My Bf Left me for someone else because i was not having sex with him

[yushmee1]

My Bf left me for another girl. i have been with him for one year and we got separated many times and got back each time. he has always showed to me that he only wants sex. but since we didnt have sex but we had other forms of it...i got attached to him and i started loving him and these intimate moments meant a lot for me and not for him. He once even told me that i dnt promise that i'll marry u...just concentrate on wat we are today..i love u and u love me..zats all. he was a real jerk. he has hurt me a lot. today he made me know that look im with another girl and im happy and sincere with her...he loves zat girl because zat girl is sleeping with her. since i have always refused to sleep with him as once he broke my trust by having an affair with another girl...i forgave him just 4 ze sake of love...sh*t nw i wonder where was my self respect. he has always made me feel zat u should sleep with me first then i'll love u it's not that i love zats y i want u so much to express my feelings through sex. it's only some time mayb 2 or 3 weeks zat he knows zat girl. i have heard zat their relationship is very serious mayb he'll marry her in the future. even i was shattered into pieces when he tld me zat he is with her..i tld him zat im happy zat u have found some1 and im happy 4u...i'll stop irritating u as i think u take it like this. finally i have cut off all contacts with him. Guess wat my bf is a doc....sometimes i wonder wats the use of having such a high profile job..when u really dnt have a good sense of humour and cheap thinking. he's 25years and im 22years old and im a university student. im a very respectful girl. i have always thought abt my parents who are investing so much in my studies before doing any wrong thing and zat guy kept on forcing me. he never had any respect 4me. feelings, emotions, love..these are just words nowadays. people really dnt knw their real meaning. sometimes i wonder is sex zat important in a relationship? my bf kept on telling me zat if we'll have sex we'll get more closer and we'll get to knw each other but i nver believed him because he has always showed to me that he was a jerk. im happy zat i used my brain and not my heart 4 not trusting him....but it damn hurts because i loved him. he never respected me 4 wat i am..it's like he has always forced to change 4him. im just trying to move on focusing more on my studies...i love my parents and God....

[Marcus177]

sorry, I was talking about myself being immature. Let this guy go and keep your head up. If you follow your plans, you will find a better guy when the time is right.  Everything has a season aka a time.  Don't push things to happen. Just help it along and stay true to your beliefs.  

[yushmee1]

hey guys i just got the news that my boyfriend is getting married to that girl very soon. mayb in the coming year. haha its a damn serious relationship between them. he knew that girl only for one month and i even got to know that...that girl is elder than him. she's a doc too... Im happy 4 him. Actually lately he was about to choose between me n her... he even told me that there was not serious with that girl...he was just sexually involved to that girl and thats all. i think what he really meant that girl was like a **** to him. lol. he was about to be in a serious relationship with me by pissing off that girl as he told me that im a serious girl.....im still thinking how my ex-bf has been able to get along with that girl...because he is very egoistic type. he always used to tell me that he will never marry someone in his field of profession but finally he'll marry a doc who is much more qualified than him. i just hope this relationship really works. nw i realise i was just an option. im just wondering how can he be so immature.oh my goodness. i just pray that they will live happily after....sh*t i regret loving him so much. but i do believe that i deserve someone better...it's like he is slapping me on the face by marrying this lady.too many unfair thing happens in this world...it's like u do good ...u keep on suffering and others do bad...they keep on enjoying their life happily :(...it damn ***** n it hurts too...wat a life

[ChristineMP]

Pretty sure Marcus was referring to when he himself was an immature young man :) so he was saying your bf was immature.

[yushmee1]

aha who is immature me or my bf??? u know for me its trust that comes first in a relationship and then understanding. i agree that sex also forms part of love but it can't be the reason that the relationship doesnt work. if my bf would have given me more attention, respect, care, love, trust and he would have understood me then having sex with him would have been nothing. but unfortunately he has never been able to play his role as a bf and he has never been able to win my heart. he forgot what i did 4 him so i think i didnt lose anything. he lost me indeed.my intuition has always been my guide...my heart has always said that he is not the right person but i was so blind in love that i accepted him despite all his faults n stupid attitude.
Thanks 4 ur views...

[Marcus177]

You did the right thing for starters.  He probably did not love you as he said. However, at that age (being immature),  I would have broken up with you too if you were not putting out.  Just being honest.  You did the right thing. Give it time and you will feel better.

[cheshchesh819]

Do not be so hard on yourself,yyou had your boundries and you stood by them,that in its self makes for a strong person,which you are,this man sounds like he will never settle down,he probably has more feelings for you than you think,but he lets his tool rule his life(sorry for the line),i know it hurts to try and get over somebody,but believe me you are sooooooo much better than this person,let the others have him,if they are willing to give into his needs against their will then more fool them,as you stated you are rspected and you appreciate all your parenys have done for you,and with such a big heart and a strong mind you will go far in this world,and one day meet the man of your dreams who you will feel comfortable will and enjoy a healthy sex life,and not feel that it is the only way he will stay.i applaud you for sticking to your ways and wish you every luck in the world.

[ChristineMP]

I am so sorry that you have been hurt. Please know that eventually you will meet someone who will respect you and love you and be worthy of your love. This man did none of the above.

Hang in there! (((hug)))

[AnnieBrooke]

You might be lonely now, but think how lonely you would feel if you went against all of your self-respect and slept with him just so he would "love" you, and then he left anyway after he got all the sex he wanted.  He didn't love you, he just wanted to sleep with you.  I'm sorry!

You'll do better with the next guy, or the next.  Decent men do exist, and men who do believe in love, and who fall in love.