**POTW!!.. How do you know it’s true love?

[pcarsey]

How do you know if the person you are with is "the one"? Do you feel it is true love?

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23%

 (5) 

you've always 'just known' from the 1st second

0%

 (0) 

shared values and/or shared interests

9%

 (2) 

mutual support, equality and respect in relationship

9%

 (2) 

feel head over heels all time (passion and lust)

9%

 (2) 

feel want to be together ALL the time

4%

 (1) 

want same things in the future (babies, marriage etc)

23%

 (5) 

s/he is your best friend

19%

 (4) 

other (please post what!)

21 Members voted

[wanting4#1]

For me, it was that he was the one that I wanted to be there when I got bad news or the first person I wanted to tell about my good news.  We have our ups and downs, but at the end of the day...I know that he's the one that understands me the best and the one that I want to make happy!

[heatherlynn22]

the dh and i have been friends forever. since we were 6 or 7 actually. i knew back then that he was my prince. even though he was such a pain in the but little boy. we lost touch when we got into middle school. i had my friends he had his (and we went to different schools) then when i was 19-20 i started dating a friend of his (i had also known him growing up) that was stationed with him in japan. he was cheating on me with pretty much anything that had bb's and a vagina....so greg told me. we became friends again and shortly after were "dating". (he was in japan i was still back here in the burgh) his leaves we would be together for the entire week/ 2 weeks. a year after we started dating when he was home for christmas/new years leave we went out to dinner. (he was wearing his blues and omg did he just look so incredibly handsome!!!!) when we were going into the restaurant he got down on one knee...took out a ring box that had the most beautiful diamond ring in it and asked me to be his wife. lol. after a rocky 2 year engagement here we are married with 2 wonderful little boys.

[pbbsmommy]

I had known my husband for 7 yrs now. We met through a friend of his and once I laid eyes on him I wanted him so bad.. we became friends for a while and then one day he asked me do you want to be my girlfriend at his friend's house and of course I said yes! Now we are happily married. I picked respect and mutality cause you need respect in relationships without respect there's no point of being with that person!

Sincerly,
Kendra

[lori0615]

My husband and I have been married for 3 and half years now and we are doing great. I would have to say all of the above. That would be the answer for me. Thanks.

[kellym]

I was dating a "bad boy" when I met DH. DH was my flight instructor and there is something to be said about a man in charge :) Although out of the plane he was a bit timid and not enough "bad boy". We became very close and broke up w/our significant others. Although I had this STRONG want to be around him, I would not claim him for my boyfriend. BUT no one else could have him. I had my own house and he moved in w/me, paying rent. It wasn't really sexual at first, just a strong love for the person he was. ANYWAYS. I always thought the sex connection was "ok".  I was really scared but wanted him and always told myself it would get better.
We got married in May will be 4 years. NOW, I can't get enough of him! I love him soo much. He is everything I could want in a man. Everything just came in time. The sex, the friendship, the family. I love him! HE is the one I want to be with forever :)

[pcarsey]

You know, it's funny that I come up with these polls and hardly answer them myself..lol I would have to say on this one..

I met DH online. He had been off work recovering from a hernia surgery and had just bought land near my area, so he was looking to find friends from this area. When he first sent me a message I thought he was weird. I had never met anyone like him. He was too nice! (that was what was weird about him.. ahaha) Then when he eventually came down to his land to start getting it cleared off to build a house we met at a coffee shop. When I walked in (I didn't know who I was meeting, is why we met in public) I looked at this table that had only one guy sitting at and knew it was him. He smiled at me and had such a warm look to him. I was in no way ready for a relationship so we just talked with nothing more in mind. After a few months of him coming down and us meeting up for coffee or a bite to eat, he asked me out on a "movie" date. We had a great time, but I just couldn't see myself with him as a couple. It would be no more then friends, and we both thought mutually of this. I would go to his land on the weekends and help him clear trees and brush. We eventually built a garage together. Then it came time to build his little strawbale home and I helped with that too. Throughout all this I stumbled upon the thought of us ever being more then friends. To make a really long story with many many details short.. We eventually became a couple and about a year and a half later and many ups and downs, he asked me to marry him and move into his little house with him and my children. We got a tubal reversal 3 months after we married and now have a 9 1/2 month old of our own along with my other 2 children.

How did I know it was true love? I don't think I ever "knew", but rather, I discovered that this was the one guy who knew all my fears, could name all my strengths and weaknesses. Who loved me unconditionally even when I felt like giving up, one who gave me courage to keep on going and keep on giving. And he is the one who proved to me that I do have a heart worthy of loving. And I do have the capabilities of loving and giving back to him just as much!  

[msniki412]

Well Im not married yet...but I have been with my boyfriend for now 2 years and I love every second of it. We share so much in common and we both love being with each other every second we get. He supports me both physically and mentally and I do the same for him. We have our ups and downs...but thats in every relationship. We always manger to work out our problems...and always learn to love each other again like day 1. Even though I dont really always see it, but I know I've changed him for the better. He does more for himself since I've been with him...I think he is really starting to grow up, which is good!!! I remember the first day I met him face to face, and at that moment I knew he was the one I wanted to be with forever. I got that vibe from him, that I knew he loved me for me and that was it....I was hooked!

[treazzure007]

all of the above!

[iam1butterfly]

The love of my life died 2 1/2 years ago. But, I didn't fully realize that he was "the one" until after his death. So, sometimes you know whether or not they are or were the one... when they're gone!

[PrettyKitty1]

I'd say all of the above!!!!! And although no one is perfect, and we have things to work on, I believe deeply in my heart my husband is the man of my life. I just love that man!!

iam1butterfly,

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how you feel.

[zzzmykids]

Dear Pearsey,
How, I am not sure. When, in God's timing.  Feelings can't be trusted, we learn that as being bp.  I will tell you once upon a time came a very young and handsome man who captured my whole being by his wink and sly grin. He was not the type I usually fell for, this guy was true blue and decent.
He asked me to marry him shortly after being available from another relationship.  I said no.  He persisted and that was over thirty three years ago and he loves me more than he thought he could the day he said I do.....those are his words.  
He has seen me through the worst of times, the highest of times, the sickest of times the mourning times and he is still here.
He is my best friend, my partner, the husband of our children, my lover and the one I want to be with at the end of a busy day.
Comittment has seen us through the tough times and if I went by feelings, it would never have lasted for this length of time.  Honor your comitment and bind your marriage together with God at the center.
If he is a wife beater type, rounder with other women, lose him now.
zzzmykids

[AHP84]

All of the above!
Prior to this relationship, I came out of a very unhealthy relationship, along with many years of never feeling like I could trust or rely on any men, as my dad and my ex-stepfather had both done things during my lifetime to make me feel unimportant on a few different levels. Fortunately, with my past behind me and the healing power of forgiveness, I have mended the relationship with my dad, and become strengthened and wiser to issues thanks to my ex stepfather and my ex boyfriend (Trevor's father).
I met my current boyfriend, Brandon, a year and a half ago, and I've known from the very beginning that he is the man I not only would be honored to spend the rest of my life with, but also the man that I want Trevor to be influenced by, and the man that I want to be a part of my family.
He treats me like a queen and Trevor like a prince, lol. He is so good to us, and to my family (he includes Emma and Trevor in many things, like we're all going to the circus on Saturday, and today he's coming with me to see my mom in the hospital and he said he's going to bring her some flowers). He is always there to help me with anything from household chores and maintenance to taking care of Trevor to buying me things I need when I can't afford them (like my washing machine). He always has a compliment for me at any given time. He is always encouraging to me and respectful and supportive of everything I do.
I never would have known how good I could have it, I don't think, if I'd never been through so much pain and heartbreak before I met him. I made a promise to myself that I would never subject myself to feeling so low again, much less have such negativity heaped on me from a man. So I made a list of things that I wanted to require of a man in my life, and promised I would NOT compromise more than three things on that list. I made that list nearly a year before I met Brandon and I even wondered if I was setting my standards too high. But I didn't care because I figured I'd rather live alone the rest of my life than risk a bad relationship again.
When I met Brandon and then decided to date him a week later, I kept reviewing that list over and over again for the first couple of months. There are 27 points on that list--and yes, I still have it today--and to this day, Brandon meets 26 of those 27 points.
I think I've got it pretty good!
Now I'm just waiting for him to ask me to marry him... :-D

[vsentz]

He was too darn hot to not marry him!!! lol

I met dh online too Patty! he was a dream of a guy... so nice, so confident and SOOOOO DAMN HOT!
Big blue eyes, tall, well built, cute face, sexy goatie, and a NICE ROUND BEE-HIND!! gosh darn it! I fell for it!

Hehehehe.... he's a pain in my behind, but I love him in a very special way. I was going to marry my 8 year relation boyfriend down in Mexico. I adored him. He was my everything until he cheated on me several times..., I couldn't take it and left.

I met this eye candy online, talked to him for a year... saved some money and came to meet him (he paid my plane tickets!)... I saw him for the first time and just felt like my soul was wrapped around my ankles like my undies the minute I stared at that pale face with the bluest biggest eyes ever.

When I left, we both cried and then I decided to come back.... that's when he asked me to marry him, then went down to Mex to ask my dad and came back to do the deed! (I mean marriage... right?)

We've been painfully... I mean, happily married since 2003! =)) and now blessed with the most beautiful creature in my eyes!

Dang!.... did I mention he has a hot a$$, a nice wide back and a small waist??

ok... it's getting hot in here..... ;P

[pinkbelle]

I met my fiance at work.. lol yeah i know of all places... when i first started working there i always thought he was weird cus he always wore sweats to work ( typical college dude)  but the more I talked to him the more I realized he wasn't the "typical college dude" ... we talked about everything from the very beginning and i felt very comfortable talking to him ( which is very unusual cus im very guarded) he was in a relationship at the time and I was coming out of an abusive relationship.. eventually after a month or two of having lunches together and talking after work.. he broke up with his girlfriend and we went on our first date....  the biggest thing for me is that we were together 4 whole months before we actually had sex... he wanted to get to know me before we did anything physical...  we spent everyday of that 4 months together and finally the day came when we both felt it was right to have sex and before we did we both said i love you for the very first time which made it soo special... and 2 years later here we are with a beautiful baby girl..

He treats me with respect... with so much love and i know he would do anything in this world for me..  he listens to my problems and supports me 100% .. he provides a safe enviroment for both me and our daughter... at just 22 he is more of a man than my ex who was 29 years old was.. he makes me feel safe and that is priceless to me.. : )

[mjml]

Ive known my boyfriend for years and feb last year we felt a spark and just met up for a drink and the rest they say is history! i love him with all my heart and i know he the one from that moment on xx