Trust

[Hannah7792]

How can I be more trustworthy? I've really never betrayed anyone's trust - never cheated, never lie(I physically can't.. I am terrible at making things up so I just don't do it). The only thing I do is that I'm sometimes late when meeting people. I always try not to make promises I can't keep. So why can't anyone trust me?

[specialmom]

I like visualization too.  Picture the kind of person you want to be at work.  If you want to be that person people always count on-----  picture it and think about what it takes to do that (always at your desk early, always happy to help, efficient when you do, work in on time, always busy and asking for more, etc.) or if you want to be a great cook, picture it, a good gardener, picture it, a good joke teller, picture it.  You get the idea.  If you see yourself successful in whatever way and think about what it would take to be that-----  you'll start doing it naturally.  (or at least the psychological gurus say so . . .)  Personally, I have to make lists to stay on top of it . . .  but I know what success means to me and go from there to accomplish it.  

You seem like such a nice person and I LOVE people that want to better themselves!  Good luck to you.

[mami1323]

That motivation needs to come from you.  You have to want something so bad you go after it.  Maybe take some motivational courses or read some books on how to become successful.

[Hannah7792]

Great advice! So another thing.
If I want to be more trustworthy be being productive and successful, how do I accomplish this? How do I get that motivation that screams success?

[Judy246]

sorry, I meant to say, "People that are insecure"

[Judy246]

I don't think it has anything to do with you. Please that are insecure, doubtful, untrusting behave this way, because of past experiences and have difficulty opening up for fear of getting hurt, so it has nothing to do with, but with them, so don't be too hard on yourself and don't be a people pleaser.

Strive to be a good person, productive and don't worry about what anyone thinks for you. Once people meet you and get to know you, trust will develop, but that takes contact and time.

[mami1323]

Haha mego & I think alike. We posted at the exact same time.

[mami1323]

Well than that has to do with him and his insecurities. There is no reason why you need to prove to him that you are trustworthy. Especially since you've never done anything to betray his trust. Those are his issues and he needs to deal with them on his own. He can't control your every move. He either trusts you or he doesn't.

[megochick101]

If it's only your bf who doesn't trust you, than he's the one with the problem, not you. If you haven't done anything to warrant him not trusting you then he probably has insecurity issues, or a gf wasn't trustworthy in the past. The only thing I would say to do about him trusting you is have a talk to him about it. Ask him why he feels he can't trust you, and explain to him how upset it makes you that he can't trust you, when you haven't done anything to deserve his mistrust.

[Hannah7792]

Well that's not the problem. They usually don't have a problem with that. It's more like my boyfriend thinks I'm going to cheat if I go anywhere without him.

[mami1323]

Because your late people can't trust you? That sounds odd. Maybe they don't trust you to make it some where on time. That's easy to fix stop being late.

[mami1323]

Because your late people can't trust you? That sounds odd. Maybe they don't trust you to make it some where on time. That's easy to fix stop being late.