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Porn...
This may seem random... But how do you ladies feel about your bf/fiance/hubby watching porn?
Thank you ladies for all your input..I personally am still not ok with it. Maybe it's cause of insecurity issues, maybe not. I did however tell my man if he watches it (which he said he wouldn't cause its not worth my feelings being hurt) just to be open with me.
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Something good to watch is "your brain on porn". Actually there is a science behind what can happen if porn is used in such a way as it is a release or a drug. It CAN have a chemical affect in your brain. And there is a theory that some get so amped up watching porn that they want to live it. And indeed, begin to up the ante for what they will try and do. That doesn't happen to everyone but I wouldn't scoff at someone who suggests that. That is the kind of blind denial that gets you in trouble. good luck to all.
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Lots of people have opinions that differ on porn. I personally think it is really degrading to women and my husband isn't into it because it is so phony, not real sex and the poor people in it are often drug addicted and deeply troubled which is decidedly NOT sexy to him (or me). That's just my opinion though and where he and I stand on porn. It's not something I've ever had to tell my husband I had a problem with as HE isn't into it.
but if a woman DOES have a problem with it, it is good to be heard. And if it is a deal breaker, then state it as such. Some men will decide it's not that important and turn it off. Others might not. Men are visual and many see it as harmless but then it becomes a matter of something that upsets their partner. They have to decide how much they want to upset their partner.
But it is okay to say you really would rather he not watch it. He may or may not listen to you but it's okay to state your opinion with expectations. Relationships involve give and take. We ALL should have boundaries of some sort and pick our battles that are important to us. good luck
but if a woman DOES have a problem with it, it is good to be heard. And if it is a deal breaker, then state it as such. Some men will decide it's not that important and turn it off. Others might not. Men are visual and many see it as harmless but then it becomes a matter of something that upsets their partner. They have to decide how much they want to upset their partner.
But it is okay to say you really would rather he not watch it. He may or may not listen to you but it's okay to state your opinion with expectations. Relationships involve give and take. We ALL should have boundaries of some sort and pick our battles that are important to us. good luck
lol I'm a woman and I grew up in a very strict and religious home where porn was taught to be wrong. I have a different religion now that I'm older, but I watch porn regulary. In no way has it made me "lustful" or has it "ruined" me.. that's a ridiculous statement girl..
Well the way I see it is I wouldn't be ok with him watching people screw in real life so why is it ok on TV? And its not lustful its how they are raised. Porn prevents people from creating their own fantasies and puts images in peoples minds at a young age. It ruins them. Specially when they get ahold of the nasty stuff and it alters their minds. Watching it might turn them on but doing it themselves might be another story...
Well the way I see it is I wouldn't be ok with him watching people screw in real life so why is it ok on TV? And its not lustful its how they are raised. Porn prevents people from creating their own fantasies and puts images in peoples minds at a young age. It ruins them. Specially when they get ahold of the nasty stuff and it alters their minds. Watching it might turn them on but doing it themselves might be another story...
Idk I kinda matured and realized it isn't a big deal. Like it or not, they're gonna watch it. I don't see the point being a controlling jelly wife :/ that's me though. A confident woman who flaunts her sexuality is SO much more attractive than a sour and in denial woman.. not directed at anyone.
I mean of course your husbands/partners aren't gonna come right out and tell yall. Don't you think that's a little awkward? Just because you may or may not judge them doesn't matter. I can't when imagine how awkward I would feel telling my husband every time I watched it. It's just a freaking 5 minute video. They watch it and once they get their relief, the porn turns off. It's purely a pleasure thing. Nothing more than that. Cmon ladies you all know deep down this is probably more of an insecurity thing. You are all beautiful and those babies in yalls bellies didn't get their on their own. Your men are obviously attracted to you..
I mean everyone is different me personally hell no my man is not gunna see no **** doing all this stuff getting turned on by some other girl f that about guys are visual beings ummm sooo is everyone else so wat that means they have to go around looking at other girls hell no I know he wouldn't want me doing that so why should it be different just cuz hes a guy but than again thats me
Doesn't matter to me . Its tv for God's sake and I've been guilty for watching as well. We watched together maybe once and just pointed out everything that was wrong in the video it was funny. We are open to certain amount of things and that is what makes our relationship so spicy. Him watching porn doesn't make me feel insecure just . Idk that's just me
it doesn't bother me..we don't have sex as much as we did before i got pregnant so i would rather he look at porn than go out && cheat
It only bothers me with my husband because he hides it from me and from what i seen the type of women he likes to watch are completely opposite of me. Im thin and not too curvy i mean im definitely not flat but he likes to watch bigger curvy girls with huge butts. He has a butt fetish, and i get hurt because i don't have a big butt like that and it makes me VERY insecure:(
That a no to me my man ant giving me sex atm... women have needs aswell lol im gonna have to speak to him about it
I don't think he'd get bored lol we have a good sex life! But I do think if it ever got to rhet point where I was comfortable with him watching it, I'd rayheet watch it with him.
It doesn't bother me at all. I watch it without him and with him. And we've been together 10 years married for 5 almost 6 years. We have an amazing sex life. So I highly disagree that your hubby will get bored of you because of porn.
I'm totally fine with it! We watch it together lol & I mean if I'm not in the mood & he is, I'd rather him watch porn than go out & cheat on me! I see no problem with it personally.
I don't mind it. I'm not in the mood for sex since I've gotten pregnant, so if he needs to relieve himself, fine by me. We've been together for 8 years and its never been an issue.
It foesnt bother me at all me n the hubby watch it together n it seems to spicy my sexual part in marriage n honestly we find some fun things we could do lol but i see it as this i rather sit here with him watching it knowing hes by my side thwn out n about with other hoees but its everybodys choice :)
I agree using a mirror does spice things up & when he's really turned on he likes to video us. (On my phone & we delete it after lol) But I still dont think I am comfortable with him getting aroused by other girls.. maybe one day it won't bother me but for now its a no no.
I agree with the mommy above me its not a big deal and they don't do it to hurt us on purpose now when they hide it is it disrespectful yes. But if he is open and honest and says hey I watched porn earlier cause you really have t felt good then at least he told you ya know at least he was a mature enough to come clean me and my hubby watch it. I find the women body a very beautiful thing we are all beautiful creatures so seeing attractive women turnme on what turns him on is wwatching women allow men to be so rough I normally let my hubby be rough with me but I'm 34+4 so its hard right now but before it was a diff story but I guess it depends on how your relationship really is
I agree denielle1224. I'm more attracted to women than to men. I love my husband very much. That's the only difference, he gives me children which a woman cant.
One last thing about this whole topic: when our guys have sex with us, they can't see the whole picture from a cameras perspective. They only see a small bit. Try having sex in front of a mirror just one time and you'll see that the whole vibe changes. When a guy can see what he's doing it makes them a lotttt more into it. ;) pleaseeee trust me
One last thing about this whole topic: when our guys have sex with us, they can't see the whole picture from a cameras perspective. They only see a small bit. Try having sex in front of a mirror just one time and you'll see that the whole vibe changes. When a guy can see what he's doing it makes them a lotttt more into it. ;) pleaseeee trust me
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