Hello. My boyfriend and I are looking for some outside perspective, and are hoping to get some here :)
First, I have to let you know that I have been prescribed Celexa (if you don't know what it is, it is an antidepressant), and at the time of the conversation, I had not taken it in about 1 week.
So, we were having a conversation, and the subject of my pills came up. I was trying to tell him that I had been quite emotional lately because I was out of my medication, and had not taken it in about 1 week. He then asked if I had any pills left, and I said "No, I don't...", but in actuality I had 3 pills left. Now, for anyone that does not know much about antidepressants, they take time to work, they are not like Xanax and work immediately, so 3 pills are pretty much useless unless you have more to take (ie. another month at least). He then asked if I was sure that I didn't have any pills at all left, and I again replied "No, I don't...". Now, from my perspective, I didn't have any because as I just said, 3 pills alone are completely useless, and may as well not even exhist.
So now we are trying to figure out if I was honest with him or not. He is not sure if I was being deceptive, but I keep trying to explain that I said I didn't have any pills left because I only had 3 left, and, again, 3 may as well be 0.
Now for the perspective part...
8 months ago, we had this problem---
OK, the other day my boyfriend and I got into an arguement about something, and I am trying to prove to him that I did not lie to him. So I'm posting the conversation here in hopes that some of you will give us your opinions...
First and foremost, let me explain the situation a little, so you don't think we are crazy and arguing about trivial things. I have a food addiction. Now, you may not think it is a big deal, but it really affects us. So, this being said, here is the current problem...
We went shopping the other night, and he bought some things for himself (namely cold cuts, cheese and bacon for club sandwiches) and asked me not to eat them. I of course said yes, with every intention of not doing so. (I'm sure you can see where this is going...). Then a couple of days later I was making him lunch (a club sandwich) and out of habit, I ate 1 piece of each thing (ham, turkey, cheese, etc...) while making it. He later found out, and became furious (which is understandable since we have been having these kinds of problems for quite some time now), but when asking me about the cheese, instead of asking if I had any, he accused me of eating 2 slices. Now, out of pure defensiveness, I said that I did not eat the cheese (meaning the 2 slices that he accused me of). After a few minutes of arguing with him that I did NOT eat 2 slices, and he was convinced that it was possible that I did not eat 2, I told him that I did indeed eat 1 slice of cheese.
Now in my opinion, and from my point of view, I did not lie to him about eating the cheese. When I said that I didn't eat the cheese, I was referring to the accusation of 2 slices, not in general. He however feels that the statement I didn't eat the cheese, stands on it's own, and cancels out my confession of eating 1 slice.
Now like I said, this may seem trivial to some of you, but immagine that instead of a food addict, I were addicted to drugs or cigarettes. An addiction is an addiction, and as sad as it may sound, mine is food.
So, please, let us know what you think. Did I lie to him or not?
Thank you all for taking the time to read this post and respond to it. You are doing more for us than you know.
We are trying to see if I have some kind honesty problem, or any other kinds of problems (aside from the food disorder and depression). What should we/I do about it? And does anyone think he is overreacting about any of this? He believes that my interpretation of things is what is getting me into trouble. That my interpretation is not objective, and therefore gets me into trouble. Do any of you have any insights about that?
Thank you all again for your insights.