My guy friend told me he likes me & I told him also but everything is so confusing?

[Alexmorgan13]

Okay so me and my guy friend have been really good friends for like 5 years. I liked him the day we first met in 7th grade but I wasn't sure if I liked him more than a friend or just as a friend. In 10 grade during summer I had a quince and I asked him if he would be in it he got to know my family and everyone really liked him but then he ends up going out with my friend. While they were going out I realized that they really liked eachother so my feelings started to fade away but I took time. They went out for 8 or 9 months and then they broked up and right when my feelings where fading away they all came flying back at me. During sophomore year in summer I would go to soccer conditioning for high school and one of my friends asked me do you like him and I said I don't know why and she told me because he likes you and then ran away but I wasn't sure if it was ever true because he never told me. junior year around winter he went out with another one of my friends and it was really awkward because we all hanged out together all the time in school it was like a little group and I still liked him but eventhough I knew that he had a girlfriend my feelings never went away this time. After them going out for 8 or 9 months also they broked up but they had broken up for about a day or two before they officially broked up. When they broked up it was really awkward because we were a group of four me him his ex and my friend. So me and my friend felt really awkward because we wanted to hang out with both of them because it wasn't the same but after a while him and his ex started to talk but just as friends. I realized that he wasn't the same so after school me and him would talk since I had time to waste. One day me and him are talking about everything and he tells me he was telling everything that was going on with one of my friends that graduated last year because she was the only one he was able to tell the reason why is because they were talking about me I didn't know what he told her but he ended up telling me I liked him I didn't know what to say so I didn't say anything and we went on like nothing happened so when we said bye I texted my friend the girl he told that he liked me I asked her what I should do and she said to tell him how I feel so I waited to tell him on Monday after school so we can talk about it after school. And we talked about it and we don't want to go into a relationship that might ruin our friendship do we waited. Then my friend invited me to go to GREAT AMERICA  and invited him also while we where there he was holding me and all those things couples do other than kiss. And then on the way back we were texting since my sisters where the ones who tooked us so we couldn't really talk so we where texting and he told him that him and my friend who he told that he liked me where texting and she kept telling him to kiss me and he told me he was tempted to do it but didn't because he didnt want to make it an awkward ride back he then send me the kissing emoji and I sent it back and it went on for a while until we dropped him of at home and we went to sleep. Then on Monday morning he texts me that he doesn't know what he wants and his emotions are everywhere and he just wants to be single for a while and get himself together until he starts dating again because they had only been broken up for a month. So me and him act like nothing happened but I feel like he still likes his ex because they act like they are still going out. I realized it because the way the act together the way they hug he way the talk how they play around with eachother and everything. There are times where they are mad at eachother and don't talk and so they go talk about the situation like if they were going out and I don't know what to do????? Someone please help .

[Londres70]

Ditto SM.

These "she said and then he said" situations are NEVER good; it's merely a gossip mill; drama mill; rumor mill with VERY little truth involved.  Best to always consult the actual source.  You did that and he told you how he felt and what he wants.  You have your answers.  It's not for you to worry about if he still has feelings for his ex or not.

Make more time for important things and don't let this nonsense/drama be the CENTER of your life.

[specialmom]

Okay, so here it is.  My best advice.  Stay focused on school, go to college and get a kick butt job!  good luck

[Nighthawk61]

Well, it sounds like he just wants to be friends with you, that he still may have residual feelings for his ex, and if he is single, he wants to date, and not necessarily be in  a committed relationship. I think you need to get back to the mind set you were in when they were going out. How to do that? Maybe look elsewhere and find someone else that you might consider dating? You've let him know of your interest. Back off and let it ride. Beware though that he might get into kissing you, and it might break your heart because it might not mean to him, what it would mean to you. Better in that case that you don't kiss at all right? Or is it better to love and lost, than to never have loved at all.?

To me, it sounds like he's not thinking of you as his leading lady, And anything but that, is likely to drive you nuts. The best thing to do at times like these it to back off, and redirect your attention. I know you have homework no doubt, but do you have any hobbies? It might be a GREAT time to get a hobby or a part time job to save for something big and get your mind off something going nowhere.?