Thanks for all your advice!!Good luck to you too and best wishes
Well thank you hon. Well Italian is Latin so there you go...lol. I know how old it gets. I hope you and him get a chance to talk and can work on some of your issues. If not then I hope you move forward and meet the right one for you. Just take some time for yourself first. Good luck.
my man is italian..and ive been told to stay away from italian men because they are too possesive....but ofcourse i dont listen lol. ..and lol yea it sounds better when you say youve been in relationships with them....you Wh***! lol -im just kidding!! & they say when your pregnant you glow...i dont know if its true but I heard alot of men find their girl more beautiful when their prego. & i must say I can see from your pic your baby is so adorable!!! Anyway, Im so tired of giving into it my bf as well....its getting reallllllly old!!
Haha....are we with the same man? Don't take this the wrong way but is your man latin? I've found that a lot of latin men are this way. I've dated a lot of them...lol. That makes me sound bad but I've been in relationships with them...that's better sounding right? I do it as well just to avoid arguments but sometimes I'm just tired of giving in to him. Once we do then they keep doing it. Honestly, the only time he's been secure was when I was pregnant and right after. Probably, because I was huge.
lol i was going to write the same thing when I wrote back to you....that I should take my own advice...its easier said then done i guess
Anyways
My bf is the same way.."your not wearing that" I tell him why not because you know my butt looks nice in them haha. he gets mad too but tough sh*t. Sometimes im strong like that and tell him how it is and then other times i fall into his controlling ways. Thats the other thing, weve always gotten through our arguments...well not really...we let them go..and weve never really broke up..its always been a few hours or a day at most. Hes not very good at communicating and I always seem to let it go...until im at my breaking point then he's like okkk ill be different blah blah. & I really think we do need a break..its just a matter of doing it. which again is easier said than done...i think im going to try and talk to him tonight about it
I feel it's a matter of control for these guys. You see it all too often. I can admit my fiance has some control issues. The way I dressed, which was not bad at all. Look I'm half Puerto Rican, I have boobs and a$$. Can't help it. I used to ask, what do you want me wearing a potato sack, that's the only thing that would hide it. I deal with it but have developed the power to just say you like it or not, this is what I'm wearing. He storms away like a little kid. I think you have to do the same. The only difference here is another woman has sort of stepped into your relationship. The trust is not the same. Then the other guy kissing you has put more strain on the trust, but now it's on his end. One thing you are lucky for is you are both young and there are no children involved. I think it's really up to you to sit and think if you really want to continue with this relationship. Do you love him enough to work through the issues? If you do, then you and him need to communicate more effectively. I should be taking my own advice right?....lol. Do you think you both can take a break to see if this is what you want?
In the beginning it wasnt a problem him having girls who are friends...and I always stressed that to him but he said no he wasnt going to because he didnt want me to have any guy friends. Which I didnt have guy friends to begin with until he met that girl at work.....who he had her number through other guys at work...went to the bowling aisle with her and said I couldnt come...and came home with a picture of her in his phone. So now I dont like him to give out his number to girls. & the guy that kissed me I think knew I wasnt very happy with my bf at the time and took advantage. so you made very good points. My friend I was with at the time that it happened im no longer friends with her..he felt like she was a bad influence on me...so I ended that friendship out of love for him.. so I know how you feel about your fiance not liking your friend...I had a hard time with it...I felt like he was giving me an ultimatum..which he was and i felt horrible for ending that friendship but I love him more than anything...and I was only friends with her for about 1yr or 2 so I had many more yrs with him.
No, I don't want you to take offense to me asking if you were drinking. I just know that when we drink we lose inhibitions and that could lead to what happened. It's good that you are trying to control it. Look, I was young and did crazy stuff and perhaps like I said, the relationship has run it's course. As much as it hurts sometimes we have to move on.
As for the number and having guy friends. I know how you feel. The few guy friends I had I gave up for my fiance. I thought it was ridiculous at the time. I still think it is but we can't trust all men. Some men may try to get in that way. They become your friend, they are the ones you turn to for some advice and then the next thing you know, you are crying on their shoulder and they lean in for a kiss. I'm not saying this is what happens all the time but hey it does happen. How would you feel if he gave his number to some girls and told you they were just friends? Would you be ok with it? If you would then there is nothing wrong with it at all.
I appreciate your comment.
on the other hand....whats wrong with having guy friends? I gave my number to two guys who were strictly friends...they knew I had a bf and always spoke well about him to them.
& about the night the guy kissed me what does it matter if I was drinking or not. Yes im not perfect Ive made mistakes im in my 20s what do you expect. Im done drinking for now...until I can be more responsible with it. Is this all my fault?
Do you think perhaps it's time to move on? Maybe you are at the end of this relationship and you know it. Seems like you've had a lot of ups and downs which most relationships do go through but to me it sounds like you are done jumping through hoops for him. If you were happy with him, you would not give your number to other guys and you certainly wouldn't have kissed another guy. Just a quick question, the night the guy kissed you, were you drinking? I think you have been making a lot of mistakes with your drinking so maybe that night was the same.