We always disagree

My bf and I have been together for a year and some.  Well we have a 7 month together and he has a 7 year old with someone else. We got in a fight cause I dont want his 7 year old boy sitting there while she is getting her diaper changed and he got mad.  HE DONT see nothing wrong with it and I do so please write back and tell me what you think am.  To me i think it is wrong because 7 year olds are geting to that stage where they are curious.  So please write and tell me what you think thank you for your time.

[pertykitty]

im a person that feels comfortable with the human body. my son is almost 9 and if he has to ask a question while im in the shower (i prefer he doesnt come in dont get me wrong) i dont freak. he doesnt stare because he knows what the female (well moms and it inst perfect lol) body looks like. if it really bothers you change your baby in the babies room. i mean if you do it in the living room where everyone is, you are being inconsiderate to make others leave. i can see maybe it has to do with the fact he is not your child. i can get that. im sure he is curious. maybe others will disagree with me, but i think when you hide it and make it seem "dirty" it will send the kids the wrong idea. by the way, you would be surprised what kids his age hear and learn from school. my son has said a few things that made me think more detailed discussions on sex and the body are due very soon. however you feel how you feel and i suppose you and your boyfriend should talk about this. you both need to respect each others feelings, but seriously , how do you think you can keep it hidden forever? with summer here and water fun, and the fact that kids take their diapers off at random times lol. i had a talk with my son about my new baby and how i will breastfeed. i wont run and hide, and i really dont mind if he wants to see how its done. he wont sit and stare and oogle it, he will probably look, then be done with it.

[barn babe]

It's fine. There's nothing shameful about a naked baby's body. If your son looks and has questions, just answer them in an age-appropriate manner. Hell, maybe you can teach him to change the damn diaper.

I'd be curious why you think it's "wrong" for your 7-year-old to see the baby naked (or half-naked, whatever it is when you do a diaper change).

[Trialanderror]

If you feel uncomfortable, go with your feelings. Diaper changes are supposed to be somewhat pleasant and playful and if they currently feel awkward to you, your baby will sense it the same way. I believe that even infants deserve some privacy. It is one thing if family members see each other naked now and then but diaper changes with all the involved cleaning expose more than anyone but the caretaker needs to see. If the seven-year-old wants to see how this is done, I would show him once but if he seems obsessed with it, I would draw a clear line and let him stay in the background.

[jenstam]

Just testing...I am trying to reopen this post to read the new comments and nothing under comment four will show up for me. Grr...

[anxiousmomtobe?]

Absolutely nothing wrong with a 7 year old being present for a diaper change, i find your concern puzzling.  If you make a big deal out of this, you are sending a message to this little boy that he is bad and untrustworthy.  That will only lead to more problems.  

[anxiousmomtobe?]

Absolutely nothing wrong with a 7 year old being present for a diaper change, i find your concern puzzling.  If you make a big deal out of this, you are sending a message to this little boy that he is bad and untrustworthy.  That will only lead to more problems.  

[jenstam]

Would it be different if this was your own 7 year old boy? I have to wonder what it is that you are afraid he will see? It's a little girl. He may be curious and it's normal and natural that he is curious. I have to also wonder why you even are thinking that way. Was there something that happened in your past to make you think along those lines? I don't think there is anything wrong with even some curiousity, unless you see him do things that are inappropriate. Nudity is not wrong and neither is curiosity.

[melissa3282]

thank you guys for all your comments i'll take them and figure out what im going to do about it