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Mission accomplished I can ignore you now
I tried, ask for a guy friend's advice on this and his explaination bites. He says, don't stress yourself out. Just go with the flow. Take it for what it was fun , you both got what you wanted! I never date around on regular basis. I don't know how take this kind of situations. I really should stop trying I told myself I would stop. I guess a part of me does not like being lonely so when the girlfriend's pressure I cave in. They told me if I ever want to get out of the parents house I need to find someone a.s.a.p. Well, not long ago I had a message from someone who looks very familiar. After some talking turned out he went to my high school. I tripled checked in my yearbook to make sure it wasn't one of those cat fish stories. Long story short on Monday I caved in and got together with him. We went coffee then was going to go to a theatre but there weren't anything I'd like. I didn't want to go to a late movie. He suggested movie at his place. I was thinking what the hay. We went there , I sat one end and he sat another. Next thing I knew I ended up on his end where the recycliner was. He gave me a blanket then moments later he got in there with me. He seemed to be the cluddley type. Which was fine. My body wasn't shouting no! Til nearly the middle of the movie, he started rubbing my breasts. Normally, I'd definitely say NO or not yet. I do not know what came over me. I was extremely turned on. long story short : we ended up hooking up. Afterwards, he wanted to know my work schedule. he wanted to get together again. He said, he'd text me later. Which, he did not. So, late that night I texted him asking how that hockey game went. We were talking fine. Then the next day text msg came down to one text. All of yesterday, I didn't text him to see if he'd text me. Which he did not.
From spamming me everyday to getting some frisky business done. I think I got thrown into the mission accomplished I don't need to worry about your feelings anymore. If I ignore maybe you'll go away. Wat do you ladies think? I COULD use the extra advice or slap over the head. I'm not attracted attracted to him. I know I should not care. But I sincerely feel insulted. I feel my pride has ben kicked. yes Yes there was protection used. Id never risk it again for no man
From spamming me everyday to getting some frisky business done. I think I got thrown into the mission accomplished I don't need to worry about your feelings anymore. If I ignore maybe you'll go away. Wat do you ladies think? I COULD use the extra advice or slap over the head. I'm not attracted attracted to him. I know I should not care. But I sincerely feel insulted. I feel my pride has ben kicked. yes Yes there was protection used. Id never risk it again for no man
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COMMUNITY LEADER
Yes, I think that is good advice. Boredom, loneliness and such make us vulnerable to bad decision making. Focus on you. Wait until you are in a relationship rather than someone flirting or paying attention to you--- have some dates (or a lot) with you and a guy and THEN consider how far you want to go sexually with them. You'll be happier in the long run. good luck
You are young and full of hormones.
I understand. And seeking attention afterwards. A validation.
Some guys are sensitive. Others are not.
You need to look within. Gather up your own self worth with out any one involved. You could try team sports. Or other group activities like Bible study classes.
Try something new. Learn to sew. Or cook. Or meditation.
Also I felt down when my cat died. So I did volunteer work with an animal rescue group that brought me orphan kittens to raise.
Your prince will come one day. No need to rush it. Maxy
I understand. And seeking attention afterwards. A validation.
Some guys are sensitive. Others are not.
You need to look within. Gather up your own self worth with out any one involved. You could try team sports. Or other group activities like Bible study classes.
Try something new. Learn to sew. Or cook. Or meditation.
Also I felt down when my cat died. So I did volunteer work with an animal rescue group that brought me orphan kittens to raise.
Your prince will come one day. No need to rush it. Maxy
I think I was saner when I took that dating break 2006-2014. for the best I stop trying
Hon, I have briefly read some of your other posts and I suggest you take a break from guys and figure out why you are making these poor choices in regards to men.
Make better choices in regards to men and female friends.
Make better choices in regards to men and female friends.
THANK YOU! that was the answer I needed. My girlfriends are all going off about " maybe something happened give him a few more days before you totally throw him on the crub.". No No I don't have dating experience at all. I'm 30. Only had one so called bf , turned out he lied to me saying as if I'm the only one turned out I was the other one. He had 4 other women pregnant at the time.
Life360 - I didn't give in because he wanted me too. I don't know I guess it's been a really long time my body had urges I didn't know about. I didn''t jump into bed with him thinking" this will make him remember about me". I was shockingly hot & bothered, affer he was touching me. Normally, I'd think " is this a good idea". On Monday? I just went for it.
Londres70 - Your right , I'm an airhead sitting here the past few days trying to figure out if I was a " hit & run " or a "fwb".Yes, my friends are nutts telling me I need to get back out there. ahh I was safer being single 8 yrs
My first bf was 2006.we didn't even make it til end of the year. When I found out I ran. I was depressed for many years. I didn't start to get back out there until April of 2014. I'll try to get over it. This is driving me nutts! you're right. If he meant what he meant? He would of texted or fb or called. Instead I got zip. I'm never going to understand MEN sigh*
Life360 - I didn't give in because he wanted me too. I don't know I guess it's been a really long time my body had urges I didn't know about. I didn''t jump into bed with him thinking" this will make him remember about me". I was shockingly hot & bothered, affer he was touching me. Normally, I'd think " is this a good idea". On Monday? I just went for it.
Londres70 - Your right , I'm an airhead sitting here the past few days trying to figure out if I was a " hit & run " or a "fwb".Yes, my friends are nutts telling me I need to get back out there. ahh I was safer being single 8 yrs
My first bf was 2006.we didn't even make it til end of the year. When I found out I ran. I was depressed for many years. I didn't start to get back out there until April of 2014. I'll try to get over it. This is driving me nutts! you're right. If he meant what he meant? He would of texted or fb or called. Instead I got zip. I'm never going to understand MEN sigh*
There is no doubt that some people do this and that in order to get this or that.............pretty much a fact of life. I say "people."
Liars/dishonest people don't like "clarifying" anything. They enjoy the deception. Honest people clarify things.
What was what? Did you give in for your own needs, as your story implies this, or did you give in to make him want to see you again? On a side note, women have used sex to get what they want since the begining of time! :(
Hon, you need to separete yourself from this. He has moved on while you are still trying to dissect the situation. It's apparent he lied to you. Nothing more and nothing less. If he was interested he would be texting, FBooking and/or calling you.
Have you had much experience with guys and dating? Some guys say this and then they NEVER call or text or see you again.
He didn't say what his true intentions were when you went to his home either. He said something about watching a movie NOT having sex with you. He lies or has lied.
Have you had much experience with guys and dating? Some guys say this and then they NEVER call or text or see you again.
He didn't say what his true intentions were when you went to his home either. He said something about watching a movie NOT having sex with you. He lies or has lied.
To think of it I think you're right on the man W H O R E business. I was really sad when I wrote this but I'm feeling so much better now. You're right I def need better girlfriend's. Their giving him too much of a doubt. I guess I'm upset because 90% of the time its me saying this wont work. This time I totally fell into the trap and he patched over the trap with "I'd like to know when I can see you next. How is your schedule?" I said my schedule is pretty busy. some days theres no work other days I'm busy since 430 am til 11pm.
I guess, I was too super glued to the fact thinking it's the guy's job to claify things. I'll just drop this and block his #, i'll be back to my old self soon. THANK YOU ALL! YOu ladies have honestly been way more help then all my friends of 14 years. Yes, I'm overly sensitive. But at times I just need someone to smack me into reality. Thanks everyone
I guess, I was too super glued to the fact thinking it's the guy's job to claify things. I'll just drop this and block his #, i'll be back to my old self soon. THANK YOU ALL! YOu ladies have honestly been way more help then all my friends of 14 years. Yes, I'm overly sensitive. But at times I just need someone to smack me into reality. Thanks everyone
Not apologize. Sorry English is not my first language a lot of the stuff I write might be confusing. That and getting option from people I guess I mix up the story. What I want to know is : wth was that? If it was a one time thing I'd expect a guy to tell me that was fun. We shouldn't see each other again. but he said, he wanted to know my schedule so he can see me again. but after the whole thing? he doesn't text me on his own. But I had to text him. I texted him once and stopped to see if he would text me. but once I stopped he stopped too
"I should just throw it in the "hit&run category* try to get over this."............Yes.
I think you are more upset that you let yourself be used then with what he has done.
It's not only about letting this go, but more about you and your ability to handle yourself in these situations. Actually, you are setting this situations up to happen. You need to figure out why you are doing this.
Your gfs have given you poor advice. You don't need a man in order to move out of your parents' home. You have to be confident enough to do this on your own. I would suggest you find another group of female friends because this group doesn't have a CLUE about men and meaningful relationships. They see men as a solution to all..............well, hon..........they aren't.
You can't build a meaningful relationship with a man based SOLELY on sex. If they find you are too easy and they get what they want quick and fast then they are usually out of there quick too. It doesn't matter how mind-blowing the sex was.
Use your intellect to get out of your parents' house; not your body.
He got what he wanted and he is probably onto the next one. Any guy offering a "movie" at his place and you barely know him he is definitely up to NO good. He sounds like a man w h o r e.
I think you are more upset that you let yourself be used then with what he has done.
It's not only about letting this go, but more about you and your ability to handle yourself in these situations. Actually, you are setting this situations up to happen. You need to figure out why you are doing this.
Your gfs have given you poor advice. You don't need a man in order to move out of your parents' home. You have to be confident enough to do this on your own. I would suggest you find another group of female friends because this group doesn't have a CLUE about men and meaningful relationships. They see men as a solution to all..............well, hon..........they aren't.
You can't build a meaningful relationship with a man based SOLELY on sex. If they find you are too easy and they get what they want quick and fast then they are usually out of there quick too. It doesn't matter how mind-blowing the sex was.
Use your intellect to get out of your parents' house; not your body.
He got what he wanted and he is probably onto the next one. Any guy offering a "movie" at his place and you barely know him he is definitely up to NO good. He sounds like a man w h o r e.
Something is definely wrong with me. I keep doing this to myself. Even the last crazy one had the moral thought to text back the next morning. My heart shouted : " this is mission accomplished, I don't need you anymore. If I ignore maybe you'll go away". I just couldn't grasp it. I think in any culture if the guy does not make an effort of contact then it's been there done that too". I just didn't want to read the signs wrong.
I can't tell him to buzz off he hasn't messaged me on his own. I think I'm being told to buzz off. He started off hounding me on reg basis. When he achieved what he wanted? Havent heard from him since. My girlfriends say give him the benefit of a doubt maybe something is up. But I see him online just he doesn't message me. from what you ladies told me and what my guy friend translated it? I should just throw it in the "hit&run category* try to get over this.
I can't tell him to buzz off he hasn't messaged me on his own. I think I'm being told to buzz off. He started off hounding me on reg basis. When he achieved what he wanted? Havent heard from him since. My girlfriends say give him the benefit of a doubt maybe something is up. But I see him online just he doesn't message me. from what you ladies told me and what my guy friend translated it? I should just throw it in the "hit&run category* try to get over this.
simply, this keeps happening to you. It seems like you really aren't understanding that this will happen again if you have sex with a guy on the first date. Yes, it does go in to the "mission accomplished" category and you're out the door. Been there, done that.
If you want to have those relationships (and some girls do, who knows why) that's one thing, have sex with whoever you want.
But you don't seem to want that and yet can't seem to understand how to have a long term relationship and not feel used.
A good way to start is not to do more than a quick kiss for the first 3 dates. Then see where it goes from there.
If you want to have those relationships (and some girls do, who knows why) that's one thing, have sex with whoever you want.
But you don't seem to want that and yet can't seem to understand how to have a long term relationship and not feel used.
A good way to start is not to do more than a quick kiss for the first 3 dates. Then see where it goes from there.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Sorry this happened. But, I think you know deep down he was using you. You gave in too easy. He's not looking for you to be his girlfriend. Move on, tell him to buzz off and don't let loneliness cause you to make poor decisions. good luck
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Your posts implies that he owes you something and i am wondering what that would consist of on your part. Do you want him to appoligise for not seeing that you were vulnerable at that time?