I don't think there is anything to be mad about.
Anyway he can go to your house? The lady may feel like he is a guest, at least that is how I am. My house, but always feel like I must cook and clean, even if they do pay half the rent.
My mom (Spanish) is like that....actually all of my sibilings are. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, NO matter who is there at the time.
Have a "discussion" with her about your concerns in a manner that is friendly, approachable and just concern and see what she has to say. This conversation does not have to get ugly or confrontational, just talk as if your asking for advice. Don't make her an enemy unless she has good reason to do so ok...good luck
Thanks everyone, I know its not really a big deal, but I just thought it was weird because she cooked for her family then also cooked for him. It doesn't bother me if she invites him to eat with them what she was already cooking, but its different for her to cook specifically for him. He does have a job and pays half the bills, and I know she wouldn't have cooked for him like that if her husband would have been home. I really just feel like she's trying to make me look bad- not just that but how her husband talks to me also like I'm a bad gf because I don't spend much time there but it is hard because he is in bed when I get out of work and he gets his kids every other weekend. I really feel better about it now, and I think I will say something to her- not confrontational because my bf might get mad but I think I'll just mention in front of her husband how good her chicken was and ask for the recipe I think that will solve the problem- is that a bad idea?
I do understand why you're upset - this guy is your boyfriend, and it doesn't feel right for any other woman to do anything that seems like she's looking after him.
But from what you say, I really doubt she meant anything by it, I don't think anyone has done anything inappropriate here. The only thing is that your boyfriend might have realised that you'd be sensitive about it, and so (unwisely, but with good intention) lied to you about there being some chicken left over for you.
Honestly, if a friend of mine was staying at my house (whether short or long-term), I'd be very surprised if my wife didn't cook for him from time to time, whether I was there or not.
I have lived with a family before and they ALWAYS included my food in with the meals and I would help clean up. My feelings would have extremely hurt if it were any other way, and I'm willing to bet the woman is just being polite. She has kids so she's probably just used to doing things like that anyway.
The others are 100% spot on about your boyfriend getting a place of his own. Is that in the near future?
If this continues to be a problem, you could always show your boyfriend how to cook for himself.
ok so why are you upset? i'm confused about that. are you mad she cooks and he eats what she cooks? or that she cooks the food that you buy?
mami is right it would be best for everyone if he found his own place. i can honestly say as wife if one of my husbands friends was staying with us i would include him in the family dinners. i'm the type of person to not cook for everyone. even if they're here for 5 minutes and it's at supper time i will ask if they want to stay.
Honestly, it's an uncomfortable situation for all. It is her house and really you can't say much to her. I would simply insist that your bf find a place of his own and then you won't have to worry about these kind of things. I think the wife feels like it is her house, her territory and basically marking it.
It's always a bad ideal for people to live with families that are not family nor his own home. Does your b/f have a job? I'm Hispanic, so I know where your coming from. I would go right up to both of them and simply ask what happened to the chicken and ask him why wasn't a piece saved for me as you would normall do? That way it won't make you crazy thinking about it and get some answers. Go up to her and ask her personally (do it in a civil way also), so she is aware that you are aware of anything that is out of the norm. Also, rember that it is their house and he is simply a guest. She has a household, husband and kids to take care of and that a 24/7 job. Good luck
I also should add that when I go to their house they eat beans and rice or yesterday when I got there she had cooked some spaghetti noodles and dumped a jar of sauce in it, no meat or nothing. They eat hot dogs and stuff like that, I have never seen her take the time to cook a meal like how I always used to cook him and still do on my days off but she makes the effort to bone his chicken bread it and fry it- she doesn't even cook like that for her husband why does she do it for my boyfriend? I can see being nice and he said she was showing him how to do it not diong it for him, but there have been other things like this that have happened too.