Not sure what exactly you are looking for here. Is this more of a vent?
The situation sounds pitiful and sad IMO.
This has become an odd puzzle. According to your profile, both of you are virgins (totally contradicts what you say here) and you've lived apart for 43 years and only see each other at "tax time".
I hope otherwise you've lived a fruitful, and joyful life despite being married to a man who lives somewhere else all your adult life.
Hi there and welcome to the forum. Oh goodness, you do sound miserable. Your husband isn't a sexual person. I'll be honest-- plenty of marriages do operate that way. You aren't the only couple out there that are companions much more so than lovers.
After 45 years, I find it odd you are complaining now. You've made a life with him and from what you've said, it has always been this way. Hopefully other things in your marriage have been happy.
I'm sorry you have had a sexless marriage as that is clearly not what you wanted. Funny how life works out sometimes. But have you been happy in other ways over the 45 years?
what a sad story.
Do you realize, Corvette, that even the Catholic church would sanction an annulment in your marriage? A marriage contract isn't a suicide pact - if your partner is wholly unwilling to have a relationship with you, you are not bound by God or law to stay married.
Too late to tell you that now, I guess. :(
Please, Let me understand.
Are You telling us that You have not had sex with Your Husband since Your wedding night - 45 years ago??!! Do I understand?? that this is what You say????
and for 45 years this was okay? and now it is not?
I don't understand what You see is Your issue at this point.
Please explain further.
Hi Corvette and welcome, well thats quite a story and shows the love you have for him and how you take your vows. But i do think you compromised something to be with him. Usually women can get men to come around about issues using different techniques, even falling back on a mother son relationship and you treat him like a bad boy for him to change.
To be honest, i believe the for better or worse means that the worse will improve through communication and such. I dont belive its is a blanket statement that you have to stay if what you have is not real. I think if you read the entire marriage vows again there are other vows mentioned that go hand in hand with the worse and actually defines what the worse is.
If your happy with your security thats one thing, but if you feel that your vows were not put forth by hubby and want a change, its never to late to be famous.