When you ask for advice or opinions on a public website, you get what you get. As others have said, if you are rethinking actually wanting to hear what people say, contact Med Help and ask for the thread to be removed.
Yes, medhelp will delete it for you. Our intentions weren't to make you feel bad. We just are looking from the outside in whereas you are the one involved in the relationship. We tend to see things that you don't or wish to not see. I hope things do get better for you and that you can be happy in whatever life decisions you make. I know I've written many a post on here that I got slack over and questioned myself for even posting. But I'm still here and still posting so don't think that anyone will be so quick to judge you in the future if you choose to post again. Good luck.
Okay... seriously... you can all shut up and let it die now. I wish I realized before I posted it that this retarded forum doesn't let people delete their own threads. Thanks for trying to over your advice and for your good intentions, but please just LET IT GO.
All other things aside, any man who calls you a stupid sl#tty piece of sh*t, for any reason whatsoever, is not a man to hitch your wagon to.
Threesome or not, gay or not...a man who would EVER say those things to you, even in anger, has a severe problem that comes out when he is under stress.
Just remember that, if you do choose to stay with him, which you undoubtably will. Remember that someone warned you.
Well it also kinda explains why she was so quick to get started on the search. If it had been him wanting to be with another woman then I bet she would've thought twice. Maybe she's not too happy in the relationship either if she was so willing to bring a third party into it.
Thanks for answering--the testing thing makes sense, especially since he sounds a bit controlling.
I think he is flipping crazy, but he might have just said it to see how interested she would be in another man. Kind of a test.. Otherwise it seems very strange. Also he might have thought he would get off watching, but usually those are thoughts best left as thoughts and not actually followed through with.
No most guys would want two girls, not another guy.
Extrmeski, I'm curious to know a guy's point of view with regard to him wanting a three-some with another man. Does that seem peculiar to you? Would you suspect he may be gay or bi or do you, as a heterosexual, understand that or have you known other guys who were heterosexual who would likely be into something like that?
guys are funny creatures especially when it comes to sex. I think he was more angry that you jumped on the chance rather than to be a bit coy about it. Now in his mind you are more into it than he is which he is having trouble with. Also there is a bit of a control issue here as well, since you jumped out like that and advertised it, he feels that you are out of his control. His reaction is partially to bring you back in-line as well.
Anyway that is a guys point of view..
Honestly I think that your guy may be crazy. For him to say one thing, then get so mad at you for what he thought up in the first place. That's not right and you don't deserve to be treated like that. Even if it is for one day and the next day he makes up. He is just trying to have control over you, and he is using his temper to control you. And even if someone he knows ends up seeing the pictures, obviously they are interested in it or they wouldn't have been looking up those types of things. Good luck, and don't let him control you like that.
What the last three said. You can't really think otherwise, can you?
I agree with RockRose and mami1323, straight guys do NOT want to see another male naked and being sexual. I know there is no way my partner would want to do this.
I agree with RockRose. Most men don't wish to bring another man into the mix, it's usually another woman. I think that is very strange.
Shenanigans, this is the behavior of gay guys who are desperately trying to force themselves to live a straight life. Just a heads up. This isn't "spicy" sex, this is gay sex.
Real quick point - he was not interested in bringing in another female, but rather, a male. He said he thought I'd enjoy it. So I doubt it was because he harbors secret feelings for another person...
And I just wanted to update on the point. He eventually asked me to come back downstairs and sleep in the bed. The next day was rocky but we sat down the next night to talk it out. He explained that it was mostly cuz he was mad that I didn't consult him before sending out his picture to strangers, and that he was scared that I might have sent the picture to one of his coworkers or someone else he might know. I told him that I really didn't like the idea of a threesome at all, and we both agreed not to mention it at all anymore. Since then, things have been going much better again.
Thanks all for your advice.
He's making you sleep upstairs? How does he have that much power? Tell him to sleep upstairs. I think it's best to talk things out after a cooling off period. I don't think bringing in another party is really going to help your relationship. It may even break the two of you up. Perhaps he has ulterior motives here.
To me, bringing up that he wants a threesome is to say that he wants to have sex with someone else... not that he is an experimental person. If he is using that kind of language when you have fights in general that warrants ending the relationship. You are only dating, for heaven's sakes, and deserve better than a guy who will treat you as such. Good luck.
its actually not true. threesomes dont all turn out bad and can be quite enjoyable if the people in it really want it and espiecilly are secure enough in there relationship to understand its a fling and not get emotionally attached to the third person. this is more common than most people care to beleiev, but there are tons of folks enjoying a threesome and then going on there very normal lives with relationships strongly intact=)
im guessing and agreeing he freaked on you not because you were researching but because he had someone in mind already. which in my mind says something bad about him. usually if they already have someoen in mind and arent willing to let you take a word into the whole "picking out" process than his feelings for this woman may be more than just lust.
him delegating you to another room show signs of a guilty consience! watch him well!
most guys who have been crazy happy that you actually took his sexual fantasy seriously... the fact he wigged out shows somethings wrong with him. not you.
Oh...now I get it. Sorry guess I was a little slow catching on to this (LOL). But it does make sense, he got mad because he had already been scoping. He knew who he wanted to partake in this sexual experimentation and he was probably just scoping you out to see if you would even entertain the idea before he through out the name of his secret obsession. Or could be he didn't have anyone in mind and was just considering it and wanted to get your reaction. But I've thought about this a little more and if your very honest with yourself, do you really think that if you have qualms about this, a little nervous or whatever that maybe you really should take a little more time to really consider if this is a sexual exploration that you REALLY want to try out. Seems to me if your first instinct was no, you must have some moral or something that doesn't want you to do this. Sorry I mean no offense I just have no desire to and would never do anything that would jeopardize my morals within myself, it has nothing to do with anyone else it's all about me, but I sure mean absolutely no disrespect to those who do, to each his own.
ive never been in a threesome but from my really good friend i know they dont turn out to be threesomes you end up getting left out and then the other two began to see each other more and more etc. its just a way to get the other girl that hes been wanting to have sex with and if you agreed to the 3some then you basically giving him permission
oh, now i get it! after a few moments i realized that it's a possibility that he didn't want YOU scoping out anything. he's already got the girl in mind
im confused
did he want the darned threesome or not
sorry i thought you said you sent some pictures, and i still think 2 is a couple and three is a crowd, anyway all in all ,it does not sound like he wants you around, also you say he makes you sleep elsewhere, no one can make you do anything you dont want to do, and if he does not want you around leave and good luck jo