Mother issues

[brownhair]

When I go t my mother's house, she treats me like an unwanted guest even though she asked me to come. However, when others, like friends or relatives that are not very close to her, she has the best hospitality for them. I do not understand it. When I come to her home, she will nip pick and nag about everything. She acts as if I am going to destroy her home, but when others come visit. She tells them make themselves at home. She is so nice to them. I cannot talk to her, because it turns into an argument. She doesn't take any responsibility for her actions.  I think this is a bigger problems she might have for me. I am not sure what is her problem. Any ideas, suggestions???

[Nighthawk61]

Sometimes mothers do not know how to be very nurturing to their own I'm afraid. If there's nothing that you are doing to warrant her knit picking, and nagging you , i'm afraid you will have to make a choice. You can let her know how she is being unfair, and tell her unless you two are able to get closer and more affectionate it is too hard on you to continue to visit. Maybe even suggest that you both go to counseling , to find a better way to communicate. i think it's worth the effort, to try and have a loving respectful relationship with a parent. I'm sorry that you're feeling bad about this. Be good to yourself and feel better :) xo  Big hugs.

Please know you can send me a message anytime and we can talk. I know how hard it is to be feeling dispossessed by a parent. I've felt that way my entire life with my parents. and its' hard. Only the love of friends ; a partner or a child can displace the negativity. So i hope you have those kinds of relationships to help ease the pain and if not, that's what you need to work on. Have faith. Things will get better.