Stress or Pregnancy

[Oneluv118]

I've been under a tremendous ammount of stress ( one I'm finally letting go and de-taching from my dependent mom, she's moving and her stuff was dumped at my house---therefore putting strain on my relationship with my hubbs) I said her stuff could be brought here...however not dumped....the basement (which is supposed to be turned into an apartment to help with finances (stress again) The room is filled with stuff literally from one side to the other. She decided to tell me 2 weeks prior that she had to be out. Lately I haven't felt like doing anything, so I get yelled at for that.....the house being messy and blah blah. So aside from that, I don't get along with my mother in law, she fights me constantly to get a rise out of me. She says I'm like a daughter yet she calls me names and likes to tell me what to do when it comes to my son. My hubbs just lets me talk to her in which-ever way just because she does have a nasty tone and he'd rather for us to be honest then fake. So now...............

(One day early Aug, I had like 5 little pink clots in the toilet) Then not again until this month Sept. On the 9th, I started getting pink clotting. Tiny ones....then once I wiped red blood (not much) then it went back to pink clots
I felt like I had a UTI as I had to go to the bathroom every couple minutes and very little ( then the 10th...I had pink clotting all day and couldn't hold my bladder towards the late afternoon to night I could see pink on the paper.

This morning---nothing so far.....so now what?

[sweetpea03]

It does sound like it could easily be a UTI. Did they test your urine for infections? Frequent urination and blood in the urine is a sign of infection, along with pain/burning feeling when urinating and cramps. The spotting can be stress related as well, as stress can manifest itself in many physical forms. Do you have any other symptoms? If you do end up taking the anti-biotic soon, make sure to take it just as the directions state to take it and take all of it, even if you start feeling better. If you stop taking the anti-biotics before you should, the infection may come back even worse.

[Oneluv118]

Basically "it's who she is and she's not going to change" Honestly, I think she needs some counseling, she had an accident I believe about 2yrs ago and she is just all around nasty. I had to block my posts on facebook because she would call me yelling (which is her way of talking, but I can't take it) So I had to hide posts to lesson the stress, yesterday we were at her house and she made a few comments and I let it roll off my back, but it's honestly eating at me. So, that is why I said to her I'm done shopping and going out and talking to you as much as I do, I can't do it anymore.

I went to the OB and I'm not pregnant they said, they want to treat it as an UTI and if it doesn't stop then see a urologist, I think I might just skip the antibiotic and go to the urologist. The OB said it could be serious. Now I'm a bit worried.  whats your thoughts?

[sweetpea03]

You can take a home pregnancy test as early as 2 weeks after having sex and get an accurate result. I did not vote as well because that is just a random guess and the only way you are going to know for sure is by taking a pregnancy test, either at home or at your doctor's office.

Also, if someone is nasty towards you, don't escalate the situation by being nasty back to them, just ignore that and keep calm. I know that can be hard to do at times, but try your best to not add to the situation and maybe count to ten in your head before saying anything back to her, so that you can keep calm when responding. Also, make sure your husband steps up as a man and draws the boundaries for his mother, as it is his job to talk to her and make sure to protect his family(you and your son).

Hope it all goes well.

[Oneluv118]

Thanks, I have been anxious, I feel like I'm tiptoe'ing around everyone if I'm not myself, so when they are nasty I get nastier and it's stressful, it's not who I am, at all. But, it is somewhat who I've become around them. She does talk to everyone like this.....your exactly right!!!! I will talk to him about it maybe things can change for the better. I am depressed because I feel alone in the situation, I'm not making money, although I recieved a certificate, I didn't exactly finish school, I ended up pregnant and now I'm having a very hard time finding a job, so it feels like she or they feel like they have the upperhand when yet, my son is a JOB!! Which I LOVE. But they dont see it like that because there is no income from me......Thank GOD we moved out.....we are in a house. SO no we don't live with her for 6mos now!!!!! I told her I'm done going shopping and coming over, I need to stay away from the negativity (which she calls trying to teach me because she's older and experienced blah blah)

I think it's too early to test....I got my AF towards the end of Aug so I think I have to wait another couple days, I did test and it was negative yesterday.

Today I'm spotting again.....at first I wasn't but I'm nervous about the whole thing.
Calling the OB in the AM.

As far as my mom goes, I;m going to call some storage places tomorrow, she was a smoker so my basement now smells and even febreze doesnt do the trick.

I feel like a mess!!!!!

[specialmom]

Hi, I didn't vote.  I don't know.  This is an easy one though-------------  go buy a home pregnancy test if you are over due for your period and take it.  Highly accurate and it will rule pregnancy in and out of the problems you are having.

So, what I will weigh in on is what you describe going on in your personal life.  Do you think you could be slightly depressed?  I ask that due to your comment that you don't feel like doing anything.  That can be a sign of depression and anxiety if it persists and there are other things such as disturbed sleep, change in eating habits, crying, nervousness and irritabilility, etc.  It must be persistent for every day for at least two weeks.  Otherwise, we all do have ebs and flows with stress.  And yes, stress can mess up our menstrual cycle.

Regarding your mother, I think you can give her an appropriate time line to her things being moved.  Sounds like SHE is not with you but her stuff is.  You can give her two weeks to find another storage place for it.  You can explain that you need the space in the basement to be free so you can rent it out.  Two weeks does not leave her in a pinch and she should be able to make arrangements.  If she does not, ask her to  pay the rent you were going to ask on the place.  That seems fair.  She may get upset about this but if you tell her in a way that does not make her defensive, she will hopefully understand that her things are a financial burdon to you and your husband.  

Regarding your mother in law.  Your husband is key here.  If he is unwilling to back you up, this is unfortunate.  You don't live with her do you?  If so, I'd make plans to move.  Soon.  I'd tell your husband that it is not being honest to be rude but it is rude to use a nasty tone of voice.  He grew up around it and is now not hearing it the way you are.  Illustrate tone to him.  Say the same thing two times---------- once in a normal way and once with a nasty tone.  See if he buys into the tone issue.  Regardless of whether he thinks it is appropriate to speak to you that way or not, you think it is and he should take that into account.   He should tell his mom that you are the mother and opinions are warrented if asked for.  It's his job to draw that line.  You can always do it but it is more impactful if he does it.  AND, your mother in law is probably being right on the money-----  she probably does talk to all of her family in the rude way she talks to you.  It is her style and that is why your husband doesn't see it as a big deal.  He's used to it.  It is okay to say you don't like it.  

Okay, not really answering your question on pregnancy.  But go buy a test and find out for sure.  good luck