumping your pregnant g/f who is sick...you're not going to get it here. and if she's given you proof that YES she was pregnant and then YES she did loose the baby why all the doubt? she's obviously going through a horrible time this year and you are just adding to it. did you know extra stress can cause a woman to loose a baby? quit trying to feel bad for yourself and start having some sympathy for this poor woman before karma comes back to bite you in the a$$.
Dude get over your self already. There are many women ttc and when they get a BFP only to turn around and lose the baby a day or two later it cuts them deep. Face it she was pregnant and then lost the baby a day after she found out. Did you goggle chemical pregnancy? Why does it bother you so much? All of us know the answer its bc you are and have been a big fat jerk to this women when she needed you the most. Do her a favor and exit out of her life at least give her a chance to heal herself from the hurt and pain that you caused. P.S. Most women that lie about being pregnant don't say the lost the baby the next day then actually go have an u/s (that costs plenty of money) to show that they were miscarrying and then bring home a Dr.'s note. Thats to much trouble for nothing, I have to wonder did you run your thoughts past your new gf and she is making you doubt your ex. Just a thought.
Seriously, this isn't healthy. If you have moved on, forget about it. Yes, women CAN have periods and still be pregnant. Yes, Dr. offices CAN call at 7 am but if you doubt it, call them for yourself if you are that stuck on finding out if she's lying or not.
What does your new GF think of all this? Does she know you are on here seeking advice about this situation? If so, what does she think about it?
What does your new GF think of all this? Does she know you are on here seeking advice about this situation? If so, what does she think about it?
"I guess i'm just trying to convince myself she's lying because its easier on me, i feel horrible. When we were together she used to get ill with an assortment of different symptoms so her friends didnt believe her illness. I did because her blood test results and urine samples are coming back abnormal and plus shes meant to be having an operation soon but i want to distance myself and forget about her and concentrate on my new girlfriend. I know im really horrible."
These are your words. Stop trying to convince yourself that she's lying.
These are your words. Stop trying to convince yourself that she's lying.
Is she lying?
Is she not lying?
What does it matter?
You've already dumped her and took up with "someone else a few weeks later."
A bit soon after the break-up, I would say.
Is she not lying?
What does it matter?
You've already dumped her and took up with "someone else a few weeks later."
A bit soon after the break-up, I would say.
But isn't it a coincidence- Sunday the pregnancy test was taken, - positive. Monday she had a blood test, came on her period and by 7pm the doctors phone her to tell her there are limited amounts of hCG in her blood so its unlikely shes still pregnant because of how small the amounts are. What doctors lab rings at 7pm with blood test results of that morning???
Ok ladies (all my above, beloved buddies on advise)...I'M DONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can't handle another one of these...2-3 in a week is just too much to repeat not to say the fustration...AHHHHHH (pulling my hair).
Why do you have to treat her badly in order to concentrate on a new relationship? You don't have to be with her but you don't have to make her feel like total sh!t either. Wish her the best, tell her you believe her and are sorry for the baby. You never meant to hurt her at all and that you want nothing more than for her to move on and be happy. That doesn't make you a horrible person but by treating her poorly, that does make you a horrible person. You can show compassion yet keep your distance.
Yeah, I kinda have to agree with you on that one! No one is believing that she's sick, but she's having an operation! What does it take to get you guys, people that are supposed to be her FRIENDS, to believe she's sick? Does she need to literally cough up a lung in front of ya'll or what! LOL!!
I guess i'm just trying to convince myself she's lying because its easier on me, i feel horrible. When we were together she used to get ill with an assortment of different symptoms so her friends didnt believe her illness. I did because her blood test results and urine samples are coming back abnormal and plus shes meant to be having an operation soon but i want to distance myself and forget about her and concentrate on my new girlfriend. I know im really horrible.
BTW...here's the link the other guy Judy was referring to...
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Relationships/Claiming-she-is-pregnant--is-she-lying-what-do-I-do/show/977695
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Relationships/Claiming-she-is-pregnant--is-she-lying-what-do-I-do/show/977695
A pregnancy test will not show a positive reading only after 10 minutes. The answer is no.
Well after a period of time the other line could be considered an evaporation line. I don't think she would go to all of the trouble to forge a doctor's note. Look there is no baby anymore, so there doesn't need to be full scrutiny to whether she's lying or not lying. You already chose not to support her so then what more advice do you need? Just believe her and send her some flowers with a card that says, sorry that I wasn't there for you and I only wish you the best. Leave it like that. So this way you can clear your conscience and so she has some faith left in men. Doesn't need to be any more between you and her but why leave it on such bad terms.
No i mean can pregnancy tests go positive after ten minutes of being peed on not 10 mins after sex
Hi Judy, where is the link to the other guy on the forum?? At first I spoke to her about what we would do when she initially did the HPT but was reluctant to speak about it further till the blood test which I wanted to be present for and she knew this.
The next day after she told me she took the HPT, that evening was when she said she lost the baby due to a chemical pregnancy and that's when I said I didnt believe her, because everything happened way too fast. I didnt wanna go waste my time with her to the ultrasound appointment which she had booked to confrim thats what happened, Ive seen doctors letters which say thats what happened but I dunno if they can be forged.
The next day after she told me she took the HPT, that evening was when she said she lost the baby due to a chemical pregnancy and that's when I said I didnt believe her, because everything happened way too fast. I didnt wanna go waste my time with her to the ultrasound appointment which she had booked to confrim thats what happened, Ive seen doctors letters which say thats what happened but I dunno if they can be forged.
It's illegal to forge a doctor's signature. She can go to jail. The only way to tamper with a pregnancy test if to have someone else's urine. No, it's to early to tell if you are pregnant 10 min after sex. Never heard of that.
do u think a doctors note could be forged?? and also is it true pregnancy tests go positive after 10 minutes? She did show me the pregnancy test with 2 lines but i dunno if they can be tampered with.
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