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Sex with Husband

When me and my husband have sex.......i want to "make love" i feel so connectd to him even though he is one minute man and doesnt really please me...i like to feel that feeling from him, but he just wants to "have sex" and thats it. I want him to be passionate and just explore me kiss me all over and...well you know all that good stuff. I have said this to him before and he said he'd keep trying. He did it once after that convo and never again.....what do i do. Im losing interest of sex with him. When i masterbate, i cant orgasm unless i fantasize about a women.  :0
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It sounds like he wants to do better and please you. You may have to show him exactly what you want. Be specific (he can't read your mind), guide him. Most men get pleasure out of knowing they've brought pleasure to their women. Don't give up. It's worth working on.
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you might have to get on the horse and do what you want to him show him what you want, touch yourself in front of him grab his hand guide him the way you want to be touch. or before introcourse try giveing him head and getting him to the point and then stoping slow down let him not *** but just a tease to get him to go longer it works for some men not all... good luck
ksanden
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When you start messing around, tell him.....no sex yet....I'm not ready yet.  You will probably have to repeat yourself many many times (but say it very nicely!).  Sometimes when men are really turned on, they forget about everything else and need to be reminded!!  It sounds like he means well, so that may be his case.  Most men really do want to please their wife, just need direction.

As for the 1 minute thing, if you want it to last longer, you could have him masturbate, or you help, then start messing around (of course telling him to be patient again!) and then have sex again. He should last longer then.

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Can't help much but the "fantasizing about Women" part I understand. I've been with my Hubs for 5 years and we have 2 kids together and I never came with him. I know it's b/c he makes such a HUGE *** deal out of it and knows that I used to be able to *** wildly with an ex before him. I'm still trying to figure that one out, myself..anyway, if u r hot and live near me let's see what we can do.. (;
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Saw ur pic, u r cuuute, but don't worry, I'm not a stalker..just bored, depressed, angry, struggling with bills, wanna go back to work, Daughter newly diagnosed Type1 Diabetic, you know..all the good things in this life!!
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I have a question.  I have been married for about 2 years.  My wife and I used to have sex  a few times a week.  Now it more like once every two weeks.  When we make love I try to mess around for awhile and she just wants to have sex.  It is pretty frustrating for me.  She can't get off either so I think she gets real frustrated.  I was just hoping for some general advice.  We have talked about it before but she just doesn't seem to care too much.  Its kind of the same scenario as the OP but in reverse.  

As for the OP I do agree that men need to be told what their girl likes.  I guess cause men think about it all the time women assume they know what they are doing but this isn't the case sometimes.  
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THEY SAY IN ENGLAND THAT NO ONE KNOWS WHAT A WOMAN LIKES  LIKE ANOTHER WOMAN, SO GIVE HIM SOME HINTS ON WHAT YOU WANT. TEACH HIM, IT COULD BE A TURN ON  FOR HIM TOO.  DONT PUT HIM IN A DRESS THOUGH, YOU MIGHT COME HOME AND FIND HIM IN IT WHEN YOU ARE NOT AROUND.......
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i agree with everyone !
my fiance for a while didnt know "how to please me " but i literally had to show him step by step how to please me ... even now he still doesnt get it sometimes by its a learning process ... get a karna sutra ... it works for me ...
let me know if you need to know anything else !
-Jessy
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So true....I had the same problem....you have to get on board and take the wheel.  One night I just decided to do everything I knew intimidated him........it was so much fun having that kind of control....and it was a huge turn on for him...hence his reaction and "idea" to sex changed entirely....get a little crazy...pull out the blind fold....tie him up......it's actually a lot of fun....:),,,,all the best...
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"dr_Logan" - you are not wanted here.  You are sending spam on all forums.  Please cease and desist!
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Looks like I am not the only one reporting this "dr_Logan" for spam.  Either that or the people running these forums are extremely quick to react!
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Try giving each other sensual massages before sex.  There are some good erotic massage videos out there.  That way you are not concentrating on sex right off the bat.
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Get idea about sexuality and sex then share sensuality before having sex. Once you know what does mean sexuality and how it is different from intercourse, then You can enjoy lot and will get orgasm
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my boy friend asked me if i wanted to have sex and i 14 what do i do?
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Some men are lazy and just want to get off and go to sleep.  

I agree though....if your man hasn't "been around the block" or has had very few partners, they don't know what to do and don't feel comfortable "taking control"  

These kinda guys need a lil more coaching and instructions.  It's frustrating and annoying but if you love your partner, you can do it.  

If that's not the case and he doesn't seem to want to learn or try to please you, I think you should find a new man.  Nothings worse than a selfish man in bed...when all you want is to make passionate love every once in a while and he just wants to get off.

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I have been married for about 2 years. We used to 'make love' probably twice a week. Even though we made love, there was not much of passionate gesture, or any foreplay that arouse me. It was dry and routine. It dragged on for almost 1 year, then the 'love making' session reduced to 2 weeks once, and gradually once a month. Sad to say, my husband is the 30second man, which really made me real tired and lethargic after making love. Recently, we have ceased making love for almost a year. I've already voiced out to him that it's not normal. I even found some articles for him to read, and get some kegel exercise idea for him to refer to, but it all falls on deaf ears. Everynight, he just greeted me "goodnight dear", and went to sleep. I'm getting very upset with him, and today when I woke up, I felt like getting a divorce from him coz I have been sleeping with a corpse everynight. What should I do?
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