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Trying to title this relationship. (continuation).

well this may not make much of a difference but i am 16 (: and thank you for thinkig that im important enough to take the time to comment back. (:..i have no interest in any sexual "behavior" so to say. i know where i stand with that. and im very good with balancing my studies. im going for valedictorian by graduation..and i know...hes my boyfriend..but i meant it in the sence that he is one of my best friends, has been...i just couldnt come to the conclusion to decipher my feelings to know when we should break up or not..he really likes me, and i dont want to hurt him by settling to be just friends even though i feel thats what weve become in this boyfriend/girlfriend relationship of ours...i want him to be there but...i dont want the pressures of being in a realationship..does that make sence? and if so...should i just tell him rigt now in my life..id prefer to be friends even if we hang out the same amount and still hug and what not?..i feel that any solution i come ot does not make any sence...and i dont feel like im being fair to him by dragging him back and forth with my "friends..boyfriend...friend" and whatever...whatever happens, id like to remain close with him. again, i just dont know if what i decide..this "arrangement" makes sence.

so does it make sence to stay just friends under those circumstances?,,when i still care about him...and love him...as the great friend he is. (im so used to tellig him that, as friends would that be a no-no)?...and i like to hang out with him ..kiss him on the cheek as well because thats what im so used to doing..im confused by what to tell him ..and what title to give us with those factors.
i just..dont know.
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You are one smart girl yes it is best to just stay friends as you have an education to get, and time for the boys later if one does not get a good education they can not get very far in this world, and it hiold the future its fine to have friends make it clear to him now before he trys to get serious   luck  jo
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1100763 tn?1264628498
Honesty is the best policy, in any relationship, it is best that you tell him how you feel. You are both still young and you have plenty of time for relationships.Now is the time to enjoy your youth and work hard at school to make your dreams come true.Let him know how much you care for him as a friend, but right now you just wont to have fun with no commitment to any one. I am sure if he cares about you, he would wont you to be happy.Good Luck.
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I feel that you love him and care about him, BUT you are not "in" love with him, which makes a huge difference. Tell him that at this point in time, although you care about him and will always be there for him, you do not want to be in a committed or exclusive relationship with anyone. Tell him that you are only 16 and would like to focus on school and just finding your way in life and do not wanted to be exclusive with anyone. He might not like your response, but the truth is there is really no way around this. Offer your love as a best friend, but you are just not ready to be exclusive with anyone at this point. Good luck...Judy
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684030 tn?1415612323
How about best friends?
It's more than friends; but not as serious as bf/gf.
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