More than friends?

[she90]

Hi.
So theres this best friend I have, he's a guy.It was a weird start to the friendship, as the first time we started talking was when I admitted I had a crush on him, and at that point he told me in the nicest way possible that he didnt have mutual feelings, but had feelings for one of my oldest friends. at the time I was hurt and felt like de ja vu as this has happened to me many times before with the same old friend.
But in recent weeks, we have been hanging out so much, weve been talking everyday, somehow.and talk about everything. A few weeks ago he wrote me a letter telling me how much I meant to him as a friend etc. and it meant so much to me.
Last night we even went to a salsa dancing class together, it was so weird for me coz i was so nervous about dancing and then also with him.
Ive been having feelings for him a lot more lately and its driving me crazy coz i dont know whether i should just act normal so he doesnt realise, or to distance myself. Im so scared our friendship will not remain. He has become a rock to me, we have late night convos about everything and anything and he comes to pick me up in the middle of the nigt if we are both hungry and we go out and eat and just chill.
It's my first real friendship with a guy so im not sure how to approach any of the signs or whether he is just a generally nice guy, i am trying to put in perspective if id hang out as much or do the random things if it was with a chick mate.
I don't know if it is mutual, and if it is how to approach the subject. or if it isnt, then what? I love the time we spend together and wouldnt want to break our friendship for anything in the world.
People who see us and know how much we talk and hang out think we are a couple coz of the amount of times we are around eachother.
It's a hard topic coz i know guys think differently to girls, girls generally anylise everything and guys are more relaxed, so i dont want to do anything stupid or over react to the situation.
Any advice or anything at all to help would be most valuable coz ive come to a point where I don't know how to handle the situation anymore.
Thanks

[specialmom]

Yes, agree with the ladies.  I think he's made it clear that you are friends only.  Spending time together is something that you do with friends but since you have the crush you are trying to read more into it.  

Be very careful of secondary gain on his part.  That is when someone keeps around someone that he knows has a crush and likes them because it strokes their ego.  That feels really good.  Always nice that you have a back up that is always available.  He may even flirt with you at times to keep the secondary gain for himself going.  This isn't a bad thing as it is subconscious and human nature.  But when you are the one with the feelings, it stinks.

Be friends with him but find someone that has mutual interest in you for dating.  good luck

[Gotmoxy]

I agree with AnnieBrooke on this one. I had a couple of friends (guy and gal) that were best friends with each other. The guy really relied on her and would always stay over, and call on her whenever he was lonely. Although, there was absolutely no attraction between them. They were attached at the hip, but there were no sexual or romantic desires. So, just think of him as a really close girlfriend, because that's probably all he'll ever be. You don't want to get your hopes up, and then watch him hook up with someone else.

[AnnieBrooke]

Stick with the assumption that you're just friends.  If he ever changes his mind on the issue, he'll let you know.  Right now, he's not making any moves.  He would if he was thinking of you in a romantic way.  Have fun and enjoy your conversations and hanging out and dancing.  You might see less of that when he does hook up with a girlfriend (who am I kidding, you'll see a lot less of it) so be prepared for that, and enjoy the time you've got for what it is, friendship.