Hey everyone, I'm hoping to get a diverse selection of answers here.
Okay, so the problem here is my girlfriend doesn't want to have sex....I fear its something deeper than I know.
Let me give you a baseline. We've been on and off for the past three years, at this point we've been together for almost a year and its been pretty good.
The start of things was amazing, we had sex like we would die without it, in fact, at one point she told me that she wanted me to need sex from her. I got used to that, I could be half way to passing out and I'd get woken up so I could screw her brains out, and when we were done, 20 mins later it was happening again. Out side of the bedroom things were awesome, everytime I would get home she would jump into my arms like she hadn't seen me for days,. We would go out and do things together all the time, we laughed and smiled together, basically we made eachother happy.
The middle, we hit a rough spot somewhere and I had lied to her about somethings...She was totally pissed. Yet, we still slept together all the time. Still hung out, still laughed and smiled together, without much effort on either part things were still pretty damn good.
Present, look, I lied I know. I'm a really good guy though, I've been honest since then, I bend over *** backwards for her. I give her my cell phone to use at work, I make her food all the time, I clean everything, I make the bed, I have her coffee ready for when she gets up, I take care of our dogs, I've cleaned her car on more than one occasion, I give her massages(back, shoulder, feet) I buy her things, I do everything I can to show her that I'm serious and that I care about her... and none of that matters, atleast thats what it seems like. She would rather be anywhere than be at home with me, she doesn't like to go out and do things with me anymore, sex hasn't happened since March somewhere around March 8th. I try to start things with her, spooning is generally how we fall asleep, and I try kissing her neck, she just kinda pretends to sleep, lately we laugh a bit together but not nearly enough. I haven't tried to bring up our problems in a while though, I bought her a ring a while back and she asked what it was supposed to mean, and I just said, "all I want is to be with you" her reply, "You are with me"
I don't think she knew what I meant. I wanted to feel like a couple again.
Does anyone have any suggestions?!