Who here seen the movie, "He's Just Not That Into You"? I swear, that movie's perspectives & insights totally apply to the following situation. I'll be as brief as possible. What do you all think though, do those premises apply?
Ok, you know I met a man from Brussels on FB. He started contacting me ALOT but...I didn't do so much, I never told him my business, I was "brief" w/ him.
Then, we agreed to phone each other. I called him more now than he's called me. We had a sort-of mix-up where he didn't answer the phone upon agreement of 1 call yet, he called me back to apologize.
Yet, here's now, a week gone by & I have not heard from him. No e-mail, no calls, no FB wall posts. So, what should I do now? Like I stated in earlier posts....I swore off love/marriage, etc. but, I still would even like him as a friend.
See, maybe it's all timing. Maybe it's my upbringing. My folks told me no matter what, I should not contact a man. That standard applies literally to that movie I spoke about. They instructed me in old-fashioned values & strict morals so, maybe that's why I'm still inclined to follow those ways.
What do you all think? Do you think I should contact him or just wait, keep living & doing my own thing? See, I do like him a bit but, I'm not totally in-love or infatuated by him.
Is those rules in this book: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/He's_Just_Not_That_into_You & the movie then, applied IRL?
Are those kind of old-fashioned values appropriate & still instilled?
I feel kind of stupid b/c I want to contact him but, I just feel it'll look as desperation or literally "scratching" after his butt (to coin a phrase of a family member).
They (family) all SWEAR 3 rules to me ALL of the time:
1) Never, ever settle for someone just b/c you don't want to be alone.
2) Never scratch after someone, friend, man or anyone.
3) Leave men alone & see what happens. If someone is THAT into me, he'll find a way to contact me.
What do you all think? Bottom line, should I contact him or not? I only want to keep in touch w/ him b/c of our friendship & interests in common. Plus, he even suggested he visit me in Liverpool next month when I fly over to see a band but, he has not arranged anything nor put plans in stone as I normally do. So, I don't even know what to do about his flightiness....and contrary to what you're all thinking, I'm NOT looking for his love. I'm looking for a man where I FEEL the love more!
Cheers.