Moving on???

[Kittykat100]

I'm aware of how codependant I am. I wish I wasn't but I have this constant need to be with someone and have that person with me whenever I need them.
I portray myself as being a strong person when secretly I've been screwed over by guys so many times it's making me begin to really despise guys right now.
I'm finally being able to be attracted to other guys since my break up (relationship of 2 years). And it feels great. But now I'm at the point where I don't know how to act around other guys.. I feel like I'm on an emotional rollar coaster and idk how to be after all that's happened.
There's this guy I really like but I don't even know how to act around him.. Can annyone help with this? Or any advice from personal experience?

[teko]

Absolutely agree with special mom here. You need to find out who you are and be comfortable in your own skin and leave the guys till later on.

There is a big misconception out there that is going around. Someone else, anyone else is not going to fulfill all your needs. Or make you happy.  That is your job. Once that is accomplished, you can choose who you want to share life with, and not because you are needy. Needy is not attractive at all. Self sufficient and confidence in ones self is so much sexier and tends to have better outcomes in the relationship department.

[specialmom]

Kittykat, I'm concerned.  I've read all of your posts and I'm not sure if I'm getting through to you.  I think you need to see a counselor.  Your a teen ager and writing in other forums about your sex life that is current so it seems to me that you are indeed playing with fire.  I think that you need stay away from guys completely---------- not have one date for the time being.  You are not in a position to make good choices.  You need to address the anxiety, depression and eating disorder now and not worry about guys or your sex life.  I speak bluntly as I'm surprised by the post here and on other forums.  My support to you goes out in the form of trying to help.  And you have to help yourself as I'm not your mother.  Some girls with eating disorders end up in a rehabilitation facility as it is a psychiatric issue.  It needs to be taken seriously.  Codependency as a word written by a teenager is very worrisome.  You are not in a stage of life that you should be codependent as you are really still a child.  I'm wondering about past sexual abuse to be honest.  Again, I speak bluntly because I think that you need help.  I really want you to get it.  I think if you don't, you will end up in situations that will send your life careening out of control.  I don't want that for you.  Please talk to your mother, be honest about things and get to a therapist and perhaps a psychiatrist. Until then-------- the best thing for you is no guys at all.   good luck