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Shared wedding date! MAD!
So I got engaged at midnight on new years eve/day and we set our wedding date a few months ago to June 18, 2010. Well my brother just got engaged like 2 months ago and they set their date... June 18, 2009. I am SO MAD! I told them that was our date and that I didn't like it being on that day well he didn't seem to care and told me to change mine if I didn't like it. Well we had a hard enough time picking our date to begin with and wanted it on a curtain day (18th) of any month and this is the only one that lands on a friday and my fiance will be done with his degree by then and so it is perfect for us. Well the only reason they took the date they did was because supposaly that was the only date in June they had... I told them there are 11 more month in the year. I have had issues with his fiance and absolutely hate her and my parents aren't big fans of her either. I have a feeling it was done somewhat on purpose. I am just so mad! That is my day and I don't want to share it with 2 people I could totally live without!
RockRose~ I love that song, I listen to it all the time. I know I'm just being crazy about it now... I am just tired of always feeling betrayed and hurt by my brother and then in walks the women who is worse than he is to me. It's not right and I'm always trying to be the bigger person and just deal with it but to some extent I just feel like I can't anymore!
I would stop worrying about it, if its that big of a deal then i would change your date if you want to have your own..but you know there are lots of couples getting married the same day as you. your not the only one. and you wont be the last. Big deal there getting married the same date as you diff year. so who cares move on thats crazy to be worried about a date. should i worry that i have to share a birthday with my twin sister oh know what am i gonna do? haha get over it and move on if your happy with your guy then who gives a flying F*** about anyone else. Lifes to short to worry about a DATE hello wake up there are more important things going on in the world. seriously
My sister can be a total bit.ch at times, and she has exhibited a fair bit of the things you say your brother does to you as well. But, I tend to just laugh it off now, I am not in competition with her or anyone else, I don't need to have what they have to make me happy. And they shouldn't care the same way.*shield back up*
Hope you all have a lovely day regardless of this stuff happening now.
Hope you all have a lovely day regardless of this stuff happening now.
You won't be continuing to cut them out of your lives once you have children, K. But we've covered that long ago with you.
Whether you know it or not, whether you acknowledge it or not, you will be interacting with them at times in the future.
Thinking you can run away from them is not the most mature way to address your problems.
Whether you know it or not, whether you acknowledge it or not, you will be interacting with them at times in the future.
Thinking you can run away from them is not the most mature way to address your problems.
K, I heard a song on the radio yesterday and thought of you. i can't find it anywhere, but it was called "You'll Miss This".
It's about a woman wishing her life away waiting for the next stage to begin, (her engagement, life with small children, etc.) and people would tell her "You'll Miss This".
You'll miss this stage when it's over. The engagement period of being so in love, so young, carefree, you'll miss this.
Don't wish it away just waiting for the next stage to begin, and please don't spend it being angry at your brother for this petty silly stuff.
Best wishes.
It's about a woman wishing her life away waiting for the next stage to begin, (her engagement, life with small children, etc.) and people would tell her "You'll Miss This".
You'll miss this stage when it's over. The engagement period of being so in love, so young, carefree, you'll miss this.
Don't wish it away just waiting for the next stage to begin, and please don't spend it being angry at your brother for this petty silly stuff.
Best wishes.
Everything is so perfect with my faince and I and we have been so happy and can't wait for the next chapters of our lives. To me I just feel very disrespected that they choose to do this to for stupid reasons and not because that was the date they really wanted. They originally were going to go get married on a cruise somewhere but once I started talking about my wedding and stuff they just suddenly up and changed their plans...
I read your profile and see that you are such a lucky young lady, finding the right man and ready to start a new life together. You are supposed to be happy, but why you expressed it with angry to others-like saying 'stupid 'to your boss and soo angry to your brother's fiance and upset about 'the date'? Those things are nothing compare to what you will face in your marriage life . It's like complaining about your doll's broken leg while you were in a tiger cage.
I am guessing your brother is somewhat more successful than you in some things.. Not everything just somethings. Did he meet his fiancee at work or in college?
I have tried my hardest to be nice to them when were are both at my parents house but they don't even try. I don't want to cause any more issues and would like them to just hurry up get married and move out of state. I have done all I can to pretty much ignore any situation with them but they continue to act this way. My brother has always said **** about me and I've always just delt with it because he is my brother but when his fiance came into the picture everything just blew up even more!
How many sides to every story, I hear about all these horrible people but... something is missing in these stories.
I agree with Mami, if they are like this to you and picked the same wedding date to make you mad, why even go to their wedding...if their horrible people and you dont like them and they dont like you I wouldnt bother wasting my time with them.
I would cut her off now if she's that nasty. I know you are trying to respect your mother's wishes but honestly, it sounds like your mom doesn't really like her either. So who cares if you just not show up to their wedding.
She may be snotty but have you considered the possibility that you might actually have a tenedency to do things that put you in a position of having to make less than ideal situations?
RockRose~ She has continually insulted me and my fiance on such levels that are by NO means acceptable. When I got so sick my Junior year and missed all but 2 weeks and decided that the best option for me was to get my GED (best decision I've ever made) she would tell me how worthless and horrible and stupid I was when she had no idea what I had been through. I missed out on 2 years of high school because I was hospitalized most of the time and unable to go to school because I couldn't go a day without horrible pain that I had to take a lot of medication for just to keep me out of the ER. She was horrible to me when I got pregnant and thought that because she was adopted that I should do the same for my baby. She didn't know me at all really at that point and had no room to talk because I would have be a wonderful mother... yes I was 16 but I would have been a better mother than she will or could ever be (thats why she isn't having kids, she couldn't handle it) She has been the worst person in the world and is always snoty and thinks she is gods greatest gift, and is never wrong! I would love to cut them off now but my parents have asked that I be as nice as I can until they move away, which I have and have given it my all while they are around. I am doing all I can at this point and once the wedding happens and they move away... it is no more faking that I care and no more having to be nice to horrible people.
K, if you don't mind saying, what exactly has this fiance done that has totally destroyed your ties with your brother? Sometimes in a family there is someone who keeps doing annoying or quirky stuff, and the others just kind of grin and wink behind their backs, but does this really rise to the level of completely cutting off family ties?
And if it's SO bad, why are you waiting until their wedding to cut them off? If they are so completely evil, why not cut them off now, and not worry about their wedding, and get on happily with your lives?
And if it's SO bad, why are you waiting until their wedding to cut them off? If they are so completely evil, why not cut them off now, and not worry about their wedding, and get on happily with your lives?
Peek and g27gear~ There will be no family dinners with them. Once he is married and moves away that will be it with him. No more dealing with his ****. I've wanted to cut all ties for some time now and once he is married and out of state that's my oppurtunity and everything will be fine!
Happy2girls~ Thanks, I appreciate your support!
Happy2girls~ Thanks, I appreciate your support!
Everyone will have to split their alloted gift money for that day on annivesary gifts between you and your brother's family. Instead of a crappy crystal vase that cost $40, you'll get a crappy crystal vase that only cost $20.
On the other hand, you could end up having super great family gatherings centered on the annivesaries of both your families. What better time to get everyone together for a great party?
On the other hand, you could end up having super great family gatherings centered on the annivesaries of both your families. What better time to get everyone together for a great party?
K1990...I know that this day is when the stars line up for you but if it's really that important for you to not have your day on the same day as your brother then I suggest you make some concessions and find another day. Things don't always work out the way we'd like in life and our only choices are to deal with and accept what is or to work to change what's in our power to change. Good luck to you.
You are going to give yourself an ulcer over all of this, and that just might make your brother and his gf happy, since they plucked up the exact day he knew you wanted. Some siblings are like that with each other , always diggin' and chucking some sort of s.hit each others way.
If I was you, I wouldn't let him have the satisfaction of knowing this upsets you so much right now.
You may just have to live with all of this, you know.
My parents anniversary is on the 19th, my sister got the 18th of the same month and whenever I get married, I am going for either the 17th or the 20th, depending on when it falls on that year. We all like the idea of having our anniversaries in a row, and celebrating together.
If I was you, I wouldn't let him have the satisfaction of knowing this upsets you so much right now.
You may just have to live with all of this, you know.
My parents anniversary is on the 19th, my sister got the 18th of the same month and whenever I get married, I am going for either the 17th or the 20th, depending on when it falls on that year. We all like the idea of having our anniversaries in a row, and celebrating together.
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