Please help. I need answers.

[Sara2009]

Okay, so I'm a 14-year-old female. I seriously think something is wrong with me because I have never had a boyfriend or anything. I have always been on the chubby side, but there are people way chubbier than me that have had many boyfriends already. Here is a pic of me: http://s722.photobucket.com/albums/ww222/Sara2640/?action=view&current=Sara.jpg

Am I really that ugly? Is something wrong with me? Please help.

[BearHitch]

Enjoy life right now and do not worry about this - I didn't have a boyfriend until I was out of high school, and while I wasn't at the time - I am very glad looking back.  You can enjoy your friends and learn and not worry about the endless things that come with having a relationship.  

Its always when you stop looking for these things and become content with being single and with who you are that they show up  :)

[megochick101]

Oh honey, don't worry about it. i didn't have a serious boyfriend until I was 17 and that boy is now my husband! The right guy will come along when you're ready! Don't rush it, enjoy your high school years and concentrate on school and yourself! I used to have the same insecurities as you( i was always chubby and thought i looked horrible) but i worked on loving myself and my body the way it was and once i was happy with myself I found my guy, and he loves me the way i am! Now I'm not saying you're going to find your man on the first try but just wait you'll definitely know when he's the right one for you! your young, enjoy your life and focus on your friends and have fun! just like Lucey12 said, when i saw my friends in their relationships it also helped me figure out what i wanted in a man, so just take your time and enjoy your high school days! The world beyond that is a lot different, trust me!

[AHP84]

Hey, don't worry about it! I know you're hearing over and over again that you're young, but it's the truth. Not only that, but there is nothing wrong with you and you are not unattractive (I didn't look at your picture, but I don't need to because anyone who will be worthy of loving you genuinely is not going to love you only for how you look).
I have a sister who will be 14 next month, and she has never had a boyfriend either. She's boy-crazy and would like a bf, but it's not her priority in life thankfully. She has enough on her plate dealing with schoolwork, friend issues, sports, and home life. Plus, she knows and has witnessed what I've been through in my teen years, and fortunately for her, I've served as a good example *not* to follow.
I had my first bf just before I turned 15, and had a horribly rocky and unhealthy relationship with him until I was 22. We ended up pregnant at age 19. Long story short, for me it definitely wasn't worth it, except for my son. But I really wish that I had better common sense at age 14-15 than to be consumed with trying to maintain an exclusive relationship that I wanted to turn into a marriage by the time we were 18-20. At such a young age, I didn't have the maturity or enough sense to listen and not be so stubborn to all the advice that I was too serious about my bf, and that he treated me badly.
Trust me--making the pursuit of a bf your top priority at your age is a mistake, not worth it, and there's practically a guarantee that no good will come of it, no permanence (other than maybe a child you're not ready for)--high school sweetheart relationships rarely ever last or succeed.
Enjoy being young, your friends, school, sports, family, and hobbies you like. Figure out who you want to be, and build up your self-confidence and believe that nothing is wrong with how you look! Some day, you will be the most beautiful woman in the eyes of a man who thinks you're his world. :-)

[heatherlynn22]

you're only 14. i wasn't even allowed to date at 14 and didn't want to. i was so busy with school, sports and my friends to even worry about boys. i didn't go on my first date till i was 16 and didn't have my first real boyfriend till i was almost 17. don't be in such a rush. just enjoy being young. i wish i was 14 again.

[Lucey12]

I know how you want the hugs and butterflies in your tummy and all teh things that comes with a relationship. I felt the same way. I thought (even right before I found my man) that
i would be alone forever. I didnt have a bf till I was just about 18. Seeing others in relationships and having just friendships with guys made me know what kind of guy I wanted before one came along. I really think that helped me find the perfect guy, cuz the man I am engaged to and have been with for 3 years was my first boyfriend. (officially)

Your time to have a man will come and It will be the right guy. (hopefully) All the best.


P.S. The others are right, slow down, know who you are and what you want first, then you will know who is right for you.

[jo929]

Why is it that teens want to get a boyfriend so young live a little enjoy your teen years and wait awhile before you think about boysyou are way to young to date talk to them but wait i was 16 before i was allowed a real date, and i did not mind, also i waited until i was married to have sex  luck  jo

[vmvnpv]

I agree 100% with Emiley and Judy.  I did look at your picture (because I'm a curious kind of person) and I think you are a very beautiful young lady.  A guy will come along and see your beauty, both inside and out.  My parents used to tell me in high school boys only want one thing anyway.  I never believed them but take it from me....It's true!  I had one boyfriend break up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him.  I wasn't ready for that kind of commitment and I'm glad I was mature enough to realize that.  Many girls aren't and have sex just to keep the guy, which brings with it a lot more complications (break ups, pregnancy, reputations, etc).  The broken hearts hurt a lot.  It sometimes interferes with your school work.  If I knew then what I know now I would have much rather not dated at all then have to deal with the broken heart.  Wait until you're older and you meet a guy that wants to get to know you and likes you for you.  You have to learn to love and accept yourself first before any guy will do that.  And don't depend on others to verify your beauty.  You need to KNOW YOURSELF that you ARE beautiful.  You need to depend on yourself for love, acceptance and self esteem.  No one else can do that for you.  And when you are able to do this then you will be a lot happier and realize, while having a boyfriend is fun, you don't need him to MAKE you happy.  Enjoy your friends and family now, while you can because once you get into the dating world things sometimes change and so do your friends.  Take care and HAVE FUN!  :-)

[Judy246]

Take your time young lady...don't you hurry to grow too fast!  You are only 14 yrs. old. and I don't think you should either be dating or having a boyfriend yet.  You should be surrounding yourself with good friends and your focus should be in getting good grades and school. Having boyfriends at an early age is asking for trouble and you are not ready for what is involved in a relationship and it will only distract you from what is really important your grades. So, with all that said...take your time young lady and don't you hurr too grow too fast.

You might not realize it right now, but you have a lot of life ahead of you and if you are already starting to find fault with yourself, because you want to fit in the right crowd, your headed for trouble!  Start by accepting yourself as you are then you won't begin to have this negativity outlook about your appearance. You are still at a growing phase and you grow into a beautiful young lady,so if you start finding fault within yourself, you are going to uncessarily end up suffering as a youth and through out your life.  Don't do that to yourself. So....accept yourself as you are, surround yourself with people who like you just as you are, focus in grades...and the boyfriend will come along at the right time and naturally.  If other girls your age have boyfriends, I promise you that is going to be short lived, because as you grow, you will meet new guys, so back up and stay away from boys, until you hit 98 yrs old (lol)...just kidding and the motherly instincts in me......good luck and stay in school....Judy

[Emiley]

I did not look at your picture because Im shocked by what Im hearing. You are only 14, dont be in such a hurry. I didnt have a bf until I was 17. And I didnt have a 2nd one til I was almost 20. And I dont think anything is too seriously wrong with me lol. Give it time, wait for that right guy. Dont be so hard on yourself. Life after highschool is so much better I promise! its just a lil rough in high school since we are all so critical of ourselves. just dont be in such a hurry. Relationships are not something to rush, sometimes it takes a while to find the person thats right for you.