My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now. Shortly after we first met, she broke down one day while in bed attempting to make love, and told me about the horror she went through when her father molested her. It hit me like a 1,000 pounds on my heart and I broke down and cried with her. It was the saddest most heartbreaking thing and I had this terrible feeling like I wish I could have protected her, even though of course I know I couldn't have. What's even worse is that she won't let me meet her father and even though we've been living together for years now, he still doesn't even know I exist. Whenever she "has to go see him" she says its not her choice, I'm not allowed to come, at one point she even said " you'll just make it worse for me, trust me." She promises nothing has ever happened since she was a kid, she did end up telling her mom, but her mom then died. When she was 16 she slit her own wrists, not because she wanted to die, but because she wanted to go to a clinic just so that she wouldn't have to live with him. Why then, I wonder, does she go out of her way now, to protect him, make exscuses for him, and ultimately see him. I don't know how much longer my heart can deal with this sick situation, it just seems wrong, I'm not sure if I'm the one who's wrong though, or what to do. How can we move forward with our future, when there's this huge problem in the way?