So I am a 38 year old woman happily married to my 39 year old husband. And we have one daughter who is 13. And I work a lot, so let's get to the story. I came home from work the other day to find my husband patting my daughters shirt over her boob. My husband says this is just affection and it was an accident. I disagree. He sleeps with my daughter occasionally saying she's scared and she has been diagnosed with bipolar. But I disagree. Sometimes when they hug, I see my husband leaning on my daughter. And sometimes he just randomly stares at her chest. I have yelled at my husband for this and told him its inapropriate. And no, I'm not jealous.what should I do?
I agree with RockRose. This is potentially a very dangerous situation for your daughter. The interaction between your husband and daughter falls outside of the norm, and could result in serious psychological damage to your daughter.
You need to consider the possibility that your husband is a pedophile. He may not be, but you need to consider that his inappropriate interaction with his daughter could be a sign of a deeper problem. A father should NEVER be fondling or staring at his daughter's breasts in the way you describe.
Hi there. So, you are honestly suspecting your husband of being sexual with your daughter, his biological child? That is a very serious allegation. I'm sorry that you even have to consider that and think about it as that would be overwhelming for any mother, on MANY levels.
I agree that you need to broach that subject with your daughter. What about seeing a psychologist and doing it through a professional route? That would be really ideal considering the gravity of this kind of thing. This will upend your whole family. If she is already bipolar, does she see a psychologist and a psychiatrist? You could start there.
I would be vigilant about watching them alone together. If your daughter is scared, offer to sleep with her yourself. NOT because you want to sleep with her or buy his story completely but to make it clear that his sleeping with her isn't an option anymore.
If it is true what you are suspecting, your NUMBER ONE priority is the safety of your daughter. peace to you and let us know how this transpires.
Ok, so he says it's just affection AND it's an accident, to touch her boob..? It's one or the other. And the fact that it sounds like he's just spouting off any explanation he can come up with, seems suspicious to me. Him sleeping with her is very much a RED FLAG. Please do not allow this to happen any more. If you have an open and honest relationship with your daughter, you should ask her if he's ever done anything to make her feel uncomfortable. Be sure to ask open ended questions (not yes or no questions), so she can say whatever is on her mind. Make sure she knows that you are not going to allow anything bad to happen to her, for speaking the truth. Definitely get to the bottom of this with a quickness, because this poor young girl could have been suffering for years (is she bipolar, or does she have pent up aggression because of years of abuse?). Please listen to your gut.
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