My mother-in-law and co-sister have ruined my life. How can I get back my Husband?

[sagana]

I got married last year and my marriage life went on well for the first two months with my husband. Then my mother in law started pestering me and my husband about baby. So we planned to start a family and I got conceived in the 4th month after my marriage. Everything was fine and my in-laws took extreme care of me and were happy. But in my 4th month of pregnancy, they all of a sudden asked me if I know the sex of the baby in my womb and they asked me to go to some small hospitals and check it. I didnt understand why they were saying so. But I didnt do it. Later in the fifth month, they insisted me to check and they said they will agree to let me stay at home only if I give birth to a boy baby. If it was a girl baby, they said that I should not enter the house. I have a co-sister who has a son and she also encourages and screws my mom-in law against me. Since I didnt determine the sex of the baby, they assumed it to be a girl baby and started torturing me. My husband is a mother's boy and he doesnt speak a word against her. If at all he speaks, his mother even raises her hand on him. But still he supported me to his best atleast by convincing me after his mother ill treats me. Finally I had a Girl baby born. This made them very angry. I came to my mother's house after delivery since I had a c-section done. During this time, my mom-in-law and my co-sister started brain washing my husband. Initially he was okay and used to call me atleast to ask about our daughter. But now he doesnt even call me or pick up my call. One day my co-sister called me and spoke in such a way to irritate me. I remained calm to her and and later told my husband wat she spoke. He just asked her why she has spoken like this. This made her angry and she has created a very big scene at home telling a lot of lies to my mom-in-law and her husband. Now everyone at home joined together and are brain washing my husband by saying a lot of lies to him about me and my respect towards their family. They have told him that I should not come to their home here after and that he too should not come over to my parents home to see Me and my Daughter. My husband too has agreed to this and is behaving the same with me. He is not picking my call or even replying to my messages. I'm helpless and told my parents. My parents are ready to go to my home and speak with my in-laws. But I'm sure that they will create that itself as a problem and turn that against me by again telling my husband that I trying to insult them by making my parents question them. I know for sure this is wat my mom-in-law will do. This is wat they are actually trying for. Now their only aim is to divorce me and get my husband married to someone else. But havnt taken any legal actions yet. And my husband says he doesn't know wat to do and also that he cannot speak against his parents!
     This is wat happened. But my wish is to live with my husband. I believe that he might change his mind if not
influenced by his family members. I want him back for me and my baby. I'm helpless. My parents too are helpless. What can I do now? How can I get back my husband?

[specialmom]

I'm also really sorry to hear this. Sometimes it is hard for me to understand cultures that run this way in which the married wife has few rights in the family.  Because that is so far from my culture, it is hard for me to know how to give you advice.  What is divorce like in your country?  In some countries this is very difficult.  However, one thing that I note which is a true positive is that your parents are supportive of you and you CAN stay there.  Sometimes this is not the case and there is nowhere for a woman and her children to go.  So, I guess you have to decide if you are okay moving on.  Your husband may come around or he may not.  It sounds like his family has great control and influence over him.  But you can live in peace with your daughter with your parents.  No, don't let your parents go talk to them as I agree this will cause further issues.  Toxic people -- this is what your in laws sound like.  They wanted someone to provide a male to the family.  And that is about it.  Let us know how this goes.  hugs

[RDVW]

Oh my, I'm so sorry to hear this. Sounds to me your in-laws might suffer from NPD. It's of course impossible to say but it points in that direction. Your best shot is getting your husband on your side and that shouldn't be too hard. Get yourself educated about narcissists. Search Google on how to deal with them, what they do, and why they do it. It'll take some time. Then tell your husband to do what he vowed to do: stand by your side. Educate him. Open his eyes. Then try to make it on your own withour your parents or in-laws. You can.