My boyfriend has icons on his desktop of his ex girlfriends, is it wrong or am i over reacting?

[summerxlove09]

I was on my boyfriends computer the other night and i saw icons (the shortcut where you just double click it and it comes up on the desktop) I clicked it because i knew it was a picture so i was i guess you can say i was noisey and i prob shouldn't of opened it but i did and there was a picture of a girl so i looked through more and each picture was a different girl. I asked him about it and he told me they were his ex girlfriends and he keeps them to remember faces bc he doesn't want to forget his past. Should i be mad? Does this mean he still has feelings for them? We been toghter for almost a year and he has one picture of me up there to. I know it would be wrong to ask him to delete them and i will not ask him that i am just wondering do i have a reason to be mad or is it really just nothing?

[iam1butterfly]

It's only natural to feel a little put off; but, not pissed off... unless, of course, the images are sexual in content. If they're not sexual; I wouldn't get too stressed over it.

[summerxlove09]

there not naked or anything the worst picture is 1 girl in a bikine on the rest are dressed normal

[iam1butterfly]

if a bikini shot is the "worst"... consider yourself lucky!

[heatherlynn22]

i'd still be mad to find pictures of my hubby's ex on the comp. in fact i'd be livid and he wouldn't be spending the night in the house.

[Judy246]

This is a trick one. I have photo's of every single ex, but they are just that, the past and when I look at them they are my history and my fiance doesn't know I have them and I don't want him getting upset of photo's that I have, before he came along, but they are insignificant, personal, private and most of all meaningless.

We all have a history and with our without photo's the ex's were there before us and were not going to forget them, because they were the past, but to be honest with you I would be pist off if I found his ex's on his computer. He could of put a password, but it's justifiable that you feel offended and jelous. I have my pictures, but my fiance would not see them unless he is ready to see my "past" without getting all bent out of shape, so it was careless of him, but put it on him on what is he going to do about photo's you have seen and are bothered by them. Unless he is talking to anyone one' of them, I really wouldn't be too concern, but definately pist off with the reaction of "Oh, hell no!".  Judy

[summerxlove09]

That i know of hes not talking to them i asked him that once and he says he doesn't talk to any of his ex's. I do believe him bc when i asked him who are these girls in the pictures he admitted it was his ex's he could of just lied to me and said random girls. I think if he was hiding them with a password i would be more mad bc then i feel likes hes trying to hide it from me.

[peggy64]

and he's still your boyfriend?

That is keeping some kind of connection with them, close.

Its not like a picture in a box in the bottom of back of the closet.

[Judy246]

My photo's are in a bag in the bottom and back of my closet and I occasionally look at them, but it means nothing. It's the past and that's it. I would be very bothered if I did find pictures of ex's on his computer and would definately have an issue with it.

[heatherlynn22]

i burned everything from my exes...except one picture frame and that was b/c the d@mned thing cost ME $45. it's REALLY pretty and antique looking and i now have mine and dh's photo from the marine corps ball in it. but everything else....i had a very lovely bonfire with. : o)

[mami1323]

Well I used to keep pics of all my ex's until my fiance found them and got angry and threw them out.  He also tossed out all of his ex's pictures.  It wasn't out in the open or on my computer but it did bother me that he did that because not that I cared for them anymore but that was my past and I liked to look at them to reminisce but not that I wanted to be with them anymore.  However, I didn't really like looking at my fiance's old flames so I guess if you are with someone that you are planning a life with and are with for a significant amount of time, then I would probably think to get rid of them.  If you want to keep them, hide them at your parent's house or hide them in storage.  That's what your boyfriend should've done.  Not keep them as icons on his computer.  Can you suggest to him that he save them on a cd and put them somewhere else and delete them from his computer?  This way he doesn't have to get rid of them but they won't be just a touch of a button away.