Is there hope?

[Buttercuppy]

Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 3 months and he breaks up with me on Thanksgiving. He hadn't really talked to me for about a week then said he didn't know what he wanted and he shouldn't be with me if he felt like that. Then he said he hadn't been happy for some time and we needed a long break and time for ourselves. He wouldn't say we would or would not get back together but he would say things like I'd be ok spending my life with you we just need time. So now he's turned to we're not meant to be, we're not right for each other, we can both find another person who cares for us more, and so forth and so on. However he wants to continue our sexual relationship. We still text here and there throughout the day, some days more than others. What I want to know is, guys maybe you can help me, if we continue our sexual relationship do you think we could end up back together? If anyone needs more background into it let me know and I'll be glad to share.

[imanaddict]

If you do decide to have a sexual relationship with him you are going to end up hurting more than ever. Cut your losses now and take his advice and find someone who is willing to be with you mind, body and soul.

[jo929]

The answer is no, your relationship is over as far as he is concerned, and if you are still sleeping with him, you are letting him use your body get your head together and think more of yourself and find someone who will think more of you than just a sex object. Remember he said you two were not meant to be, and you must start thinking that way also  luck   jo

[mami1323]

There isn't much more that I can say that these other ladies haven't already said.  I agree with them completely.  You never ever try to win an ex back with sex because the only thing that will happen is that you will get your hopes up and for nothing because he will only be using you for sex.  Also, by you going back and having sex you will only make it harder for you to move on.  Your feelings will get wrapped up in him still and you will keep up these expectations of you and him getting back together and be hurt each and every time you don't get what you want from him.  Plus, you can't just go from a full on relationship to just a booty call.  He won't treat you the same as he used to, he will treat you like a good time and that's it.  He won't stay to hang out with you, he won't cuddle you, he won't bring you to family functions or ask you out on dates, he won't hang out with you in front of his friends, he won't spend his weekends with you, he won't do anything a boyfriend does with his girlfriend.  You would have changed the dynamics of the relationship and you won't be satisfied with what you are given.  You shouldn't have to settle for anything.

[Judy246]

Ok, sweety. This guy is just not ready for either an exclusive or committed relationship, but he wants to have sex with you. In other words, "he wants his cake and eat it to"....I don't think so. As much as you love him, he loves you, but is not "in" love with you, so he will not be able to commit to you the way you want him to. I would like for you to accept what you can't change, but don't let him play these, maybe yes, or maybe no games. He's just not ready, so it's time for you to re-evaluate if this is the type of relationship you want to be in. You deserve to be treated with respect, dignity and appreciated for who you are. Love is simple and shouldn't hurt, so never settle for less and I promise that at the right time, place and when you least expected, Mr. Gorgeous Wonderful will be right round the corner thankful that this "little boy" is no longer in your life. There is a lot of life to live and it will happen I promise.  Judy

[teko]

Never has just a sexual relationship kept two people together. Sorry, he is using your body to satisfy his needs until someone else is available.  He doesnt want you long term and doesnt want to break it altogether until it suits him. Regain your self respect and send him packing, I am sure you can do better than him.  He has been clear of his expectations and if you continue to do this then, sorry, you cannot complain down the road. He warned you.

[specialmom]

Oh boy.  I'm sorry.  You probably aren't going to like my opinion.  But no.  Your boyfriend is being honest with you.  He doesn't see after 2 years that your relationship has the "stuff" to hold it together.  That he doesn't see it as good enough for a permanent arrangement.  He wants to have sex with you because he isn't with anyone else yet.

But do you think his sexual relationship with you will continue if he meets another woman and gets all ga ga for her?  Would you want it too?  

So, I think you have to let this go for now.  If he goes out into the world looking for true love and can't find it and decides you WERE it . . . maybe you'll get back together.  But don't count on it.  I hope by then that you've found someone that doesn't think he is settling by being with you (and hence, you aren't being loved as you deserve).  
Cutting ties is very difficult.  I know I can write this and not have to actually do it.  But there really is no writing between the lines here.  He says what he means.  He wants to have sex with you while he looks for someone else to be with for a relationship.  Don't do that to yourself.  Goodluck.