Was I raped?

[Harambe_8]

Recently I had been talking to this guy that lives in the same building as me. The other night he and I were just hanging out in his room and things got a little heated. We ended up making out and at one point he asked me if I wanted to have sex. Being a virgin, I wasn't really wanting to go that far with someone that I wasn't in a relationship with. We ended up doing some other stuff, but I still wasn't really keen on having sex. At one point I had to take a phone call from my roommate. When I turned back around he had a condom in his hand. He said he was just using it as an extra precaution since he had been grinding on me. A little bit later I felt him go inside me, but I got scared and didn't say anything. I know that it was stupid of me and I was being naive, but I don't know if I should consider it rape since I didn't say anything at the time even though I had said no earlier. I understand that it is partially my fault for not saying anything at the time, but I just don't know what to think or do about it.

[AnnieBrooke]

It doesn't sound like rape because you were messing around, and in the situation where he had a condom on that you had seen, and you were not saying no or fighting him off.  You say "I felt him go inside me," do you mean the tip of his penis?  Because if you are a virgin it seems like you would use different language if his penis penetrated you fully.  If you were messing around and he had his penis out with a condom on, it wouldn't be surprising if the tip of his penis found his way to grind on you and tip slipped in, but it would be surprising if you didn't resist if it went all the way fully into your vagina.  I'd guess that it would probably be characterized as heavy petting with some contact, versus rape.  You do need to speak up, you know.