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It is ok?

I've been living with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He has the habit of ALWAYS touching my vagina (is how he wakes me up, he does it while we watch tv, cook, dress up, or walk) At the beginning it didn't bother me, because I thought it was part of the foreplaying. Now he does it so constantly that it irritates me.

I have spoken to him about it, but he says it's his way to cuddle me and to show his affection and that Im lucky for that. I have told him that I need other kind of affection too, like hugs and kisses. But he does not seem to understand.

This is really affecting our relationship in every level. Now he is upset with me, because I stop him everytime. I dont know what to do.
What can I do? Am I wrong?
Please help

Thank you
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he will soon come into his senses that he needs to respect what you want. make him understand that u feel uncomfortable when he touches your V when watching tv, cooking etc. we also do not know if he has a fettish with your V. for him he loves touching it but it doesnt mean he disrespects you as a woman. maybe for him, its really his way of showing his affection  and it maybe innate already. but things can be ironed out if you talk about this matter seriously. try talking to him again after a great sex, like while you are both resting, tell him he can do whatever he wants on your body ( if you are willing ) durng your intimate moments. but when your not in your " intimate moments", tell him you love being cuddled with hugs and kisses. set your rules. if he gets upset, its his problem not yours. if he continues, give him a taste of his own medicine. give space since its already affecting your relationship. maybe this is the only way for him to realize that he needs to respect what u want.
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Well it's your body and it should only ever be up to you what other people can do to it. He may be your boyfriend and he loves you but he should respect what you do want and don't want him doing.
Maybe tell him 'wouldn't it be nice to keep that area especially for intimate moments, rather than when we're doing things like TV watching??'
Tell him you're flattered and everything but you just don't want him doing that all the time. He'll get over being upset soon enough.
You should never feel forced to allow intimate areas to be touched or played with by your partner if you are unwilling. He really needs to respect your wishes on this.
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