What is she doing

[teddybear552]

I have a girlfriend and we have been dating for two years. We have had sex. I am 31 and she is 36 and we are both divorced.  What I don't understand is she teases me a lot. She will come over to my house kiss me and rub my penis and sometimes even stroke the penis and get me really sexually excited, then she will just get up and leave. She does this a lot.  Now I get really sexually frustrated and then I have to go masturbate to relieve the tension. I brought this up to her today and she says I don't understand her and she got mad.  As you can tell I don't understand this.  Can some  of the women out there please help me understand this?

[AnxiousGurl]

It might not be that at all !!You cant assume that. and your NOT stupid.. Have you actually talked to her about it. I know when my bf calls me a tease I want to just give it to him. lol...so Im not a disappointment anymore. Sit her down and tell her its not cool..
I would give her the cold shoulder about it....as Jasmine said push her hand away....see how she likes it

[teddybear552]

Jasmine,

Thanks.  We have had sex plenty of times.  I will have to try that. The thing is, is that I tell her all the time that she is beautiful, and sexy and then I tell her that I want to make love to her and it seems like it makes it worse. When she does this and then leaves it makes me want to call up, one of my ex girlfriends and see if they want to satisfy the feeling.  I love her so much, but when she does this, its not funny.  We haven't had sex in  a while and about to give up her her.  I think Danieltroy might be right. Maybe she has a guy on the side just for sex and I am there giving her the love and support that she needs. I'M SO STUPID

[Jasmine205]

Yep, c0cktease! It's all purposefully done to get you going and then make you want it.
Next time just move her hand away, if you don't like the little games she's playing on you, you do know you have control in that situation as much as she does, right?

[Danieltroy]

She just wants to know if she's still got it.  Its the age thing. Let her know you are a man with needs. If anything its not you its her.  Make those special nights romantic, candles,dim the lights,music set the tone. But don't make it to obvious. Sometimes you just cant BLAM sex baby. Make her feel sexy, compliment her if you don't usually. But set the tone.

[teddybear552]

Jo,

I did that once. I forgot about that.  Oh ya when I did it, it was hilarious.  Thanks for the reminder.  I will let you know how it goes. For right now I just told her that we can't have sex and that will make things better for me, she didn't sound to happy but thats the way its got to be. I hate being in a relationship where all somebody does is tease you and you they think its funny.  Its like teasing a dog.  If you keep teasing the dog it your going to get your hand bit off.

[teddybear552]

Sorry no I m not a female. I will have to change that.  Thanks

[jo929]

Try some of the same with her and then tell her You forgot, but you have a pryor appointment  luck  jo

[treazzure007]

oh, please.  if i had a dime for everytime my husband complained about this ****.  i rub him b/c i feel like it.  i'll kiss and feel him up b/c i feel like it.  that doesn't mean it's time for sex.  i agree.  she's just teasing and playing around.  don't take it personally  :)

[AnxiousGurl]

It makes her feel good, RockRose is right

[RockRose]

Yes.  There is a word for that,  and it involves "tease".  The rest of the word will probably be bleeped out.

Women get this.  It's about power and manipulation.

If you want to live like this,  continue your relationship.  It's certainly your choice.