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Is she really pregnat?
Sorry, this ended up A LOT longer than I thought it was going to be, but please help if you can.
So, here is my complicated situation. I have been seeing this girl for about 2 months, but we first had sex on 1/2/2010. This was the first day after her period. It was unprotected, but I've always been told that I can't have a baby the normal way, due to the fact that I went through chemotherapy when I was 18. I'm currently 27 and we have had unprotected sex multiple times since the first time. I haven't "pulled out", due to the fact that I was told I would not be fertil after the chemo. She is not on birth control. She told me after about 2-3 weeks after the first few times we had sex that she felt ill and that her breast were very sensative. She didn't allways feel sick, just some days. The breast pain went away, but she did have flue like symptoms, which i read that some women have and don't realize they are pregnant. Never the less, we continued to have unprotected sex, and she said she had her period, ( the first one, since we started having sex) but I did read that some women think they are having their period when they are actually pregnant, but it really isn't their period, it's just bleeding. I know this is not normal for all women, but I've been reading A LOT on the internet, and I need some more information. Here is where I need the help. We ended up getting in an argument at a bar, and I OVER REACTED and walked out of the bar on her. Needless to say she was pissed. I was a complete *** for doing what I did, and she was not happy with me. She told my friends, that showed up at the bar later, that she was done with me. When they told me this the next day I got her stuff from my house, because I was so hurt, and took it to her/her mom's house. I had a pregnancy test that I had bought from when she first told me she thought she was pregnant, but did not want to ask her to take it until she, or if she, missed her period & put that in the bag as well. She was obviously not happy about that either. She ended up texting me later that night saying that she was pissed at what I did. I appoligized and said that I knew that it didn't change things, but I was sorry. I really hurt her, and it wasn't intentional, but I did. Anyway, the next day I felt like a HUGE ***, and went to her house to appoigize. To my amazement she actually let me appoligize in person. I felt like an appology over the phone or text is nothing, and I felt like saying I was sorry in-person would prove that I really was sorry. Later that night she texted me saying hi. I said hi back and asked her what she was up to. She said she was working, and I asked her if I could call her. She said she wasn't in a real good mood, which I expected since I was rude to her. I said sorry, and she said thanks. I said that I would like to talk on the phone and she said to give her a few min, she has a terrible stomach ache due to the positive test result she got back. ( The home pregnancy test I put in the bag of her stuff I left at her house.) I asked her if she was serious, and she said that yes the test came back positive. She said that she is going to take it again in the next few days. Do you think she is actually pregnant? I love this girl with all my heart and she has never lied to me, so I don't think that she would lie. It's not like I told her I don't want anything to do with her, so it isn't like she would be lying to try to keep me around, because I do want to be around her. I love her. any imput would be appreceated.
So, here is my complicated situation. I have been seeing this girl for about 2 months, but we first had sex on 1/2/2010. This was the first day after her period. It was unprotected, but I've always been told that I can't have a baby the normal way, due to the fact that I went through chemotherapy when I was 18. I'm currently 27 and we have had unprotected sex multiple times since the first time. I haven't "pulled out", due to the fact that I was told I would not be fertil after the chemo. She is not on birth control. She told me after about 2-3 weeks after the first few times we had sex that she felt ill and that her breast were very sensative. She didn't allways feel sick, just some days. The breast pain went away, but she did have flue like symptoms, which i read that some women have and don't realize they are pregnant. Never the less, we continued to have unprotected sex, and she said she had her period, ( the first one, since we started having sex) but I did read that some women think they are having their period when they are actually pregnant, but it really isn't their period, it's just bleeding. I know this is not normal for all women, but I've been reading A LOT on the internet, and I need some more information. Here is where I need the help. We ended up getting in an argument at a bar, and I OVER REACTED and walked out of the bar on her. Needless to say she was pissed. I was a complete *** for doing what I did, and she was not happy with me. She told my friends, that showed up at the bar later, that she was done with me. When they told me this the next day I got her stuff from my house, because I was so hurt, and took it to her/her mom's house. I had a pregnancy test that I had bought from when she first told me she thought she was pregnant, but did not want to ask her to take it until she, or if she, missed her period & put that in the bag as well. She was obviously not happy about that either. She ended up texting me later that night saying that she was pissed at what I did. I appoligized and said that I knew that it didn't change things, but I was sorry. I really hurt her, and it wasn't intentional, but I did. Anyway, the next day I felt like a HUGE ***, and went to her house to appoigize. To my amazement she actually let me appoligize in person. I felt like an appology over the phone or text is nothing, and I felt like saying I was sorry in-person would prove that I really was sorry. Later that night she texted me saying hi. I said hi back and asked her what she was up to. She said she was working, and I asked her if I could call her. She said she wasn't in a real good mood, which I expected since I was rude to her. I said sorry, and she said thanks. I said that I would like to talk on the phone and she said to give her a few min, she has a terrible stomach ache due to the positive test result she got back. ( The home pregnancy test I put in the bag of her stuff I left at her house.) I asked her if she was serious, and she said that yes the test came back positive. She said that she is going to take it again in the next few days. Do you think she is actually pregnant? I love this girl with all my heart and she has never lied to me, so I don't think that she would lie. It's not like I told her I don't want anything to do with her, so it isn't like she would be lying to try to keep me around, because I do want to be around her. I love her. any imput would be appreceated.
I'm not so sure she is pregnant. I'm thinking she wanted to see what kind of reaction she'd get out of you because of the fight. If she really thought she was pregnant, SHE would've been the one to go get a test and hopefully talked to you about it first. You put a test in the bag and why would she take it if she didn't think she was pregnant? That doesn't make sense to me. Regardless, she needs to go to her OBGYN for confirmation either way and you need to be there as well.
I hope it all works out for you both...
I hope it all works out for you both...
if she's doubting the hpt she could always go to her ob or a clinic for a blood test.
she may just be scared. i know when i found out i was pregnant i was absolutely terrified and dh and i were trying. (even though i was told i couldn't get pregnant we figured why not try. what could that hurt) all you can do right now is be there for her. support her, go with her to the appointments, help her pick out stuff for the baby and when she's ready she'll talk relationship with you. her hormones are probably starting to go crazy and all that. (i could go from happy to crying within a few seconds...lol)
she may just be scared. i know when i found out i was pregnant i was absolutely terrified and dh and i were trying. (even though i was told i couldn't get pregnant we figured why not try. what could that hurt) all you can do right now is be there for her. support her, go with her to the appointments, help her pick out stuff for the baby and when she's ready she'll talk relationship with you. her hormones are probably starting to go crazy and all that. (i could go from happy to crying within a few seconds...lol)
No, I never did get my semen tested after I was done with my chemotherapy, due to the fact that I had semen frozen because they said I wouldn't be able to have kids. It was experimental treatment at the time, and thank god it worked, but I just figured they they were 100% right. I'm not doubting if the child would be mine or not, she is allways with me. It's just that after she told me that, I asked her a question. I asked her what she was going to do if she was pregnant. like, what did she want to happen between us. She asked me what I want, and I told her that I want us to be together, get married and have a happy family. She said that she wouldn't ever get one, but then said that she really didn't think that she was pregnant. She is pretty upset with me, and feels like I'm a complete a$$. Why, or how, could she tell me she got a positive on the test, but then say that she is sure she isn't pregnant? And she said that she has been sick, etc. So confused and scared. My parents got deforced when I was 5yo, and I never really had that FAMILY time, ya know. I just would never want that for another child. I want to be there to provide for her and the baby, if she does have it, I just don't know what exactly is going on, because of the fact that she is mad at me. thank you so much for your imput though!!!
if she got a positive hpt most likely yes.
was your semen tested? or are you going based on what a doctor says? unless your little swimmers were tested or to see if they are mobile ...it's entirely possible you can have children.
I was told from the time i was 18 until i got pregnant i could NEVER get pregnant. guess what...dh and i now have 18 month old twin boys. (and it took us the first week to get pregnant....he was in the marines and only home for 2 weeks, i got my positive the week after he went back to d.c.)
if you truly doubt the paternity of the child when s/he is born get a dna test done.
was your semen tested? or are you going based on what a doctor says? unless your little swimmers were tested or to see if they are mobile ...it's entirely possible you can have children.
I was told from the time i was 18 until i got pregnant i could NEVER get pregnant. guess what...dh and i now have 18 month old twin boys. (and it took us the first week to get pregnant....he was in the marines and only home for 2 weeks, i got my positive the week after he went back to d.c.)
if you truly doubt the paternity of the child when s/he is born get a dna test done.
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