Moving on from a crush.

[BriannaLisa95]

I'm a 19-year-old female, and I have just started attending college for about 4 months now, I've been trying to forget a few things from my high school life. This is an embarrassing and slightly shameful thing to admit, but I had (unfortunately still have) feelings for a former teacher I had in high school. To.me this is terrible and I am aware it is wrong to believe I am in love with.a teacher, so I will state that I was and apparently still am infatuated by this person. It *****. I have tried to grow out of it, but whenever I see someone who has similar features of him, my heart races, I begin to feel nervous and euphoric the same way I would if he were near me. I was absolutely obsessed with him. But I tried pushing those feelings away, though I can't control the emotions I just explained. I have dreams about him, of simply impressing him, not kissing or engaging with him sexually (I've only ever had one dream of that happening). I just want to get over him, but I can't. I enjoy admiring him. I really just wish I could find someone who can distract me from my infatuation of him. I want to learn to be interested in someone who is better and attainable as opposed to someone I can't have. I fear that will never happen. And I fear I will never get over this crush. I have had crushes on people before and they managed to slip away, but this one has been lingering for a couple of years.

[BriannaLisa95]

Thanks! :)

[RockRose]

It takes about 3 years for a crush that was never really a relationship to extinguish.  So you're not going to have to go through the pain and hurt of  the relationship breaking up,  and disappointment,  and remembering awful fights,  but you still have to put in your 3 years.  ;D

Here's the deal.  When you start to think of him,  don't.  The moment you feel yourself thinking about him,  do math in your head.  This crush is causing endorphins in your brain to squish around,  and that's addictive - if you stop this cycle of thinking about him,  then the endorphin rush,  you'll get over him a lot faster.

Best wishes.