Yes I totally agree I did use him and I feel very guilty. Thats what keeps me hangin around I feel I owe him for wasting his time. I believe he knows I just used him and is trying to hurt me as he's hurt right now. Men has been a big focus of my life and yes I do need to be bymyself and focus on my children and I. I take full responsibility for the life Iv'e made. Thank you guys So much...
I hope You will take SpecialMom's advice to heart.
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I agree that You set this life up for YourSelf and now it's Yours to deal with. You have four Children that You are Obligated to and Responsible for. You should make Them priority. Also, You are SO fortunate to have Your Father and StepMother helping You out in this way. Don't disrespect Them and Their Generosity by sneaking guys into Your bedroom in the middle of the night. Where would You and Your Babies be if Your Parents were to un-open Their Home to You because of Your disrespect? Take advantage of Their Generosity to educate YourSelf in such a way that You can take care of the Family You created.
Good Luck.
Hi. Wecome to the forum. Here is where I think your head needs to be. Working, job training, college or trade school. You have a lot of kids and have to live with your parents. I'm sure you hate that and that isn't any parents dream to have their adut child move back in with all their kids. You need to get stable. I'd get yourself on full time, always gonna work around the clock birth control.
In reality, this relationship doesn't sound like it has any foundation. That is the reality. I think it is right to leave it and start focusing on getting your life where you want it to be.
Men aren't the answer. They are a nice addition to your life when they are solid, upstanding (don't have to live with their parents) kind of men. But I'm guessing that men have been a big focus for you thus far. We shoud never HAVE to be with a guy and we should view what they bring into our lives very very critically when we have kids. So, while this might not be what you want to hear, I think it is best to not date for a while. For a long while that is. you need to be on your own, spending all your free time caring for your kids, and working the rest of the time. It's hard, I know. But you set this life up for yourself.
I think you sound smart and articulate. You are young and have the whole world ahead of you. You can carve out the life you want for you and your kids but you need to get on the right path to do it.
And some guy that just wants sex isn't it. Let him see his child you have together as in visitation but don't try to be in a relationship with him. I'm picturing having sex in my parents home that I live in with 4 kids. I have no idea how you would do that logistically and think you may be putting an unfair burden on your parents to live this way.
So, you can do it sweetie. I wish you all the best.
Hi Beautiful, Well you kind of got yourself in a spot. You made love to him many times and when a woman does this the man thinks the woman likes them. Men generally will have sex with most any girl they meet but women will not. Since you did this with him and now you tell him you dont love him, he feels you used him and is upset. Men dont like to be used. (as do women).
Just tell him you dont love him and not to contact you anymore. There will be repercusions from this as using a person can cause them to want to get back at your.