If the situation is really done with, maybe it *is* time to get clear of the things that are not working. If you can mutually afford to split up, and neither of you is getting anything out of being together, you're young enough to go on and might do it more happily, if you were without him. At least you would not be feeling flat and guilty and hurt. You could order your own life without thinking of how to take care of another person. That alone can be a lift.
While I understand the dynamics of everything u mentioned I have zero feelings left inside me . This is one problem with later in life ,no hormonal therapy of any sort one year pst surgery and the hurt of an affair that was not really either fault it simply was.
what I am hope to hear I believe [ laughing at myself ] is a miracle answer to a situation that might actually be broken and done with . Maybe I should let him go and allow me to deal with my health issues alone ,he is tired and burned out I know this . Health issues are hard on him he has been married to one solid health issue .
thank you for your response you are very appreciated ! louise518 *
Talk to your doctor about the tearing. There has to be some solution rather than hormones.