Is their hope in my relationship ?

[Estrellax3]

Me & My boyfriend been together for 9 months. We met thanks to a friend i know & that he was really close with. When she found out that we were dating she was really mad and made up lies about me to make us break up. We were constanly fighting because of her. Now it has gotten worse she stop talking to him when he wouldnt break up with me like she adked hyn to. he says he cares about mend loves me but then other moments he says he loves her nd misses her but it hurts me when he says that. Should i leave him or not?

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, there are some issues here for sure.  Did she like him?  Did you know this?  Does he like her?  Have they dated?  That sure complicates things.  But bottom line, he's going back and forth which sets up a situation where your psyche wants to 'win' and is less able to make decisions based on reality of the guy.  So, I'd let him go.  Yes, agree that this sounds like drama.

Some situations are just not worth it.  If you are in love with him, tell him he must decide where he stands and be done with the back and forth.  good luck

[Estrellax3]

im 18 & his 20. their is times that ifeel we can work this out but other not at all.

[Londres70]

Well.....for starts it is obvious this girl isn't "just a friend" to him.  This guy sounds totally confused and you need to exit out of this. He might even enjoy the idea of two girls fighting over him.   Doesn't matter if you are a teen or an adult IMO.....leave.  

This is nothing more than drama and problems.  

Do you really want this for yourself?

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, just to confirm, he says he love her and you? If this is true, you need to find out what he means when he says he loves her.

[AnnieBrooke]

Are you guys really young?  This relationship sounds fraught with kind of ridiculous drama.  (One thing to take from this is that you shouldn't be dating anyone who has a close female friend until you know for sure what kind of relationship that is.)  I'd tell you to break it off if you were over 20, since it means the relationship is basically untrusting when there is all this fighting and conflict.  But if you're a teenager, ALL your relationships will be screwy for one reason or another, you're not going to act like adults because you are not.  So then your decision is whether to try to be serious with this guy or not. (He doesn't sound very serious about you.)