So my partner has been told he needs his Passport for a stag do abroad this year - it's his brothers. Only they are going to be going to Lap Dancing clubs etc. The problem is I am against this sort of thing. --- Sexual stimulation by, and lust for, other women --- we've already had a major argument about it. I know I can't ask him to not to go because it's his brothers stag, but I just can't help but feel horrified by the prospect of my man having another woman dancing on his crotch. I can't accept that is a normal part of a relationship - something I should be ok with. Surely I am not alone in thinking it's like cheating -- getting sexual stimulation from elsewhere. I'm also convinced that he would not say no, if offered a lap dance, because he has very little ability to tell people straight and say no!! So I'm left thinking that even though I want to look forward to a New Year, my man is going to be lusting over, and doing whatever, in some seedy club in some country, with other women, in a few months time, and I wont even know about it coz I can't be there, I wouldn't want to for that matter. I'm hust against the whole idea. Am I being unreasonable to be against this so much?