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MY BOYFRIEND WONT LEAVE HIS MOM'S HOUSE
My 28 year old boyfriend of 3 years still lives at home with his mother and refuses to move out. He and I were going to move in together around 1 year after dating. His mother went on disability from work (she was a teacher) around the same time we planned on moving in together and he has opted not move out so he can be there for her. I felt it was ok for him to want to be there for his mother, and decided we could move in together at a later time.
Two years into our relationship I became pregnant with our son, we decided that we really should move in so that we could raise our son together and its because what we had always planned on doing. My boyfriend refused to move in with us when the time came, he instead wanted me and our son to move in with him and his mother. I didnt think this was the best idea, and refused to live with them. He told me that he refuses to leave his mother, the only way he would live with me and our son is if we all lived together.
He somehow feels indebted to his mother because she took really good care of him when he was a child. Although its honourable for him to want to take care of her its not reason for him to not want to leave, because it was her job as his parent to take good care of him. I tell him all the time that he is letting our son miss out on having both parents raise him together because he chooses to live with her and not us, but he points out that its my fault b/c I wont live with him and his mother.
I tell him we would help his mother whenever she needed, its not like we would be relocating, we would still be in the same city and she could call whenever she needs anything. I mean if she was critically ill or something then I would understand, but the majority of her health issues are because
she is an unhealthy and obese woman who doesnt do anything to make herself healthy.
Sometimes I think she makes herself seem sicker so she can ensure her son wont move out.
I love my boyfriend and I don't want our relationship to end over something like this...I just dont know what to do...
Two years into our relationship I became pregnant with our son, we decided that we really should move in so that we could raise our son together and its because what we had always planned on doing. My boyfriend refused to move in with us when the time came, he instead wanted me and our son to move in with him and his mother. I didnt think this was the best idea, and refused to live with them. He told me that he refuses to leave his mother, the only way he would live with me and our son is if we all lived together.
He somehow feels indebted to his mother because she took really good care of him when he was a child. Although its honourable for him to want to take care of her its not reason for him to not want to leave, because it was her job as his parent to take good care of him. I tell him all the time that he is letting our son miss out on having both parents raise him together because he chooses to live with her and not us, but he points out that its my fault b/c I wont live with him and his mother.
I tell him we would help his mother whenever she needed, its not like we would be relocating, we would still be in the same city and she could call whenever she needs anything. I mean if she was critically ill or something then I would understand, but the majority of her health issues are because
she is an unhealthy and obese woman who doesnt do anything to make herself healthy.
Sometimes I think she makes herself seem sicker so she can ensure her son wont move out.
I love my boyfriend and I don't want our relationship to end over something like this...I just dont know what to do...
Yes, I know how you feel.
Believe me, living with your mother in law is the worst thing you can do to you and your child. My boyfriend also convinced me to live with him and his mom, he was very scared of leaving his mom, but she has 4 children to look after and she is a teacher.
Because I was so lucky to get the yougest one of all 4 kidz,he felt he is his mom's only child still in the house and he needs to take care of her.
I love her very much and we got along for the first while, then she started being mean with me, at least I am not pregnant or dont have any dependents. I told him every time his mom would make me so mad I could kick her in the face (i didn't though)!!
So one day at work my boss said to me, we need to get a new place to live on our own or our relationship will never make it. when I got home that day i took the paper and started looking for a house, when he got home, i already called the agent to see me. he got home and I said to him, "I am moving with or without you!!" I just didn't care for that moment, I was just DONE, I could not handle it anymore.
Today we love our house, he moved with me and his mom tried to make him feel guilty and responsable. We are engaged now, he still loves his mom and SUDDENLY SHE LOVE ME BECAUSE I HAVE HER LITTLE BOY IN MY HOUSE NOW AND HER LITTLE GANDSON IN MY WOMB.
Now she wont dare to say a word to me.
SOMETIME ALL YOU NEED TO DA IS TAKE CHARGE IF YOU SEE HE IS TOO SOFT FOR HIS MOM, AS SOON AS HE REALIZES HE IS GOING TO LOOSE YOU BECAUSE HIS MOM, ME WILL WAKE UP AND SIT AT YOUR DOOR STEP SOON.
If I was you, I would move into my own place without him, send him pictures of the house and his little boy playing. Tell him he is more then welcome to join you in your house, but you are not going to his mom's house, you and your son don't belong there.
God never made us women to be slaves to men, he made us to lead the man and children and live so they can see God through you and want to know what you have and they dont, to be someone your man and children can be proud of!!! Read Proverbs 31 (A woman in God's eyes)
If you read the Bible you will know that it states,a man is to leave his mothers house and take his wife and children. A woman is to be obedient to her man but only if he earns it and is capable of making the right choices for his wife and children.
IF YOU ASK GOD TO GUIDE YOU, BELIEVE ME, NO ONE SAYS IT IS EASY, BUT AT THE END IT IS WORTH EVERY STEP!!
:) Hope you think about it
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Believe me, living with your mother in law is the worst thing you can do to you and your child. My boyfriend also convinced me to live with him and his mom, he was very scared of leaving his mom, but she has 4 children to look after and she is a teacher.
Because I was so lucky to get the yougest one of all 4 kidz,he felt he is his mom's only child still in the house and he needs to take care of her.
I love her very much and we got along for the first while, then she started being mean with me, at least I am not pregnant or dont have any dependents. I told him every time his mom would make me so mad I could kick her in the face (i didn't though)!!
So one day at work my boss said to me, we need to get a new place to live on our own or our relationship will never make it. when I got home that day i took the paper and started looking for a house, when he got home, i already called the agent to see me. he got home and I said to him, "I am moving with or without you!!" I just didn't care for that moment, I was just DONE, I could not handle it anymore.
Today we love our house, he moved with me and his mom tried to make him feel guilty and responsable. We are engaged now, he still loves his mom and SUDDENLY SHE LOVE ME BECAUSE I HAVE HER LITTLE BOY IN MY HOUSE NOW AND HER LITTLE GANDSON IN MY WOMB.
Now she wont dare to say a word to me.
SOMETIME ALL YOU NEED TO DA IS TAKE CHARGE IF YOU SEE HE IS TOO SOFT FOR HIS MOM, AS SOON AS HE REALIZES HE IS GOING TO LOOSE YOU BECAUSE HIS MOM, ME WILL WAKE UP AND SIT AT YOUR DOOR STEP SOON.
If I was you, I would move into my own place without him, send him pictures of the house and his little boy playing. Tell him he is more then welcome to join you in your house, but you are not going to his mom's house, you and your son don't belong there.
God never made us women to be slaves to men, he made us to lead the man and children and live so they can see God through you and want to know what you have and they dont, to be someone your man and children can be proud of!!! Read Proverbs 31 (A woman in God's eyes)
If you read the Bible you will know that it states,a man is to leave his mothers house and take his wife and children. A woman is to be obedient to her man but only if he earns it and is capable of making the right choices for his wife and children.
IF YOU ASK GOD TO GUIDE YOU, BELIEVE ME, NO ONE SAYS IT IS EASY, BUT AT THE END IT IS WORTH EVERY STEP!!
:) Hope you think about it
You are will find a answer there.
"i feel sad for him that he will never experience a full and happy relationship because of a misplaced sense of duty and the inability to stand up and be a man and tell his mum that he is leaving . Men like this never change and women like us shouldn't have to wait around to be thrown crumbs ." Perfectly put!
The bozo I was with felt like it was his investment, his mother's home! because he gave her a portion of his inheritence (money he did not earn) to save her from foreclosure. but never admitted that in the present time he was spending all of her earned money on all supplies, bills, and food. He worked part time and lied to people saying he was head of the household and taking care of her, but the mother was the money maker and all he did was spend her money and live rent free as her household slave.
Anybody who is reading this that is in a similar situation listen carefully. GET OUT. I was in the same place, we lived with his mother, she was unbearable, insulting in a passive agressive way, needy, demanding; an all around awful person. No man or relationship is worth that. Get out while you can, your life will improve a thousand fold. Be strong, do not doubt yourself. You know what is right. You are in someone else's environment, and it is not always easy to see clearly. It is important to stay focused and on track with getting the hell out of there and start to live for yourself.
The bozo I was with felt like it was his investment, his mother's home! because he gave her a portion of his inheritence (money he did not earn) to save her from foreclosure. but never admitted that in the present time he was spending all of her earned money on all supplies, bills, and food. He worked part time and lied to people saying he was head of the household and taking care of her, but the mother was the money maker and all he did was spend her money and live rent free as her household slave.
Anybody who is reading this that is in a similar situation listen carefully. GET OUT. I was in the same place, we lived with his mother, she was unbearable, insulting in a passive agressive way, needy, demanding; an all around awful person. No man or relationship is worth that. Get out while you can, your life will improve a thousand fold. Be strong, do not doubt yourself. You know what is right. You are in someone else's environment, and it is not always easy to see clearly. It is important to stay focused and on track with getting the hell out of there and start to live for yourself.
I'm in a similar boat. My boyfriend and have been together for 14 years now.
9 years ago he and I move in to take care of his mother who is diabetic. He's the youngest of her 5 kids. Someone tell me why this is his responsibility alone, because we have been doing this for 9 years and the woman is making me crazy. We can't go out because the few times we have she gets in a foul mood. Everything has to be done her way and I have been treated like a faulty house hold appliance by his brothers. My life consists of taking care of her every need while he works and playing on the computer which my boyfriends family gives me hell for. It's the only social life I have. I love my boyfriend and we have no. I have talked to him but he just sits there and apologies. How do I get through to him? I moved 4000 miles away from home to be with him and help her but I didn't want to be here for 9 years he says he didn't either. Even if I wanted to leave him which I don't where would I go? He has been my world for 14 years.
9 years ago he and I move in to take care of his mother who is diabetic. He's the youngest of her 5 kids. Someone tell me why this is his responsibility alone, because we have been doing this for 9 years and the woman is making me crazy. We can't go out because the few times we have she gets in a foul mood. Everything has to be done her way and I have been treated like a faulty house hold appliance by his brothers. My life consists of taking care of her every need while he works and playing on the computer which my boyfriends family gives me hell for. It's the only social life I have. I love my boyfriend and we have no. I have talked to him but he just sits there and apologies. How do I get through to him? I moved 4000 miles away from home to be with him and help her but I didn't want to be here for 9 years he says he didn't either. Even if I wanted to leave him which I don't where would I go? He has been my world for 14 years.
Hahaha... I didn't mean that! It's just that I feel so hurt by all the things she does so sometimes I just don't want to see her. I know if I want to marry my boyfriend I'll have to deal with his mom forever. Well anyways, I'll keep you guys posted whatever happens next :-)
I too hope your financial situation improcves so you can become more independent. I WILL caution you, however....regarding the last thing you said above.
If you end up marrying this man...his Mom becomes your MIL. You may not LIKE your in-laws, but you're stuck with them, and having a bad relationship with them will equal problems between you and hubby. She's not going to go away, and you must accept that. You'll likely see her at every holiday, at all of your kids' b-day parties, at the birth of those children...the list is long.
It would behoove you to learn how to tolerate her and get along with her NOW...so in the event you two get married, things will go a lot smoother. I could give you lessons. I've gotten great at smiling on the outside, and being gracious to my MIL when she offers her "advice", even though, in my mind, I've got a voodoo doll in my hand that looks ironically a lot like her. ;0)
Good luck!
If you end up marrying this man...his Mom becomes your MIL. You may not LIKE your in-laws, but you're stuck with them, and having a bad relationship with them will equal problems between you and hubby. She's not going to go away, and you must accept that. You'll likely see her at every holiday, at all of your kids' b-day parties, at the birth of those children...the list is long.
It would behoove you to learn how to tolerate her and get along with her NOW...so in the event you two get married, things will go a lot smoother. I could give you lessons. I've gotten great at smiling on the outside, and being gracious to my MIL when she offers her "advice", even though, in my mind, I've got a voodoo doll in my hand that looks ironically a lot like her. ;0)
Good luck!
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh dear. Well, you shouldn't marry someone that you never want to see their mother's face again. That relationship would always have a cloud over it if you have that many bad feelings for his mother.
Do you live with her as well? I wouldn't if you do. Find your own place and live there and he can visit you at your place. If you have financial trouble, find a roommate or move home to your own parents. good luck
Do you live with her as well? I wouldn't if you do. Find your own place and live there and he can visit you at your place. If you have financial trouble, find a roommate or move home to your own parents. good luck
That's true! But what if you are sure that he is the one? I know that the best thing for me to do would be to move out but I will miss him a lot. I'm so used to being around him... The problem here is not that he doesn't want to leave his mom, it's our economy issues. Hopefully soon we will be out of there so I won't have to see her face ever again!!
I have also been going through this situation recently . I was with my boyfriend for 18months . We split 4 months ago because of his immaturity , he was practically living in my house not contributing , we never went out because if we did i ended up paying because he needs his money to pay bills and buy food at his mum.s where he lives . So i told him to get out and stay with his mum . He recently contacted me again and said that i was a control freak trying to stops him spending time with his mum etc , but he would forgive me if i didn't do it again !! after 2 days of arguing he finally admitted that he will never leave his mother because its his duty to take care of her . I knew that this was the case all along and all the other stuff was rubbish ! He is 29 and i feel sad for him that he will never experience a full and happy relationship because of a misplaced sense of duty and the inability to stand up and be a man and tell his mum that he is leaving . Men like this never change and women like us shouldn't have to wait around to be thrown crumbs .
I have also been going through this situation recently . I was with my boyfriend for 18months . We split 4 months ago because of his immaturity , he was practically living in my house not contributing , we never went out because if we did i ended up paying because he needs his money to pay bills and buy food at his mum.s where he lives . So i told him to get out and stay with his mum . He recently contacted me again and said that i was a control freak trying to stops him spending time with his mum etc , but he would forgive me if i didn't do it again !! after 2 days of arguing he finally admitted that he will never leave his mother because its his duty to take care of her . I knew that this was the case all along and all the other stuff was rubbish ! He is 29 and i feel sad for him that he will never experience a full and happy relationship because of a misplaced sense of duty and the inability to stand up and be a man and tell his mum that he is leaving . Men like this never change and women like us shouldn't have to wait around to be thrown crumbs .
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, of course, you have to do what is best for you. I do think that this current living situation does not sound best for you though. Why totally ruin things with his mom? You two may never recover from it and always have resentment for each other. Makes family holidays a lot less fun down the road. :>) So if you can afford your own small place, awesome. If you can't use your items and are storing them in a closet at your boyfriend's mom's house, what is the difference of storing them at your moms?
Ideally you will get to a point to be financially secure and capable of living wherever you wish and afford it on your own and it sounds like you are working to get there. But for now, you do the best you can.
Think of all your options including another roommate besides your boyfriend to share an apartment with. He CAN come visit. I never lived with my now husband before marriage---- we were still really close and saw each other a lot. I just mention this so that you also know that your options could expand by realizing that you should find a place to be happy living on your own and then incorporate your boyfriend into that scenario.
good luck
Ideally you will get to a point to be financially secure and capable of living wherever you wish and afford it on your own and it sounds like you are working to get there. But for now, you do the best you can.
Think of all your options including another roommate besides your boyfriend to share an apartment with. He CAN come visit. I never lived with my now husband before marriage---- we were still really close and saw each other a lot. I just mention this so that you also know that your options could expand by realizing that you should find a place to be happy living on your own and then incorporate your boyfriend into that scenario.
good luck
Thanks for the advice. I just think that if I move back home, it will be harder for us to get a place later on. Plus I want a place to call my home and have my own stuff, I even bought some appliances and things when I get a place; going back to my moms won't solve anything cuz my brother, wife, and kid live there too... I thought by moving in with him was going to be great but it hasn't been all that great at all. I can't even use the stuff I buy, its all in our closet. Sometimes I think that if he wasn't in a wheelchair we could easily find a studio in a basement but sadly that's not the case. I love him for who he is and don't care about his disability. Maybe if I get a place, he'll come with me?
He just started his own computer repair shop and hopefully soon he will start making good money... But as of now I'm seriously thinking about moving out somewhere else.
He just started his own computer repair shop and hopefully soon he will start making good money... But as of now I'm seriously thinking about moving out somewhere else.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi, my honest opinion? I'd move back to your mom's or rent a studio and here is why. I think it is really hard to live with a mother in law or mother of boyfriend. Two women in a house can be hard. And it puts a big straing on things. LOTS of people would get on someone's nerves if they are forced to live together verses if they saw them socially.
So, if you are serious about your boyfriend as a long term partner, why have a situation now that could create life long bad feelings between his mom and you? You wouldn't be leaving your boyfriend . . . he'd still be your boyfriend and you can still visit frequently or stay the night sometimes. But you'd have your own place and it would make things much better between you and his mom.
So, I agree wtih YOUR mom on this one. good luck
So, if you are serious about your boyfriend as a long term partner, why have a situation now that could create life long bad feelings between his mom and you? You wouldn't be leaving your boyfriend . . . he'd still be your boyfriend and you can still visit frequently or stay the night sometimes. But you'd have your own place and it would make things much better between you and his mom.
So, I agree wtih YOUR mom on this one. good luck
My situation is somewhat like yours. Me and my boyfriend had been together for 6 years now. A year ago, I moved in with him and his mother. At first we used to get along very well but then she started to complain about everything and talk BS about me to her friends. My boyfriend is in a wheelchair. He gets ssi but that's about 500 a month and I only have a part time job so it will be much difficult to rent a place and pay bills. We both are going to college but we are in our second year. He keeps saying that he won't move out until he can pay everything and do not have to depend on anyone. The relationship with his mom is worse day by day, I really don't know what to do. My mom wants me to move back home or rent a studio but I love my boyfriend and don't want to leave him.
Move in with him and his mum and built a life with ur partner its obvious you love him so do it for your child and get his mum to babysit while you go out with him. If then it doesnt Work im sure he will move out with u xx Good Luck xx
Move in with him and his mum and built a life with ur partner its obvious you love him so do it for your child and get his mum to babysit while you go out with him. If then it doesnt Work im sure he will move out with u xx Good Luck xx
I just noticed this thread is from 08. I would imagine our advice is dead in the water now. I wonder how it all worked out!
I get the feeling something is missing here. My final thought tho on what you are posting would be to tell you that it appears your bf is just not that into you. Men usually do what makes them happy and are selfish enough to take that road, whatever it is. It seems to me that you bf is using his mother as an excuse to stay in his comfortable environment and is not as much concerned with his responsibilities as a father, or his mother for that matter, rather his own self. NO ONE is that generous! Sorry, the bf is happy as pie to be where he is and does not want to move on. Who is paying the bills for his sons livlihood? I bet its not him.
Can you talk to his mother? Find a way to tell her that she has to let go of her son. If you can't do it do you know someone else in the family who could? His mom could also get life alert or a different roommate. There are so many options they aren't exploring! I don't understand why it has to be him who watches her. Doesn't she have any other friends or family to help? If she is such a great mom why is she letting her grandbaby grow up with a dad? I don't get it.
Ugh. I SO feel your pain.
I started dating my bf 4 years ago. He told me he had his own house, later admitting he pays the mortgage on his mothers house cause she couldn't afford and didn't want to lose it. I thought, what a standup guy!
She and I FIGHT. If I make suggestions to repair his crumbling investment (no maintenance to home), or suggest we look at our own place, this sweet charmer who the town loves launches the claws (only when we're alone) and the next morning she'll greet him with his favorite waffles and a smile. On the counter beside the waffles will be her arsenal of medications she takes for self-made health issues (diabetes type II, and she eats sugar ALL day).
His argument is almost convincing! He's given her 1000.00 per mo. for 12 years. He thinks she won't let him have the house when she goes if he doesn't stay and his investment will be lost. Given her history with family, I understand this fear. So, losing that angle - I approached her one day and suggested that maybe she could give him a gentle 'nudge' and allow us to spread our wings. I've never felt such fury. Her response was, 'What? If he's not happy I'll shove him out on his *** so fast his head'll spin!". Clearly not a balanced person.
I just found out I am pregnant, and all I can think on, is not what wonderful things I'll do to the baby's room, or what kind of music I'll play it in the womb, and where we'll take our morning walks... but rather, how many bad manners she'll teach it, and how she'll handle the baby with poor hygiene, and how having control over how my child is raised will be a permanent battle.
Her home is HER home. She says to everyone it's his, but the second I put dishes of mine out of my packing box (yes, from 4 years ago) into the cupboard cause we need them?.. they mysteriously wind up back in my box down in the basement. :-( What do I do? I love him. He's super excited about the baby, but when I suggest our own home.. now he says 'we really can't now. How can we afford the car AND a baby with a new mortgage?" I'm F'ed.
I started dating my bf 4 years ago. He told me he had his own house, later admitting he pays the mortgage on his mothers house cause she couldn't afford and didn't want to lose it. I thought, what a standup guy!
She and I FIGHT. If I make suggestions to repair his crumbling investment (no maintenance to home), or suggest we look at our own place, this sweet charmer who the town loves launches the claws (only when we're alone) and the next morning she'll greet him with his favorite waffles and a smile. On the counter beside the waffles will be her arsenal of medications she takes for self-made health issues (diabetes type II, and she eats sugar ALL day).
His argument is almost convincing! He's given her 1000.00 per mo. for 12 years. He thinks she won't let him have the house when she goes if he doesn't stay and his investment will be lost. Given her history with family, I understand this fear. So, losing that angle - I approached her one day and suggested that maybe she could give him a gentle 'nudge' and allow us to spread our wings. I've never felt such fury. Her response was, 'What? If he's not happy I'll shove him out on his *** so fast his head'll spin!". Clearly not a balanced person.
I just found out I am pregnant, and all I can think on, is not what wonderful things I'll do to the baby's room, or what kind of music I'll play it in the womb, and where we'll take our morning walks... but rather, how many bad manners she'll teach it, and how she'll handle the baby with poor hygiene, and how having control over how my child is raised will be a permanent battle.
Her home is HER home. She says to everyone it's his, but the second I put dishes of mine out of my packing box (yes, from 4 years ago) into the cupboard cause we need them?.. they mysteriously wind up back in my box down in the basement. :-( What do I do? I love him. He's super excited about the baby, but when I suggest our own home.. now he says 'we really can't now. How can we afford the car AND a baby with a new mortgage?" I'm F'ed.
I have been wth my boyfriend for six years we still don't live together he live with his mom and he come by my house from time to time don't offer to pay bills or put groceries in the house he never asked to marry me his excuse is he think I have bipolar not its just that I don't like people to take advantage of me I'm so sick of the bs I don't know what to do. His mom shows me she don't care for me his kids show the same I've addressed this several of times to him but no resolution ti the problem I think he is very confused.
Hello,
I can feel your frustration and pain. I have been married for 10 months now. During the several years that my husband and I were dating, we had always discussed moving out and establishing a home of our own, but he wanted me to live with his parents for a year first, as it is part of the culture, and so I agreed. 6 months into the marriage I began talking about moving out within the years time, and he would just ignore me or brush the subject off. Months later he said he didn't want to move out of his parents house, and wanted us to live with them forever. He felt it was his "turn to take care of them" because he too, had had such a good childhood. His mother did everything for him before we got married, from making his meals, to washing his clothes, and nagging at him to do things. I told him that I refuse to live with his parents because of how bad my relationship has become with my mother in law, and my husband. My father in law is pretty neutral in all this. It is true that two women cannot run the same household, as I have learned over the past year, and your relationship with your man will suffer BIG TIME, sexually, emotionally, and mentally. You have made a very very wise decision by not moving in. If your boyfriend steps up to the plate, and claims responsibility for you and your child, then he is making the right decision. However, make his mom aware of the situation and what the result will be in the end. If she then refuses to let her son go, then you know there is nothing you can do about it. But if she is supportive and wants her son to be a good father and perhaps husband one day, then it is all in your boyfriends plate. Good luck.
I can feel your frustration and pain. I have been married for 10 months now. During the several years that my husband and I were dating, we had always discussed moving out and establishing a home of our own, but he wanted me to live with his parents for a year first, as it is part of the culture, and so I agreed. 6 months into the marriage I began talking about moving out within the years time, and he would just ignore me or brush the subject off. Months later he said he didn't want to move out of his parents house, and wanted us to live with them forever. He felt it was his "turn to take care of them" because he too, had had such a good childhood. His mother did everything for him before we got married, from making his meals, to washing his clothes, and nagging at him to do things. I told him that I refuse to live with his parents because of how bad my relationship has become with my mother in law, and my husband. My father in law is pretty neutral in all this. It is true that two women cannot run the same household, as I have learned over the past year, and your relationship with your man will suffer BIG TIME, sexually, emotionally, and mentally. You have made a very very wise decision by not moving in. If your boyfriend steps up to the plate, and claims responsibility for you and your child, then he is making the right decision. However, make his mom aware of the situation and what the result will be in the end. If she then refuses to let her son go, then you know there is nothing you can do about it. But if she is supportive and wants her son to be a good father and perhaps husband one day, then it is all in your boyfriends plate. Good luck.
I know you don't wish to have the relationship end "over something like this" but unfortunately, something has to be done that's within the best interest of you and your son right now. I hope that all is going well, please keep us all informed.
I am so sorry toplip, but I have to be honest with you. Mothers are married to their sons but there isnt "supposed" to be any sex.. They actually set raps in the house so the sone feels like he's king of her jungle. I saw mothers who would make their sons clean their panties so that the son coul actually smell her scent. It gets really sick. Some sons jerk off to their mothers at night. I have research this "edipus" and its terrible. The best thing for you to do is move on. Trust me, whenever your boyfriend feels strongly about being with you, he consults with his mother, and she shuts it down....Run...
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Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
