My 3 year affair with a married man

[Vbetineli]

I hope you don't judge me while I am seeking for your advice. I am having an affair with a married man for almost 3 years. We are now having  recurring issues having sex because he cannot get an erection.We have tried everything and it seems impossible for him and for me to make it work. This is also a new situation for me and I would like to hear your opinion about this problem i am facing.
Do you think he no longer feels attractive to me? Do you think he has another lover?
Please your opinions based on experience or perception is appreciated

[Londres70]

"Do you think he no longer feels attractive to me? Do you think he has another lover?".........................These may just be the same questions his wife is asking herself.

I call cheating the gift that just keeps giving........in a bad sense.

Cheaters aren't usually monogamous and it is HIGHLY probable that he is cheating on you.

[TTinKKerBBell]

Yes!!  He has another lover - Her name is Wife

He's cheating on You with Her while He's cheating on Her with You

It's not fair to say "I'm having an affair with a married Man - but don't judge me" - You can't have it both ways.

[Chima7]

It could be guilt is finally catching up to him. Maybe after all this time he's actually developed a conscience and he feels bad about being a lying sack of dog poo. Hey, that's a positive thing if it were the case, because maybe he's finally waking up and seeing that cheating on his wife is a bad idea.

Either that or Karma finally caught up to him and has rendered him impotent for his adulterous behavior.

Either way he sounds like a loser so I'd kick him to the curb if I were you. I mean I'd literally take my foot and kick him in his butt until he went flying through the door and hopefully landed on the sidewalk hard enough to ring his bell. Cheating husbands are seriously pond scum.

[specialmom]

I can't support or condone an adulterous relationship.  You are setting yourself up for great heartache.  It's unfortunate you've chosen this lifestyle.  not judging you, but sad that this is the life you are living at this time.  I want better for you.  

and a better guy.

I also agree with life's line of thinking.  Cheaters cheat and I would consider that you may not be the only one hon.  

I'm sorry for this situation and hope you find your way out of it.  good luck

[Life360_Dave]

Other than the erectile issue, why do you mention hes married. You could have just as easily said he is your husband and we never would know this. I sense theres more underlying concerns. Since he cheats are you concerned hes also now cheating on you?