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NG: Wow! You articulated that beautifully! And why are the men allowing the reference? Do they like the term "baby daddy"? It's so demeaning and it seems like they don't care. It's sad and frightening to watch this shift in mores and family relationships...I hope it doesn't become the majority lifestyle.
Well, at least your "baby daddy" is still around to get mad at as most baby daddies of the girls who post here have long left the situation or they are ready to leave the situation.
So girls, if yours is still sticking around and is even employed thank you lucky stars.
Whatever happened to phrases like "The father of my baby/child" or "My husband and I are expecting a baby" or "I am waiting until I am married before having children." ????? Just saying.
I am not really getting "mature" from any of these posts, but more the sense young people thinking they are grown and mature because they are having a baby as mature people are in committed, stable relationships without drama of course BEFORE considering having a baby.
So girls, if yours is still sticking around and is even employed thank you lucky stars.
Whatever happened to phrases like "The father of my baby/child" or "My husband and I are expecting a baby" or "I am waiting until I am married before having children." ????? Just saying.
I am not really getting "mature" from any of these posts, but more the sense young people thinking they are grown and mature because they are having a baby as mature people are in committed, stable relationships without drama of course BEFORE considering having a baby.
OMGolly, NurseGirl - finally someone else admits to cringing over the term "baby daddy". Me too!!, and for All The Same Well Stated Reasons You cite!!
I'm going to present another 'old fashioned' idea:
First comes love,
then comes marriage,
THEN comes baby in the baby carriage
Babies really like it when Mommys and Daddys are Living Together and in Committed Relationships with the MUTUAL goal to be a Family.
I'm going to present another 'old fashioned' idea:
First comes love,
then comes marriage,
THEN comes baby in the baby carriage
Babies really like it when Mommys and Daddys are Living Together and in Committed Relationships with the MUTUAL goal to be a Family.
I echo everything Nursegirl said. All of these depressing posts make me feel like this generation is beyond all help and there's nothing anyone can say or do to fix it.
"In Our Mind When We Become A Mother We Automatically Grow Up Over Night It Take They *** Until The Baby Get Here To Really Start Going Up."
Well, sadly, MANY "baby daddys" never grow up, and never step up to the plate. You're right that becoming a mother requires growing up pretty fast, which is why it's ideal to plan for a child after being in a secure committed relationship. It honestly breaks my heart to see SO many young girls giving themselves away so freely, without thinking of the life altering consequences, either for themselves, or for the innocent young child being brought into the situation.
Just the term "baby daddy" makes me cringe. It really changes the ideals of fatherhood, and has the underlying connotation that the "father" is basically just a child's father, rather than being a partner to the mother as well. It indicates such a disconnect, and I think overall the term is disrespectful to both fathers and mothers, not to mention the children.
I worry a lot for this younger generation. Parenthood just isn't taken seriously anymore, which has resulted in SO many VERY young women raising children alone, and with boys fathering multiple children with multiple women. That's just NOT a healthy environment for a child. Also, there's a trend of young women having babies, either to try to GET their man to commit, or because they seem to think having a baby will change/improve who they are at some point.
Anyways....my rant isn't directed to you, personally..I just had to get that off my chest, as the forum has just been FLOODED with "baby daddy" posts lately. ALL of which are frightening, with abuse, infidelity, mistreatment, and immaturity all around. New parents should not have that kind of drama going on when expecting their child. The dynamic has just completely changed. I sure hope things turn around at some point, but it looks to me like they're just getting worse.
Well, sadly, MANY "baby daddys" never grow up, and never step up to the plate. You're right that becoming a mother requires growing up pretty fast, which is why it's ideal to plan for a child after being in a secure committed relationship. It honestly breaks my heart to see SO many young girls giving themselves away so freely, without thinking of the life altering consequences, either for themselves, or for the innocent young child being brought into the situation.
Just the term "baby daddy" makes me cringe. It really changes the ideals of fatherhood, and has the underlying connotation that the "father" is basically just a child's father, rather than being a partner to the mother as well. It indicates such a disconnect, and I think overall the term is disrespectful to both fathers and mothers, not to mention the children.
I worry a lot for this younger generation. Parenthood just isn't taken seriously anymore, which has resulted in SO many VERY young women raising children alone, and with boys fathering multiple children with multiple women. That's just NOT a healthy environment for a child. Also, there's a trend of young women having babies, either to try to GET their man to commit, or because they seem to think having a baby will change/improve who they are at some point.
Anyways....my rant isn't directed to you, personally..I just had to get that off my chest, as the forum has just been FLOODED with "baby daddy" posts lately. ALL of which are frightening, with abuse, infidelity, mistreatment, and immaturity all around. New parents should not have that kind of drama going on when expecting their child. The dynamic has just completely changed. I sure hope things turn around at some point, but it looks to me like they're just getting worse.
In Our Mind When We Become A Mother We Automatically Grow Up Over Night It Take They *** Until The Baby Get Here To Really Start Going Up.
Lol mine is at work the rest of the day but he seriously makes me feel some type of way all the freaking time! I feel like he just needs to grow up and now that I'm pregnant or irritates me even MORE! he's 23 but acts like he's 18 or something....
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