I've started being very suspicious of my boyfriend and can't take it no more

[StupidlyStupid]

Well things really really bothered me last night, I know I should'nt but Iooked through his phone last night and I had to becasue he keeps getting these texts and then deletes them straight away (and they can't be texts from Orange and stuff because he keeps them in there) and anyway last night I looked through his phone and there was just all asian porn pictures on it, when we're both white? Why is that? Does he prefer Asians to me, and what bothers me is that there is a lot around the area that we live so should I feel paranoid? Anyway I also feel like he's hiding something, that there's somthing he is'nt telling me, and they do say trust you're instincts. He's a really love dovey guy like he always wants to kiss me and cuddle and has said he has been cheated on by all of his exes so he would never do that, but maybe 'cus he's always been cheated on he might do the same so he does'nt feel like the fool? It is my fault because lately we have'nt been having much sex, we used to do it every night before, but now maybe 3 times a week, but the thing is we're living with my Dad and his girlfriend until we get our own flat so I don't feel comfortable having sex in his house incase he hears or know's we're doing it 'cus it is'nt fair on him, but my boyfriend always wants it and hints it but I just feel sick of the thaught and put off by having sex in my Dads house especially when his room is next door, and especially know after all 40 of them porn pictures he has of asians on his phone, WHAT DO I DO?! Please I need some help

[jo929]

It does sound like he is hiding something, also another thing that bothers me is your dad letting you both move in without the benifit of marriage a very stick situation, one i am sure the boy friend loves, He is getting everythin free  luck  jo

[Judy246]

I dated a guy who did the same thing and it turned out that he was into Asian woman, but my question was if you like Asian woman, why not just date them and not play with women that you have no intention to pursue a relationship with. I did break up with him.

By the way sex 3 times a week is considered excellent now a days and you live with your dad and must respect his house. It's time to confront your b/f and tell him what you found. Tell him women are courious by nature and what you found needs an explanation. If you sense he's not being honest, it's time to bring it out in the open and not live everyday with this doubt.

[mami1323]

I do think you should always trust your instincts and what would worry me more than the asian porn would be the deleting of the text messages.  That is very suspicious and I would know this from experience.  Men love sex and when the sex changes that often causes a lot of conflicts in the relationship.  A mature man will understand but an immature man will look else where to get his needs met.  Communication is the key to every relationship and I would tell him exactly how you feel and what you've seen.  A word of caution though, if you tell him you've been snooping its not going to change what he does but will change how much better he will get at hiding things.  So if he is cheating or doing something behind your back than by letting him know you went through his phone he will put it on key lock or do whatever it takes to keep you from finding out information.