Nearly cheated

[Lailalou2014]

I'm ridden wiv guilt as I nearly cheated or think I nearly cheated on my partner, I know it's confusing. I know full well there was no kissing, touching, sex etc.
I went out and got very drunk, which I never do and bumped into an old colleague. Started telling him how if I wasn't with someone we would of hooked up ages ago and how I knew he fancied me. It was just being silly, and he was kind of looking after me holding my hand and helping me round the bar. Just generally joking around.
I ended up going back his with lots of other people and he was even with a girl, who me and another were just being rude to, but in a jokey way. I no way fancy this colleague, just see him as a friend.
I Am now ridden with guilt that I allowed myself to say those things, feel like I've cheated. I think about it continuously and don't know what to do :-(

[specialmom]

Cheating?  Or flirting?  

Very different.  I think cheating is a big deal whether alcohol is involved or not and am glad that the poster did not actually cheat.

But when you feel yourself doing things you aren't proud of, it's wise to investigate it and get a handle on it so you don't repeat it.  My opinion anyway.  

[Amibk]

Or it's just alcohol and stupid and not deep

[specialmom]

Well, cheating is a problem if you love your partner.  

Chima is probably right that it is best to look at your drinking.  While you didn't cheat, you should look at why you took this action and 'could have' as your inner voice is trying to tell you something.  And alcohol sure can mess a simple night with friends up.  So please be careful.  good luck sweetie!

[Amibk]

Alcohol will do that. Afterward you create a , but maybe? And it grows. Forget it. Even if something did happen,  which it didn't, so what. It's not the end of the world, doesn't make you a bad person.

Don't feel guilty, you don't sound like you deserve it. Forget it

[Chima7]

The good news is, you didn't actually cheat. Saying certain words doesn't make anyone a cheater. Actions are what determines a cheater. Since you didn't physically do anything sexual with anyone then you didn't cheat.

However, one thing you might want to consider is getting a handle on your drinking. Because it's not good to get drunk to the point where you would possibly do or say things that you will regret later. There's nothing wrong with getting a little tipsy, but getting full on drunk where you need someone's help getting around the bar because you can't walk yourself is bad. Hopefully you will not drink like that again because you've learned that it's not worth it.

[specialmom]

Well, it sounds like you are confused.  I think the best thing to do is yes, A. get rid of the guilt.  You didn't cheat.  All you did was say you weren't with your boyfriend.  

So, instead of guilt, try to understand yourself.  Were you motivated for the attention?  Was flirting feeding something inside of you?  Deep down, do you kind of miss being single and that 'rush' a new person and new attraction gives you?  

You're human.  So, don't beat yourself up.  But you do need to understand the motivation to make sure you don't derail your current relationship.  good lu ck

[Londres70]

Nothing happened.  Why the "guilt?"

If you did NOT "fancy" this guy then why go on with this type of banter?  And then you went to his place?  Then he was with a girl and you still carried on like this?  Was this strictly because of the alcohol?  If so....... then lay off the alcohol especially if it causes you to SAY silly, mindless things to people and DO silly, mindless things with people.

Lastly, are you having problems in your current relationship?