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697574 tn?1273955747

Sex with a ex?

I recently decided that I need to move back up north to where my family is. In order to do that 3 weeks I had to discuss this with my boyfriend who I was living with and still am living with for another week. The first week I told him we both didnt talk much and were sad. We finally talked and decided we can live the next few weeks together until the lease is up.
We since then have been able to live together and we still sleep in the same bed. We ended up having sex a few times, I know other people say its a bad idea. But for right now I am trying to keep happy and enjoy each day before I leave. Is it a bad idea to still be having sex in this situation?
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697574 tn?1273955747
Thanks so much! and for all your help. Even though I am sad I broke up with him, I dont feel trapped anymore and I have so many things to look forward at home. I get to spend time with my family! Im also adopting a puppy which is one thing I have always wanted to do :-) I will keep in touch in the postings on here.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Hey, I just want to say that I'm proud that you are leaving.  I am looking forward to hearing how things go after your move as you start the next phase of your life.  And congrats on being done with school and starting your career.  Getting an occupational therapist degree is no easy thing---------- so celebrate this moment for youself!  good luck with the move and stay in touch.  I'm sure you'll have some emotions after you go.
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I think that emotionally this would have to have an impact. Is it just for the sex or is it just to not make waves till you get out or is it something deeper. Only you can answer that question, but beware the repercussions could be costly all the way around. Only you can decide if its something you should or shouldnt be doing.
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697574 tn?1273955747
I am definitely moving and my decision is set in stone. I have not changed my mind, even though hes been nicer to me and he told me he realized he took advantage of our relationship.  Its going to be hard either way leaving but I know its the right decision.
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136956 tn?1688675680
I think as long as you are happy its fine. If there are other reasons why you are doing it, then you need to think twice about what you are doing,.
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973741 tn?1342342773
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Well, what worries me is that you've been torn all this time about him (when I didn't think you should be to be honest) and going back and forth.  So you make the break but still keep things pretty much the way they were.  Except things may be a little better because now you and HE don't have all the pressure of a real relationship.  If you still plan on moving in a week and will do so with a free heart, then whatever happens between now and then is okay.  But if you will allow this to make you  second guess yourself or be sadder when you leave than you would have been--------  might not be worth it.  Next week will be here before you know it.  You'll be starting a new life.  Good luck to you.
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134578 tn?1693250592
You're willingly sleeping in the same bed and are wondering if sex is OK?  If it weren't, the thing to do is not sleep in the same bed.  Given that you are sure you aren't at risk of pregnancy, and that you both know that the relationship is coming to its end, and that neither of you is trying to make the sex rekindle the relationship, it doesn't seem like sex will impact anything if you have it or if you don't.
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