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What am I so worried about?!?
I am 31 and have an 11 yo son. I have been single all my life with the exception of a boyfriend here or there. I finally found Mr. Perfect, Mr Wonderful, my mental mold of perfection in life form..... Only we havent been dating very long and I already think I may be pregnant. My cycle is 3-6 days late. He already knows that I'm concerned, and he's really scared. I am trying to remain calm for him. He said if I'm not worried then he won't be either. I don't want to go get bloodwork because I have had this scare before, and they were always false alarms. I have really mixed feelings about this because on one side I would be very happy, and on the other side, I know how disappointed he will be, not because he doesn't love me, but because he has personal goals he wants to accomplish before bringing any children to life. My fear is also the disappointment his family will have for him in not being married first, and the resentment they may have for me being the woman that dangled temptation in his face (no pun intended). Also the disappointment my mother will have for me having already gone through this once, now seemingly repeating the same mistake. Also explaining things to my son. I am not sure how I should feel, maybe I am just over reacting and the next time I use the bathroom I will see there's nothing to more to worry about.
You state that he doesn't want kids right now because he wants to accomplish his goals first. My question is where does your 11 year old son fit into his goals?
You didn't state how long you guys have been dating. I guess my advice to you is the same I give to 14 year old girls. Protect yourself so things like this don't happen.
Stop stressing yourself out and just wait the month out and see if your period comes, if it doesn't then take a home preg test from dollar general. That is pretty much all you can do right now. Seems like you are more worried about your boyfriend then you are about yourself? I am about your age, I'm 29. I have two kids and have been married for 6 and half years. Our first daughter was a surprise and I got pregnant 3 months after we got married. It was hard and it took alot of effort on our part because we were just starting to get use to being married, then we added a child on top of it. It worked itself out though.
You didn't state how long you guys have been dating. I guess my advice to you is the same I give to 14 year old girls. Protect yourself so things like this don't happen.
Stop stressing yourself out and just wait the month out and see if your period comes, if it doesn't then take a home preg test from dollar general. That is pretty much all you can do right now. Seems like you are more worried about your boyfriend then you are about yourself? I am about your age, I'm 29. I have two kids and have been married for 6 and half years. Our first daughter was a surprise and I got pregnant 3 months after we got married. It was hard and it took alot of effort on our part because we were just starting to get use to being married, then we added a child on top of it. It worked itself out though.
Prayers your fears are unfounded and you find out you're not pregnant.
Best wishes.
Best wishes.
stress can cause it to be late also. im not experienced in this at all but i myself have 2 kids from two different fathers and i am not married but i am with my youngest babys father. unplanned pregnancys do a toll to relationship but i was really young when i had my first so i really cant say to much on that.
i no that your parents aporval is always good but who cares what they think, when you were younger did you always listen, we do things to disappoint them but no matter what they will always loves us. why we are there children.
about you might being pregnant there is one way to find out and that is to test it. maybe it will come up negitive and things will be okay or maybe it will be poistive and who nos maybe still everything will be alright. he seems to be a good man from what you say, you said it hasnt been that long that youve been together but who nos maybe this will bring you closer.
my bf had goals and plans for his futher he new i had a daughter when we first got together and he excepted her with no questions asked. we had a planned pregnancy because it would be my last baby. he put everthing aside to give me what i wanted. he works at a furture store and put aside hes dreams for this family. my daughter calls him dad and my son well he cant even talk yet.
not all goals and dreams cant be done later in life or even durning that time the kids grow. dont feel bad about it. if he cares about you he will mangage a way to work with what he believes is his goals.
Do you feel guilty that you might be pregnant and he cant do what he want. if you do i feel for you im in that same boat.
im sorry that i dont have more advice to give ive never been married and im still pretty young. but when theres a will theres always a way and i no that you will make it threw this its hard but you have a 11 yr old im sure he keeps you on track. best wishes and if you are pregnant congrats.
ksanden
i no that your parents aporval is always good but who cares what they think, when you were younger did you always listen, we do things to disappoint them but no matter what they will always loves us. why we are there children.
about you might being pregnant there is one way to find out and that is to test it. maybe it will come up negitive and things will be okay or maybe it will be poistive and who nos maybe still everything will be alright. he seems to be a good man from what you say, you said it hasnt been that long that youve been together but who nos maybe this will bring you closer.
my bf had goals and plans for his futher he new i had a daughter when we first got together and he excepted her with no questions asked. we had a planned pregnancy because it would be my last baby. he put everthing aside to give me what i wanted. he works at a furture store and put aside hes dreams for this family. my daughter calls him dad and my son well he cant even talk yet.
not all goals and dreams cant be done later in life or even durning that time the kids grow. dont feel bad about it. if he cares about you he will mangage a way to work with what he believes is his goals.
Do you feel guilty that you might be pregnant and he cant do what he want. if you do i feel for you im in that same boat.
im sorry that i dont have more advice to give ive never been married and im still pretty young. but when theres a will theres always a way and i no that you will make it threw this its hard but you have a 11 yr old im sure he keeps you on track. best wishes and if you are pregnant congrats.
ksanden
i think you should take a home pregnancy test and see if there is any room to worry. if you are pregnant there are options. there is always adoption or termination(though i would not choose this route). i just don't want you to feel like an unexpected pregnancy has to be the end of your lives. i'm sure you know all of that. my point is just take the test at home, see if you even need to worry any further. at this far past your expected start, a home test would be accurate.
good luck and i hope you get the sign you want on the test :)
good luck and i hope you get the sign you want on the test :)
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