Men--WHy Why Why?

[PassionFlower09]

OK, so imagine. I just got off work. I am wearing my Brooks Brothers Gabardines, and my silk button down blouse.  I am shopping -minding my own business when this guy, who obviously decided to completely abandon formal English in exchange for colloquial slang, and jeans barely covering his butt comes up to me and tries to    "chat me up "?

Now people, why do guys do this? Clearly we are not compatible. Hell, I could hardly understand anything he said. I was slightly irritated. I could only tilt my head in disbelief. He got angry and grunted off. He was sooooooooooo scuzzy.

I am laughing now, but darn....

[PassionFlower09]

Ok, So I work with the public. I found a letter clearly written by a "CHICKY" about some random "Peacock". I read it. Apparently, the Chicky went to the nearby pizza restaurant with the peacock who was angry when she didn't go to his house for desert.

Okay, it dawned on me that these people write the way they speak. And reading what they write is even harder to understand, than listening to what they are trying to communicate to you. I actually found myself  wondering what many of the written sentences I read could mean.

So Anyway, I just wanted let "y'all- my peeps" know the  911 about this diggity-dank slang...aight".  

Translation:

I wanted to keep all my  fellow community members apprised about the growing dislike of formal language and the increased use of  modern -day, colloquial slang.

PassionFlower09

[PassionFlower09]

Love it Jaybay!!!!

[Jaybay]

ROFL!  What a great thread!  I so needed a laugh and the unexpected giggling reading here made my day.  :-D

It's been a while, but I've had my share of vulgar passes thrown my way.  Usually I just bust out laughing in their faces.  Can't help it!  Some idiot with his arse hanging out of his jeans thinks he's irresistible, thinks he's going to get lucky, and I'm supposed to... what?  Go on a booty call with the likes of THAT?!  Quickest way to get rid of them - a nice loud belly laugh.  :-D

I borrowed a comedian's line one time and can't believe I had the presence of mind to recall it.  Idiot scumbag: I'd really like to get in your pants.  Me:  I've already got one arsehole in there and I DON'T need another one.  

[mami1323]

I'm glad that I'm not the only one who takes it as flattery...lol.  

[PassionFlower09]

I understand. I completely agree. Sometimes that pity smile comes out in me too.
Sometimes I even admire the guy- I mean it takes guts to be rejected.  So I at least give them 1/2 a pity point.  : )

[Ashelen]

I guess I should've elaborated..when I say "smile" i really mean "aw aren't you adorable...but I just don't care"..I've perfected that look, lol. It's that sort of half-smile "I'm trying to be polite but really...just go away" kind of thing...and I think it comes off well because I've never had a man get too pushy, but boy they dont' think twice about giving it a go just to see what comes of it.

But I know exactly what you mean it does depend on the guy...or at least, my reaction varies depending on how hard I think it's going to be to scrape the guy off if he gets the wrong impression. I'm REALLY not a flirtatious person though so it's hard to get the wrong idea.

[PassionFlower09]

Smiling is a risk.

I guess it all depends on the guy. When the hottie says "hey" is cool; you can smile at him and he will act normal. But when slick-rick with the green suit  or cash with the gold chains, gold teeth, or rapper persona see you smile, they automatically "She wants me-time to turn on the heat ricky/cashy boy".

[Ashelen]

Oh I'm flattered when any guy eyes me up and down....I figure that if even guys from a seriously different cultural background and lifestyle find me attractive, then I must be universally pleasing....

at least that's the delusion I cling to ;)

I don't know maybe I'm too laid back. I don't mind guys eyeing me and I don't mind them flirting, I'm used to it, but I just don't encourage it with body language....I'll smile and give them a nod or converse with them but I do it in a very chaste sort of fashion if that makes any sense...as long as they're not sidling me into a dark alley I see it as harmless.

[PassionFlower09]

It is ok Special, it is nice to be noticed. Especially when you can laugh about it later. You have a good story to tell your girl friends at dinner.

Yeah, I usually give dirt bags only about 10 pity seconds- just long enough remove myself from the situation.

Passion

[specialmom]

arrrrggggghhhhhh . . . just realized that I've reached an age and point in my life in which I'm actually *flattered* by ANY man eyeing me up and talking to me.  I don't give them more than a second of time (I've got limited time for such things as flirting with dirt bags) but walk away with a smile.  It is nice to be noticed.  

Oh lordy, what does this say about me????  LOL

[Ashelen]

lol I just think it sounds hilarious..I don't know why but when I say it out loud it always makes me giggle...

I sound a little crazy at the moment, don't I?

Ah, well...

You're right about music...even country music which I ADORE and which has traditionally been more Conservative and Christian is running to racy and sexual these days. I mean it always had sexual undertones but they've become overtones recently.

[PassionFlower09]

It is ok Ashelen, I was really wondering what to call a female peacock. I was just too lazy to research it.

Thanks for the info.

Somehow, I don't like the name "peahen".  Peahen sounds so country.

[Ashelen]

I don't have anything relevant to add...but I'm giggling and I want to share why...

the female form of "peacock" is "peahen" and I just think that word is hilarious...

anyway...moving on...LOL sorry Passion didn't mean to go on a tangent there :).

[PassionFlower09]

Well I agree with everyone.

It is amazing though how the women on their level chase them- it is really a completely different social strata. I often see the men walking with undershirts and pants BELTED midway on their butts (OK they understand that their pants are too low and realize that they can only expose so much before violating laws of decency), and then I see these women wearing  tight clothes, short shorts, and etc chasing them. I just want to ask these women, "what do you see in these men? They are vulgar, loud, clearly have no car, and etc? Are you really on a female version of them?

Everyone should read  Robert Wright's book, The Moral Animal. It is the best. It explains all motivations for these behaviors. I guess these people are just degenerating back to a time when the peacock with the most colorful feathers gets the Chicky, and the Chicky competes for the resources of her peacock hoping to keep him from spreading his seed.

Music today idealizes these behaviors too.  I head a song  on the radio which basically said (man singing ) " like your genitals, I want to copulate with you (I am paraphrasing the lyrics).

[mami1323]

They are looking for attention these men, that's why they do it.  Ignore them.  

[Gotmoxy]

I think the reason scuzzy men try to pursue women out of their league is because of their already too high egos. And how do they have high egos, you ask? Because these degenerate, trailer park, welfare bums have 2 or more baby's mamas chasing their ***** already. These poor, misguided women fed into their egos; making these men feel like kings; like they can have anybody. But, sadly, that isn't true. If you are not willing to be a decent, proper civilian, and get a job, pay taxes, pull up your pants, take care of your children, etc., etc., you aren't going to get anybody better than yourself, unless she's had a lobotomy. I'm not trying to be rude, but that's just how it is. My taxes pay for these losers to buy their booze and cigarettes! We need our roads fixed, our hospitals staffed, our schools upgraded, etc. The Government needs to stop wasting our tax dollars supporting these bums. Instead they should be forcing them to get jobs or be cut off! It's that easy! Don't tell me McDonald's isn't hiring, because we know they're always looking for people! There has been plenty occassions when I've had dummies like these approach me with a line like "Hey Mommy, what you saying?" I just act like they don't exist, and walk almost right through them. Ok enough of my ranting........just sharing my aggressive thoughts......LOL

[AnnieBrooke]

It's OK to think of it as flattery, but a lot of street talk is just harassment.  Guys do it to amuse themselves and/or their buddies, and the woman is simply the walking target.

[mami1323]

Take it as flattery.  Some will just attempt it because they feel they have nothing to lose.  The worst they can get is some rejection but if they get someone to pay attention, then it's worth the chance.  That's how I feel about it.  

[AnnieBrooke]

I used to work in a fancy job and wore a suit every day and a and conservative-looking raincoat when out and about.  One day when I was in my 30s, on the street downtown, a street kid looking all of 18 and about as clean and presentable as someone who lives on the street is, looked right in my face and yelled, "I WANT TO F U C K YOU!"  I think it was just a form of attempted harassment, though it was more shocking to be screamed at than embarrassing for the words he used.  Males can be very odd.

[penswriter]

They think it's "cool". I'm the same way with the slang. I prefer proper English or at least terms I can understand. lol. (I'm 25...so not that old)

I was in rite aid today getting a gallon of milk and it was right after I got off of work (I'm an assistant manager in a restaurant) so I was in my black dickie pants, button down shirt, all sweaty and gross, smelling like a restaurant and this guy starts "talking" (I can't think of a better term for it)  to me. I think I understood 2 words. I had a look of confusion and said "Do you speak English?" I think he swore at me. I'm not sure. And he walked away.