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Is she lying about being pregnant?

ok, here goes. i was hanging out with a girl for a while. it slowly drifted off to nothing. she continued to text me every once in a while. just, hey whats up? hows it going? that sort of stuff. she texts me 2 days ago says shes sitting around drinking gin, wants to hang out. i dont reply. she texts again last night. wants to hang out. i said i didnt want to. we have a 30 message long text. i decide to be honest about why i dont want to hang out. i tell her i have a new girlfriend. she lols and we trade about 5 more texts. she asks who it is, i tell her (they know each other). then, and only then, does she decide to tell me shes pregnant. i ask why shes pregnant and drinking gin. she says that was a lie and she wanted an excuse to talk to me. i happen to like gin and she knows it.  i call her immediately. i tell her i will do what ever she wants to do. she said she took a home test that was positive and she does not want to keep it. i said i will support her decision. i ask her if she has made a dr appointment. she says yes. i say we need to do that ASAP. she says she wants to get the abortion pill. i said i would give her money, and take her to the dr, or what ever i can do. she hesitates. then she says she didnt make an appointment.  i say lets make one. she hesitates. i ask what i can do. she says nothing. i say lets go to dr. together she says no. i say i want to see the the positive results from the test or from the dr. she says no. she says thats none of my business. i say it is exactly 1/2 my business. she disagrees and refuses to show the test information. i say in order to get the abortion, she has to be pregnant first, and there has to be a way to prove it. she says she wont show me anything from the dr. or any test results. then she tells me not to worry about it and she will figure it out. today she texts me and says im a **** and is deleting me from her phone and never wants to speak to me again. she has a long history of lying. a very long history. this just doesnt add up in my eyes.

TLDR
a girl says shes pregnant but refuses to prove it. she tells me only after we break up and i start dating another girl. i ask her for proof and tell her i will support her decision. she says she doesnt need to show me anything, no tests, no dr stuff. today she tells me she never wants to talk to me ever again.
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She is lying.
Dont believe her at all until she proves it. Girls just come up with the most ridiculous sh!t ever after a break up!
If she tries talking to you again, send her a text saying she needs to prove it, other than that to dont talk to you if she has nothing to prove.
Tell her you've moved on. If she keeps bothering block her number or change your number. Good luck :)
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i have asked her about 10 times to prove it. i am now receiving texts that say "youre off the hook" , "forget about it", "im too busy to take a test today", "i just want you to leave me alone" "good luck with your new girlfriend" this is bullcrap man. when i say can you prove it i dont get a yes or no answer. this chick is crazy. it dosent add up, it makes no sense. if i was pregnant and didnt want a child, i would be doing everything possible as soon as possible. this doesnt add up.
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now she says "maybe it was false positive, leave em alone, im going to walk my dog" are you serious? please tell me that this seems like as much bullsh@t to you as does to me.
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i mean cmon, if ask her to prove it, because i have obvious doubts, wouldnt it make sense for her to march over here and throw a positive test result in my face? i mean i think thats what i would do. any ladies have an opinion on this? help please.
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You've stepped "up to the plate" by offering help and support.  You have been willing to take responsibility.  It is not unreasonable for You to go to the doctor with Her or to see a positive pregnancy test.  Her responses to You are suspicious and I doubt She is pregnant.  She sounds more than a bit "flaky" to me.
If I were You I would cut all communication with Her.  If one day She appears with a Baby, ask for a DNA and if the Baby is Yours do Your part at that time.

P.S.
Maybe it's a good idea not to have sex with SomeOne You're not in love with.
If a Baby results from two People who Love One Another, pregnancy (planned or not) would not be a delimma....just saying.  
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Be glad that you are RID of her.  She sounds like she needs some serious help.

Delete her number and be done.  She's playing games.  
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To Add:  I would save sex for the "real" relationships, not "hang-outs."
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thank you all for the comments and support. i sat in front of her house for an hour until she let me in. i had 3 pregnancy tests with me. she drank water until she had to pee. put it in a glass, gross i know, did the dipping and testing myself. 3 tests, 3 negative results. 1 was digital. as far as i can tell i have a better chance of winning the lottery than having all 3 return a false negative. she said she took one 3 days ago and it was positive. lying, crazy, insane lady. feeling much better now about the situation. and a bit drunk too. thanks for your help and insight. THANK YOU.
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and youre right, i didnt wrap it and i should have, lesson learned the hard way. and i shouldnt do it to ladies i dont love. sounds cheesey i know, but i mean it. i really do love this lady im with now. we were together in the past but i blew it due to my own idiocy. and im pretty sure she loves me that much too. wish me luck and hopefully this is the last time i will have to turn to anons on the internets to help me figure out my sorry a$$ problems. thanks again. im going to continue my celebratory drinking, with my wiener safely in my pants. thanks again.
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Sounds like you have learned a valuable lesson.

All the best.
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I'm surprised she allowed you to test her.  This question is really quite common on this forum,  right down to all the details about breaking up and ignoring texts,  etc.,   and I've not yet seen a man able to make a woman take a home pregnancy test in front of him.

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Im a girl, im pregnant, shes mad as **** at u and she thought that she could trap u, u dis what u had to do save the messages just in case
She trys to pull some crap about u didnt try to
Help her out
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