My boyfriend isnt keen on having children

[Jazzx]

Hello ladies, my boyfriend isn't keen on having children and hes always said that, even though i know he would make an amazing dad. He knows i would love children some day and he just isn't having the idea. How could i persuade him into trying to have a baby? Also im afraid that if i was to become pregnant he wouldn't want me to keep the baby. What do you think I should do?

[AimeeM18]

My husband 2 don't want the kids he always told me that I'm the Who wants the kids , guess what ? I don't Pay attention for what he said because I love the kids. So when I sleep my husband I always make sure His sperm went inside my body .then after 9 month when the baby come he will love it and he will be happy to have the baby .he's just saying that because there is no baby yet but if it there's a baby I don't see any problem if he doesn't want to keep it  don't listen to him just keep the baby .because the baby are blessing from God

[AnnieBrooke]

Aimee, good luck with that.  It's a bad plan.

[CurfewX]

It's not just bad - it's horribly unkind. Deciding that you aren't going to pay attention to what your spouse wants is no kind of relationship.

[Chima7]

How extremely selfish to force a pregnancy with a guy who has made it clear that he's not interested. And even worse for the unwanted and unloved child who will grow up being hated and resented by their father. No loving mother would ever intentionally put her children thru that nightmare life.

[RockRose]

If you know you want children,  and you know your boyfriend doesn't,  he's not a match.

And Aimee,  that's a bad plan.  I don't know if you've already done it,  or are just planning to do it,  but parenting is HARD.  You're either up for it and want to do it,  or you aren't.  It's not fair to the child to have one parent who doesn't want them.

You can't count on your partner wanting the child once it's there - that's where child abuse comes from, child abandonment,  crappy parenting,  divorce (or break ups) come from.   Most people who say they don't want kids really don't.  The good news is,  there are LOTS of guys who do want kids.  Pick one of them.  ;D

[specialmom]

Sweetie, I don't think you do.  You have a life goal he doesn't.  He may not be a match for you long term. That's hard to accept but the reality.  It should be agreed upon ahead of time if a couple has a child, no surprises.  He's being honest, he doesn't want kids. You have to respect that.  will he change his mind down the road?  He may. He may not.  but you KNOW you want kids.  Pick a partner that agrees with you so you can plan a life together in which you both will feel happy about it.  good luck