Sick Of Lieing

[liedaman]

Hi. My Lieing has bought another relationship undone. I am a 40 year old male that really has no reason to lie to anyone ,or about anything.
I lied alot as a kid so i wouldn't get a belting or to protect my sisters from getting one.
I now lie all the time about the most stupid things and get caught, but keep on going.
The really silly part is, The important stuff i'm honest about. I get aggressive  (but never touch anyone or thing) and loud. I really have and want to stop.
Thanks

[specialmom]

I think lying can become a habit and all habits are hard to break.  You may have started it way back when as a coping mechanism and as a way to protect yourself.  But it does not serve you well as an adult--------  especially since it is over small things that don't matter.  That tells me it is a habit to break.  A therapist could make this change a little easier for you.  good luck

[Judy246]

To lie is to be dishonest, hiding, and secretive. A lie always, backfires and comes to light making you look dishonest, untrustworthy and immature. The past is the past and if you are living in the past, you only repeat bad behavior and can't move forward. You will also lose loved ones and good friends. Start by accepting what you can't change in the past, awareness of negatve behavior and every time you are tempted to lie, stop, step back and change the behavior. If you continue been a habitual liar you are only hurting yourself in the longrun and no one can stand a liar. Change your behavior or face the embarrasment of looking like a fool.

[liedaman]

Hi and thanks. I am willing to see someone and have told her this.
Thanks again

[mamabalas]

I suggest you get into some counselling to adress the issues about why you lie.  This will need to be addressed before you can have a good solid relationship with someone.  Best of luck to you.